How do i cope with this girl?

Question

theres this really confident girl at my school and she teases me to death she really dose my heading, she spreads rumors, calls me stupid just because i haven't got any confidence in my self she hangs around with my usual friends and makes me feel really stupid in front of them so they laugh at me. I can tell by looking at her eyes that she thinks i'm really stupid but i know i'm not and i can do most things better then her she's really fat and has a thousand spots on her face but she thinks she's like the best kid in her school

Answer 1

kick her ***

Answer 2

She is basically jealous of you. As you say, you can do most things better than her, you have the friends and she is fat and spotty. Maybe she spotted that you have little confidence and uses that to make herself feel better. You either have to completely ignore her, like she is invisible, or get some false confidence, fast. When she makes a joke all your friends laugh at, laugh with them, tell her "that's a good one" and feel free to make comments back to her. This way can get out of hand though. Another way is when she makes a comment that is obviously nasty in front of people, you challenge her in a friendly voice with something like "I really feel for you, you must be so insecure to always be putting other people down, but you don't have to do it for me, I accept you for who you are".

You know yourself best, whatever you can imagine yourself doing is the best way for you to handle it, I speak from my own experience in a very bitchy girls school where I had loads of this (years later found out the girl was really jealous of me) and also my 8 year old daughter who went through this last year. One thing is for sure, as soon as these bullies couldn't get a reaction out of us, they lost interest in making the stupid comments, so even if what she says kills inside, laugh along with her and your friends, and DO NOT let her see she is hurting you. She may not stop immediately, but she will stop. I wish you good luck with this.

Answer 3

She's not teasing you because she thinks she's better. She doing it because she knows you're better. It sounds like she's insecure and has found you as an easy target to boost her own confidence.

it's great to hear that you haven't fallen for her accusations, and can see your good qualities. I know kids can be SO cruel to each other and I'm really sorry you have be the victim. I'm sure if you talk to your teachers, they can maybe talk to the girl and try to make her understand that what she's doing is not OK.

Also, make sure your parents know what's going on and how you feel. In general, talk to people who have authority and are able to do something about the issue.

Also, take a good look in the mirror and remind yourself that you're not what she tries to tell you you are, but that you are talented, smart, and most of all wise and mature enough not to play her games. When she does confront you, I think it's best to walk away and pretend she doesn't exist if this is possible. In a few years time (and believe me, time goes FAST) you'll be in uni, and you'll never need to see her ever again.

If your friends follow her lead and laugh at you, then they're not very good friends, sorry to say.

One more thing - if you can't avoid her and really do have to confront her, then I'd do it like this: I'd ask her what it really is she's accusing you of, and then take a very cool, practical approach to what she's saying.

If she says you're ugly, for example, tell her that it's her opinion, and thet you have your opinions about her as well but you're smart enough not to yell them outloud. If she says you're stupid, ask her to prove this. Compare grades or other results and by using facts show that her argument is not true. If she is better than you in something, tell her you're happy for her and see how she's going to be left all puzzled and at loss of words. Kindness is often the best weapon.

Remember - she's doing this to you because she has issues with herself. Not because there's something wrong with you.

Good luck!!!
RachelK

Answer 4

Pretty Girl, You are going through something that most kids go through. You don't need to cope. Ignore her. She knows that you are not stupid and that the rumors are not true and others will too. She is trying to make herself feel better by knocking you down and she is jealous. Don't let her do it. It's a mind game that she is playing. Move on to better friends, be kind, and act confident. Soon you will be. People eventually see through a person like her. I'm betting on you!!!!

Answer 5

People who do this to others are seeking to make themselves look better at the expense of others. Why do you think someone would need to do that?..... Yes, she is so insecure that she can only feel better by making someone else feel worse. Remeber that next time she does something humiliating to you. She's a loser. It's sad that she needs to do that, SHE is the sad one with no real confidence. Xxx

Answer 6

Bullying is zero tolerance. Have you confronted her face to face one on one? Bullys become scared when they dont have their little possy to egg them on.

See her one on one and give her a piece of your mind she knows ur not stupid she's just jealous of you. Don't worry about what her so called friends think they are just as much cowards as her. It doesn't matter once youve tackled the ring leader all the others will shy away and show their true colours

And Mrs popular will be no more..

Go girl!!

Answer 7

Next time she starts give back as good as you get girl!!! I know your ars* will be nipping but I have a feeling she does this because you let her so when you do get stuck into her she will shi* herself back down, probly with a bit lip as she walks away but watch how many follow her like the sheeps that they are!! Be a leader not a follower!! I bet this girl is fu*k all just a bit of shi* with a big mouth!

Answer 8

The best way is too take no notice of her. She has treated you in a cruel manner so she does not at this time does not deserve your respect. Maybe in time you will discover the reason of why she has treated you like this. She does not sound like any friend to me. Maybe she treats you like this because she is jealous the only way of finding out is asking her.

Answer 9

people like that you should feel sorry for because the only reason they do those things is to try and make themselves look better. You should be confident and proud of yourself and ignore people like her.

Answer 10

seems to me she is making you feel bad about yourself to make herself feel better. She has abslutely no self confidence in my opinion. Confident people don't have the need to make others feel bad to make themselves feel better. And have you ever heard the saying " Kill them with kindness". No matter how mean she is to you be nice to her it will make her crazy and eventually she will figure out she can't get to you and leave you alone.

Answer 11

Ignore her. If your friends are your friends they will not do that.

Get new friends or just leave them alone. Be alone and yet strong. Needing friends is a weakness. It takes a stronger person to not need "friends". A real friend will be loyal to you and don't laugh at you.