after 6 years of being together he hasnt really done much for himself or me or the kids all he wants to do is hang out w/his friends and never w/ me and his excuse is that he has to work i make my time for him, and when ever we do go out he just not into it i told him if he doesnt change i'm leaving and then he promises alot but i'm kinda getting mad at the whole situation hey i'll be single soon kukivera@yahoo.com
2006-06-25 04:42:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm the one who pays for the rent and half of the bills!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-25 12:24:04 · update #1
Watch Britney's Spears eyes, see if you can find happiness in them, even a bit. That's you. Lose him, now. Do you want to live a sad, dapressed life and have that kind of example for your kids? Remember they learn by watching.
2006-06-25 05:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by ashley j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many marriages sometimes go that way. You're asking the public if you should divorce. It sounds like you've almost made up your mind to do it. The questions should be to yourself: Do I want to start over alone; and, how can I do it. If he's not into the marriage now, he likely won't change to be who you want him to be. If he doesn't become closer to you, you will waste more time in your valuable life waiting for it.
2006-06-25 11:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by SunDancer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a marriage counselor first! There is a deep rooted problem that needs to be faced. Just because he doesn't do what you want him to do, when you want him to do it, is not grounds for divorce. You made a commitment (a contract) when you took your wedding vows. Do you break all your contracts if they don't go your way?
Maybe you have the deep rooted problem. Seek professional counsel. After all, you have children with this man, what will this do to them?
2006-06-25 11:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you have already made up your mind, But keep this in mind: Your threats just may backfire and blow up in your face.--then you will be sorry.
You said that he hasn't really done much for you the kids or himself, apparently he has kept a roof over your head, food on your table, and clothes on your back--I say that that is a whole lot.
2006-06-25 18:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes leaving for them to realize what they've got. Maybe if you leave for awhile, he'll miss you enough to try harder. I'd pack up and leave, if he thinks your serious about leaving, he'll probably ask you to come back. If he doesn't ask you to come back and really change this time, who needs him anyway.
2006-06-25 11:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by frosty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's not bein a good husband to u or the kids obviously, and thats not what u need. if he duznt change or you're fed up w/this, then yah divorce him. isnt it better than livin miserably?
2006-06-25 11:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by hott dria chikk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's something wrong with him. better try to talk witn him again about it and tell him that on what he promised, still nothing changed and you're not happy anymore.
2006-06-25 11:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by babypards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not let him weigh you down..you said it yourself that he has done nothing....so him being apologetic will not change him...its just going to be a crazy cycle..get out while you still can....
2006-06-25 11:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by mz.Tiza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sure it's him and not you nagging him to death, divorce him. Try marriage counseling first. If he won't go, divorce him.
2006-06-25 11:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u better divorce and set urself free,if ur sure that he has problem
2006-06-25 11:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by sara s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋