My ex wants to see his kids he lives 3 states away and dont understand,,how can i tell him no?

Answer 1

Get an attorney. You need legal advice, not the advice of a bunch of Bozos on Yahoo Answers.

Answer 2

You cannot keep him away from the kids unless there is an order doing so. It doesn't matter where he lives, it's never too far. How old are the kids? Old enough to know what's going on? Does he talk to the kids on the phone? Send them cards, letters, money, presents? If this is a guy though who hasn't had anything to do with his kids and then suddenly wants to be a father again, I'd be very cautious for the kids sake. Allow him to come for a visit with you being present in a neutral PUBLIC location. I wouldn't allow them to go visit him unless he has always been a great dad and is an honest person, but it doesn't sound like there is a good relationship here as it is. So unless he's a bad guy, tell him to come visit the kids under YOUR rules.

Answer 3

I don't know what kind of problem make you guys be separeted but I think that you both have to sit down and talk about this; the kids are from you both and I think that he have the right to see them.
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Answer 4

You should let him see his kids despite his long distance away. Set up a date with him and split the cost of transportation. You shouldn't deny someone the rights to see their kids unless they are abusive, if your ex loves his kids he has the right to see them.

Answer 5

Tell him he can come get them because it was his choice to move three states away from his children, or you could meet him half way because you children do need to see their father. Your kids will see this conflict between you two. It isn't their fault you two are divorced but they're having to pay the price.

Answer 6

why wouldn't you want to tell him no? just because of the distance? that's wrong - both to your children - your ex and actually it's illegal too. I am sure if it was someone you WANTED to visit or a place (ie Disneyland or some sort) you would make sure you and kids could go. Make the effort - he wants to see his kids - they are his too and deserve a chance to know their dad. I pray your heart softens.

Answer 7

My son flew from Nebraska to Arizona every summer to see dad(his dad paid for the round trip ticket and sent them to me next day air). As long as he's paying his child support and it's ordered through the court that he gets visitation I don't think you can do anything about it. Talk to your lawyer and he can give you more information on your states laws. You don't want a contempt of court case filed against you!

Answer 8

Just tell him he lives to far away.. or maybe you can set up an arangement for him to come where you live sometime and see them for a weekend or so.. And you go where he is with the kids for a weekend..

Answer 9

he's gotta a right to see his kids...the kids need to see their dad! get some legal advice and make it happen for the children. you don't have to like the ex, but the kids probably do!

Answer 10

Why tell him no? Let him travel the distance to see them. Or as someone else has said, get a court order to stop him before he gets one on you. Unless there is a court order saying otherwise, you're not obligated to make the trip.