SERIOUS Q- im 23 Homeless end of the month dnt know where 2 start from, Mother has kicked me out im an british

Question

im british indian my dads in the U.S i could go up there but the thing is he's living in a apartment with his mom and dad 2 bedroom. I would feel like im in the way.I have been with my Girlfriend for 6yrs.She wants me to go to U.S , save some cash and come back to buy house here in England. I would also take up U.S citizen by that time. I don't know where to start from my life. TRY TO UNDERSTAND??????????????????????????????????????????????????////

Answer 1

I think you should join the military.

Answer 2

It's all very well saying what you would like to do in the future but your main problem at the moment is obviously finding somewhere new to live, if your a british citizen already then you need to save up here whilst working so that you can prove to the authorities in the states that you are capable of supporting yourself,not the other way round,why do you want US citizenship if you intend to come back to england to buy a house?you really need to sit down and decide exactly what you do want and where,it sounds like you are trying to run away from your problems here? if your mother is throwing you out don't you think you should be examining the reasons why? is it because your full of dreams of travel etc when in fact you can't even pay your own way here, get a grip on your life and sort out your priorities first then when your settled and in work and paying your way ,plan for the future,NOT the other way round

Answer 3

1. change you online name, it is a sign of an overblown and (given your situation) an unearned ego. Ego will destroy your aspirations. Get rid of your ego.
2. get a job. lower you sights, start from the bottom if you have to, but do that job better than anyone else and move up.
3. get real. look at your life how it is, warts and all. then think of how you can realistically make each part of it better, then do so.
4.once you are on the move, do a full life audit. reject the waste and improve the good.
5.set realistic short term targets and stick to them.


Good luck in moving out into the big wide world and becoming self sufficient. It IS hard and it IS scary. but it IS also doable and you have so much more assured self esteem when you earn it.

Answer 4

At 23 you SHOULD be on your own and taking care of yourself without mom HAVING to "kick" you out! Where is your self respect and initiative? If you don't have a job then GET ONE, rent a room/couch from a friend or pitch a tent - DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF. First things first -- get these things taken care of then decide what to do for your future. Right now it looks like your future planning hasn't gotten any further than what you expect someone else to provide you! Time for you to be an adult and I think that is what your mom is trying to tell you. I'm a mom of an independent and employed 23 year old that I am very proud of. Do something to make your mom proud, too.

Answer 5

I'd go to the U.S and move in with your dad, look around as soon as you get there for help with housing and of course get a job. Get citizen ship and bring your girlfriend If she wanted to, but by then who know what has happened.You probably would do good for your self here in the U.S.

Answer 6

Well, you have a few options, but what would make more sense is stay where you are, find a job, and save money there. And then buy a small appartment or house, and move on... Why don't you move in with your girlfriend if you have been together for so long?

Answer 7

Try your local council, your mum may need to write a letter actually with a declarition that she is officially throughing you out by so - and so date. Otherwise there is the homeless charity called shelter, check your local yellow pages for more information. The council should know about shelters for the homeless.

Answer 8

Not much help this will be but you need to do what is in your heart. Are you willing to leave your girlfriend for such a long amount of time? Does you Dad even want you to come live with him? Why don't you and your girlfirend live together?

Answer 9

Get a live in job at a pub. See what goes on there and you will soon get your act together. Or become very rich. I did. It's the best place to reflect on your life

Answer 10

Even though you don't want to impose on your father being homeless is no fun and Im sure he would want you to turn to him if you had no one else to turn to. I would focus on an immediate place to stay first and worry about saving money and buying a house later.

Answer 11

you should of had ur own home instead of being mommys little boy,get out there and proof ur a man dont rely on anyone else do it urself.iwas on the streets of london for 6 month,i got my self repect back got out of london and got a job.now i have hols abroad and am married and own my house,.no not easy but you can do it just aim for what u want and go get it. good luck.