What would you do?

Question

My husband works in Iraq as a contractor. One of the employees (MWR coordinator) is a yoga instructor and she set up a few classes. She recently told my husband that she'd be happy to "help him with some of his poses after class" and winked at him. He told her no, that he was married and that it was inappropriate...then he told me what she'd done. I think he thought it was funny, but I'm really mad. I know that he'd never cheat on me, but it really makes me mad that she'd do that, knowing he is married and clearly violating the ethics of both their work and her position as a yoga instructor. She hasn't made anymore suggestions since that.
My question is...should I say something to her or just let it be? I know her email address and the phone number to where she works.

Yes, I know he handled it...but strangely what upsets me most is that she'd use Yoga to do this. I love yoga and I thinking of becoming an instructor myself. I feel that by her doing this, she's totally abusing the whole concept of yoga and teaching it.

mes. you have been reported again. stalking is pathetic. grow up.

Answer 1

If she does it again, report her. She is violating the ethics of Yoga teaching. And ignore lonely retards like Mesper. He's just mad and lonely...with a tiny little peepee! LOL!!

Answer 2

Your husband is away, for a long time, and in a high stress (combat) area. I know, my bf was in the Golan Heights for 6 mos with the military. Somehow, some people over there seem to think that the rules don't apply over there - that it's like another world where you're no longer married or have ethics.

I would thank hubby for telling me! He is being honest with you (my bf wasn't). But he has already told her to back off, and there's not much more he can do. Perhaps he should stop taking Yoga, or report this person's misconduct to her boss. It is sexual harassement, after all - but your guy probably doesn't want to look like a crybaby by ratting her out. (Men are silly that way.)

I'd just try to laugh along with your husband - and be greatful he told you about it. From experience - if he's telling you about it, he probably ain't doing it (or her!)

Good luck - absentee husbands are SUCH a worry. I know!

Answer 3

I think your husband was flattered by the comment, so I wouldn't be too upset with him, as you would probably be flattered or think it's funny if the situation was in reverse.

I think the fact that she hasn't said or done anything else toward your husband speaks volumes. She was probably trying to see if he'd take the bait, which he didn't and now, she's most likely moved on to fliting with someone who is less committed than your husband. As long as she doesn't do anything else, I wouldn't worry too much. If you really feel you should let her know what you think., my suggestion is to write her an anonoymous e-mail and just say something along the lines of "Flirting with married men is not a good idea." because it sounds like this is not a first (or a last) for her!

Most husbands wouldn't be so honest, you found yourself a good catch!

Answer 4

I'd be more bothered about why your husband told you. Sounds to me like he's got a little bit of aguilty secret to cover up or you're not satisfying him any more.

What's all this about the ethics of yoga and yoga instructors? You seem to have a very strightlaced and somewhat naive attitude. I didn't realise yoga instructors signed some sort of morality clause. Don't forget to sign it if you ever become one.

No wonder your husband is looking elsewhere for affection.

Answer 5

Honey, you are "totally" making a mountain out of a molehill. Your man was flattered, that's all. Men like to be noticed too and flirted with...he set it straight, but he was still flattered by her attention. And it sounded like she was kidding around. If you want to write to her, just ask how your hubby is doing in the class and you heard that they're having a fun time. That way, she will know that he's telling you what' going on and you don't sound like a nosey, controlling, untrustful bitchh! And the Yoga stuff....whatever. This has nothing to do with ethics. You're man is TELLING you what happened. Forget it. He loves you and you should be praising him for telling you and doing the right thing. If you want him to KEEP TELLING you things that go on in his life away from home, don't make a big deal out of it; or, next time, you'll never know. Good Luck.

Answer 6

sweetheart, you NEED to let this go. your husband handled it well and he told you about it. if you overreact he may think twice about telling you something like this again. and once the secrets start only trouble can follow. another piece of advice: don't EVER be surprised at the lengths a woman will go to to get a man. there are a lot of women out there who target married men and ONLY go after married men. this will not be the last time your husband is hit on and as long as he handles it the way he did this time, you have nothing to worry about. you should be praying for his safe return home and not worrying about some woman that he doesn't even want.

Answer 7

Just leave it alone . You dont want to look like a possessive wife. If ur husband finds out, he might think u dont trust him and are questioning his fidelity. He has told her that he's married which means that he has no interest in a relationship with her. He has also told u about the incident. So there is really nothing to be worried or jealous about. Good luck.


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Answer 8

There is only one person hurt here. You! Not because of the event but because you can't get over it.

Clearly you are afraid that it may happen again and that your husband will, at some point, give in.

If that were possible your husband would never have mentioned this to you. You don't have to like her but trust your husband.
If, for some reason, you don't feel you can do that.....you can be sure that is where your problem is....not her.

Answer 9

I would say don't say anything to her--it's not really going to give you any personal satisfaction, and your husband actually told you about it, which makes it a little less likely that he's actually following through on her offer.

Your husband did the right thing by denying her and saying he was married. If anything else is said that's inappropriate, he should again follow through by saying something--that's his responsibility, and it will be likelier the woman will stop the behavior if HE makes it clear he doesn't like it rather than you calling her.

Answer 10

There will always be skanks out there. You can't jump to his defense. Doing so won't change how he behaves.

The truth is that a marriage is based on trust. It sounds like he's trustworthy and faithful. If he weren't, he would not have told you about her because odds are if he were dogging it...you'd never know.

So be happy you have a good, loving husband and trust HIM.

Ultimately it is his will that will keep him faithful whether women throw themselves at him or not.

Feel sorry for her that she is so desperate for a man, she needs to try to steal someone else's.

Give your hubby a big kiss when you get the chance. Sounds like he deserves it.

Answer 11

I think your confidence onyour husband should be more than enough to ward off such advances from any other women. But incase should there be any repitition, then I think you should firmly yet in a very sweet way make it clear to the other lady that you really do not appreciate her interest in you husband. Ohterwise I think you should be proud of your husband and his loyalty towards you.