Can a lady of 21years go into marriage with a man of 49years in age?

Question

What do you think about it, if you where to be the lady or the man will you go on to wed the other partner?

Answer 1

I've never believed age should be a deterrent to two people falling in love and ultimately entering a committed relationship, including marriage. However, there are issues to consider regarding the long term viability of age divided marriages such as children and health. Obviously a man or woman who is 25 or more years older than their spouse will most likely experience health issues long before their partner and not these are unexpected but they are issues to both be aware of and in acceptance of. The issue of children is in my opinion the larger one with respect to lifestyle. While both may love children I think it's only fair to admit that the single largest attraction between two people of such age differences is in fact due to their preferences of being in love with someone older or younger. The younger being attracted to older for maturity, stability and experience reasons and the older being attracted to younger for vitality, youth and invigorating physical contact. In either case I think these kinds of mutual attractions are based in majority on a more adventurous and independent lifestyle where children would be less conducive to that. That doesn't mean those two people don't love children or would be less than admirable in parenting but I do believe it would change the original ideas each had when entering into the relationship with respect to the future they each had envisioned in the beginning.

Answer 2

I know of such a situation the couple were happily married for a long time. Then the young wife said one day she woke up and realized she was married to an OLD MAN. Personally I would have thought that from the very begining, but each to their own. By the way she left him ALL alone in his old age to die alone now and the family of the OLD man, the ladies in-laws say it was the woman who lost her mind. My personal opinion is that if an 49 year old marries a 21 yr old he's a womanizer. There are plenty of good woman his age, looking for love. WHo will grow old with him and won't wake up one morning and say disgusting I'm outta here.

Answer 3

If you double your age and he is STILL older than that, then I feel he's too old. It's a vast difference in age and that gap WILL be felt absolutely!! But this is just my opinion....however, I am a minister and I would strongly recommend counselling prior to any marriage to see if the difference would be an obstacle. Can she go into a marriage with him? sure she can....will she be happy for the rest of his life ('cause let's face it, she will out live him) probably won't be. A marriage should never be entered into lightly.

Answer 4

I think you should not base it on age! If you are in love with some one, then you should do what your heart wants. Not what every one else wants!!!! Alot of people look at age and says he is too old for her, or the other way around. Well, I'm sorry age is just a number. I don't care if you are 21 and he is 49 or if it is 19 and he is 34! That should not matter...............

Answer 5

Yes, they CAN. In my opinon such an age difference is a bit odd. But once you are older than 18 or so, age doesn't seem to matter as much because it isn't illegal or anything. Love is blind, it sees no race, colour, religion, or AGE. If you love the person and truly want to be with them for the rest of your life, then go for it.

Answer 6

IF they are in love and can both overcome the age difference, than yes.Its worth a shot.True love does not have an age(however, it NEEDS to be legal>>>which in your case, it is) frame.Give it a try.If the relationship seems to be working before marriage, than give it your all.But when you do, be sure that when you say your vows, you stick with them.

Answer 7

age isn't the important thing, it's where they are in their life,
you will be 41 when he is 69, are you ready for that, and when he is 75 or so if he makes it that long and dies, you will be 45 and single looking for a new mate, that's the kinds of things I worry about with the age difference, leaving my wife at 40 or 50 years looking for a mate for her golden years. it's tough for women of that age to find spouses. but if there is enuf love there, you may not want anyone, the love you have in your heart will carry you to the end of your life.

Answer 8

Rather strange, but of course it's allowed by law.

So if both think it's OK, nobody can stop them.

My opinion: The girl should wait two years or so before marrying him - just to be really sure about everything. Living together before makes sense!

Answer 9

Yes! Love has no boundaries. My husband is 23 years older than me. WE have a great relationship and I have been with him for 6 1/2 years. If someone loves someones it shouldnt matter how old they are. Go for it!

Answer 10

If you love him do what you want. I am 29 and my husband is 42 and we have a terrific marriage! I met him when I was 21 and he was 34 and age was NEVER an issue;)