Ladies, would you befriend a woman who's more attractive than you?

Question

How come it's hard for ladies to befriend other women who's more attractive than them? I am female and average looking and I have trouble befriending women who are more attractive than me. And most of us have this paranoia that they're going to steal our husbands/boyfriends (if you've seen the movie "Malena" you'll know what I'm talking about).

And if you are an attractive woman, do you or don't you have a lot of female friends?

Answer 1

I would befriend almost anyone that showed themselves to be just that- a true friend regardless of looks.there are so many ways to be unatractive other than what the optive nerve sees.

Answer 2

If it is a social norm, than it doesn't apply to me. I have several very attractive friends because they have a good attitude. It's hard to find a pretty girl or a hott girl that doesn't think her sh*t doesn't stink. That is why they travel in packs of the same personality but different makeup and hair colors. Someone that is very attractive and has a wide range of friends probibly has a better attitude.
Here's an example. When I was in high school there was the Fab 5. The example of hottnes. Well, a former Fab 5er got tired of their sh*t. Well, the other member decided to write B*TCH on the hood of her 2005 Acura.
Another time, after prom, the head Fab 5er had this to say about her prom date in their picture: "I knew his face would look screwed up but I didn't know his whole body would! (and the signature long reply of YAAAAALLLLLLLL-AH!). Well, at least I look good in the picture".

Answer 3

I think I'm reasonably attractive, and I have a bunch of female friends. ( I also think most people think they are reasonably attractive.) When I see them I want to talk about them and their families, and I always make a point of telling them how attractive THEY are; or find a compliment to give....like..."You skin is so radient", "I admire your taste in jewelry"....compliments are free and they should be sincere. No, I would not have any problems hanging with a woman more attractive than me. If I were single, I'd consider her a good man-magnet to hang with. I might pick up some pointers!

Answer 4

I don't think that looks have anything to do with picking friends. My best friend is gorgeous, but that is not why we are friends. We are friends because we have alot in common. Instead of looking at their looks, you need to find someone with the same interests as you. You also seem to have some trust issues going on. A real friend should not be worried if another friend is going to try and take their guy/girl unless they have good reason to believe that something is going on. Remember, no trust in any type of relationship (friend or otherwise) means no relationship.

Answer 5

Well, I think it works both ways for average/attractive woman. Yes, you are right. Woman who are average looking most of the times are not willing to befriend an attractive woman, because like you said their intimidated and scared if they take your husband/boyfriends. In my case I don't want to sound conceded, but I am an attractive person, and I get the "ur so pretty" all the time from random people, I, myself have very few girlfriends...its not because I don't want to have many, because I'm very friendly and kind to all, but alot of them would rather not get to close to me. It hurts you know, but not all beautiful woman wants or will take their gf's husband/boyfriend aways from them. I think people in general need to learn and get to know others instead of judging from afar and wanting to just "think" the type of people they are because the majority of the times when you get to know the person, your judgments before were the opposite from what you think now about them because you took the time to get to know them.

Answer 6

i guess thats what caused me to loose my friends i use to be a beginning fashion show model and a honor student but was n a herefic wreck my looks didn't exactly fade but i no longer have the tina turner/ corey everson legs i use to have i had to get a breast reduction no longer eee naturally.needless to say my confidence dropped lower than fungi.all the pals i had b4 lookd down on me so i got cocky but i really feel if they were really my friends they would have been there when i was in the coma months friends come and go if u find 1hang on

Answer 7

well i look just like my little pic. so i if you think that that is pretty. But also girls think that if someone is more prettier then you its going to take away attention from you. I have some pretty friends but i don't care i hope the best for them. And if you think that a prettier girl coming in would steel you husband\boyfriend then that's not really trusting him enough.

Answer 8

my best friend of six years is 5'2'' 135 lbs, straigh blond hair, blue eyes, clear creamy skin. I'm 5'0'' 162 lbs, curly brown hair, brown eyes, and acne. she's beautiful, shy as can be, I'm not so pretty, but pretty out there. her son calls me aunt rae, so yea, I think a woman can be friends with someone prettier than her. Even before she was married, when she was single, I didn't worry about my friends and my boyfriends. if you're that worried about it, then neither your friend or your boyfriend is very trust worthy.

Answer 9

Its called the social norm.The other lady would feel that you would interrupt that norm hence she will always befriend attractive women of her own stature.

Answer 10

itz difficult to say why femz find hard in trustin other femz i do wish tht cod change.yes i hav a lot of fem frdz but i am an avg lookin gal hmm som of my frdz r v pretty but beauti doesnt count i know them n they no me.but yes v can act a bit rude towardz othr galz