My Husband and I just had our first Daughter 2weeks ago, are we crazy to have another right away?

Question

My husband grew up an only child, I grew up with 6 siblings, we are thinking that it might be nice to have our 2nd and probably last child immediatly, this way we still have everything(diapers, strolller, crib,etc) and then the children can grow up together. I know my Mother in law will freak out if we do this, but other than her, I think we could handle it, we are both in our mid 20's- what do you think?

Answer 1

I would first wait until after your 6 week check up. I personally think you are crazy but then again, I am not ready for another child.....mine is 3. If you think you can afford it and you are ready to deal with 2 young children, go for it.

You doctor will tell you to wait. Most doctors will tell you to wait for atleast 1 year. Whether you realize it or not, pregnancy is hard on your body and doctors want you to wait until your body gets back in order to provide a healthy place for your child.

It is what ever you and your husband want to do. People on here may help but use your own judgement. It's your life, your body, do what you guys think is right and whats best for you.

If you decide to wait, keep all your baby stuff you can still use it a year or 2 down the road. If you have another baby now, you will have to buy another stroller, crib, etc........Your new baby will be using it all for a while now.

Have fun and good luck if you choose to have another one. Remember the next one may be a boy and you would have to buy all boy stuff.

Answer 2

Hi, I teach Child Development. There are pros and cons to each action. The cons: A woman should wait to have her next child in about 3 years. This gives the body time to recuperate. The uterus needs to heal. You should go to your gynecologist and ask about this. As for having everything such as your stroller, crib etc... why couldn't you keep it until you need it. Your new baby girl should have a chance to be the baby for awhile. If another child enters into the picture too soon it could be hard for this baby to understand why there is this new crying thing taking up Mommy's and Daddy's attention. I think you should think about her right now and enjoy her while she is a baby. Now, my sister and I are 13 months apart and we are now best friends, but it wasn't so when we were younger. She was that crying "thing" that everyone was fussing over and I was no longer the baby. It made me resent her for a very long time. My mother had a hard time with us as babies and having us both in diapers. Then when it came time to go to college the expense of it was outrageous for both of us even with scholarships and loans. Now for the Pros: both of the children would be close enough in age to help each other (if they will). That is about all I can think of on the pro side. Really, really think about what you are going to do.

Answer 3

You can handle it, but it's gonna be hard! When they are both toddlers and preschoolers it will be rough. That is where I'm at right now, my boys are about a year and a half apart and are 4 and 2 now. Remember to think of things such as daycare costs, or if you are thinking of staying home, can you afford it? I opened a daycare in my home once we started trying for our youngest, with daycare rates being what they are. I wanted to be home with my babies but couldn't afford it so I opened the daycare to supplement my income. Anyway, I'm getting off track here. Sure, you can do it, but think of a few years down the line. One child is MUCH easier than two. However, there is nothing like being a mommy, it's the best job in the world!

GOOD LUCK Mom!

Answer 4

Its hard to raise two in diapers. Give your body time to recover before getting pregnant again. Wait atleast a year or two if you want them close together. You need time to enjoy your first baby that way you can decide when you are ready to have another with a clear idea of what its like to go through all of the stages.

You're in your mid 20's you have PLENTY of time for having kids. Give your first one time to be your only child and enjoy every first moment with out worrying about doctor's appointments, swollen feet, back aches and all the pregnancy woe's.

Answer 5

You should wait a while and talk to your husband and family and plan together. The family will be there to help you so, not that you need their approval take some advice. I am 27 wk prg. with my second child and my first is 21 months old he will just be turning 2 when the next one is born. It was how my husband and I planned it. But to be honest I am starting to get nervous, that it may be difficult, like I said before talk and plan that is the most important.

Answer 6

Yes, that is crazy. It doesn't matter if you can afford another baby this soon. What matters is YOUR health!!! My daughters were 51 weeks apart and it really took a toll on me. Ask your doctor and he'll most likely tell you to give it a whil. You need time for your body to heal before you have another baby. I now have a severe calcium deficency due to having my kids so close together. What that means, is even though I brush my teeth like 4 times a day, floss, use anti-cavity rinse, my teeth break very easily. Please just give it a little bit of time.

Answer 7

Hey - I don't think you're crazy at all! If you can stand the every 2-3 hour feedings especially in the middle of the night and think FONDLY of having another one, then go for it! My son is 10 months old now and I wish we could have another one but we can't financially afford it. I'm thinking I might actually be pregnant now, though due to bad birth control pills. Good luck!

Answer 8

Congrads on the newborn, your body just went through a shock.
and your young, if your body and your husband are willing go for it. your mother in-law has lived and is living her life this is a chioce between you and your husband only. Like I said your both young and it is a blessing to have children. Sure have as many as you can. In the future you both will be glad that you did when you both could still run to catch them. Just remember they will become teens one day, so one day you both will be freaking out!!!

Answer 9

IF you can afford it, it's a good idea to get it all over with at once. My last 2 were 13 months apart and it was hard at first but then got easier. The most expense was the diapers.

Answer 10

I think its a very personal decision, and you shouldnt base your opinion on what other people think. Only you know what the right answer is, in your heart. Its only normal to miss "feeling pregnant", knowing that ther is another life growing inside you, and feeling it kick in your tummy. But honestly, your health is most important, pregancy really does take a lot out of your body... give youreslf a chance to heal first. Also, when people object to my decisions, I try to look at it objectively, and see if there reasons are actually valid...