How come it's hard for ladies to befriend other women who's more attractive than them? I am female and average looking and I have trouble befriending women who are more attractive than me. And most of us have this paranoia that they're going to steal our husbands/boyfriends (if you've seen the movie "Malena" you'll know what I'm talking about).
And if you are an attractive woman, do you or don't you have a lot of female friends?
2006-06-25 03:39:52 · 9 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if you're having trouble finding friends like that, maybe you should stick to looking for friends based on personality reasons rather than looks. Maybe you should be asking yourself why you want to be friends with someone prettier than you. Do you want advice from them? Is there someone you want to be friends with that you are thinking of? People are a lot more beautiful once you get to know them anyway. If you're trying to make friends with someone prettier than you and they don't want to, tough for them. They aren't worth your time. Don't be friends with someone soley based on looks. Some of the nicest and best people in the world aren't exactly the most attractive. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-06-25 05:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn_Anne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True friendship should not and would not get determined by the attractiveness of the other person. But let me step down from this high stand and confess that when one lady gets a bit more attention from male counterparts, it does cause some stickiness in the 'friendship'. In my life I have had very few women friends. Its a lot to with the profession I am in as well. I have seen some of them get uncomfortable when I interact with male colleagues and I have heard remarks such as 'that person has the hots for you'!! from very good friends. So am I saying I am the attractive of the lot. Na not really. I have had to twiddle thumbs when my rare women friends were engrossed in conversations or basked in the attention of other men. Its fine. In fact its no big deal. Men will come and go but true friends will last beyond all this and be there even when there are no men to shower all this attention!
2006-06-25 10:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im attractive and i have attractive female friends - there is no jealousy or anything like that! We all know that when one of us likes a man he is off bounds! So dont have any problems & i know they wouldnt steal my boyfriends cause no-one has the same taste in men as me! Thankfully
You should stop comparing your looks to them everybody is different and one mans meat is another mans poison!
2006-06-25 10:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mel.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've hit the bulls eye. I feel exactly the same.
I'm above average looking and I don't have alot of female friends. Neither do I want to have many female friends, good looking or otherwise. My family and extended family's history shows that female friends are not to be trusted around our husbands.
On this premise, I do feel we women should conduct ourselves well with married couples so that the wives do not feel uncomfortable or irritated by our behavior with their husbands, or make them feel suspicious of our intentions with their husbands. We should not make them feel jealous of us or threatened by our presence. We should support our own sex and we should be happy that their husbands love and are devoted only to them, and not go flirting with one of our own kind. Why sabotage our own sex. Can't women find single men to call their own? Why do they have to be "poachers" poaching other women's husband? We women should unite and support each other instead of undermining each other; thereby allowing men to take advantage of our weaknesses, self-centeredness and stupidity.
2006-06-25 12:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i would, my friends are my friends because they make me laugh, pick me up when i am down, and are just fun.
i never ever have given a thought to what they look like. i think similar people kind of just gravitate towards one another, so most attractive people keep the same company. i would not worry about anyone "stealing my husband/boyfriend"--if a guys wants to stray, he will, good riddance.
2006-06-25 10:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have friends that are both attractive and some that are not all of that attractive. But that kind of thing does not bother me one bit at all. I have a lot of confidence in my own appearance. Also I have a lot of confidence in my man.
2006-06-26 02:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by mothers finest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your married you tend not to have friends i know i don't i have people who i talk to and i have one best friend that would be my husband females tend to try to take what you got and i lost my best friend over this kinda thing we had been friends since 5 grade and then we got older and she's mest around with my husband i all most killed her i though her out of my moving car when she told me about it....i cry-ed and cry ed she had betrayed me after 15 years of friend ship and not to minchen the trust i had in both of them its years later i have saved my marriage and lost a friend we still have a lot of trust issues now though .good luck to you and i hope that it all works out for you
2006-06-25 10:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably prettier that you give yourself credit for and they don't want the competition. don't worry about them. find a friend who loves you for you and you will be fine. by the way, why are you seeking out "more attractive women" to be friends with?
2006-06-25 11:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about other women but I tend to pick my friends for their personality. I've had many friends that are better looking than me and it never affected our friendship.
2006-06-25 10:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋