My daughters friends are all 6 years old. We were sitting in the living room just talking about feelings and what makes us sad. (the girls have been arguing and leaving each other out) We were talking about isnt it nicer when everyone gets along and you dont fight etc. When out of the blue one of the little girls said "It makes me sad , when my dad says he is going to kill himself" I didn't really know how to react but said yeah that would make me sad too. My questions is should I say something to her parents or just let it go. I would not consideer myself a close freind to them although our daughters play everyday.
2006-06-25 03:34:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is a very hard question. Could you somehow talk a little more to the girl? if not I guess the best thing to do is stay out of it. You could tell her to go to a counselor and tell them her problem and then the counselor could talk to the parents.
2006-06-25 04:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, don't call child protective services, some people say that and don't really mean it. Unless the children are actually being abused in someway and you witness it or the child tells you, then call them. Because I know through experience.
I would say that I would talk to the father alone. Just simply say that you know it's realy none of your business, but say you guys were discussing what makes you sad and his daughter brought up about him killing himself and just offer a shoulder and ear, ask him if he ever wants to talk that you're willing to listen and help out in anyway you can.
I have been so stressed with dealing with my little girl's father, because he won't help take care of her he won't help support her and him and his wife keeps turning around and filing false accusations on me and it hurts, because I do the best I can to my ability. I often say I wish ai were dead and stuff that I wish someone would just shoot me already, but I say that as in I can't deal with much more stress, it's a cry that there is too much going on.
2006-06-25 10:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by Wanna get down not the 1st night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not close with them, I would definitely bring it up with the parents. This could cause unwanted conflict in the home with the child. I would reccomend telling the counselors at school, and/or protective services. Definitely do not leave it alone. Sometimes kids just say things that aren't true, but they had to learn it somewhere, and in this case it is far better to be safe than sorry.
2006-06-25 10:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by nenasknight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be very concerned. But I would approach the mother (not the Dad) and tell her exactly what happened. Then ask her, "is everything ok?". If she wants to expand further, she will. Otherwise she'll tell dummy Dad to keep his threats out of hearing range of the children...and you won't appear as a nosey neighbor. OH...and I'd be hesitant about letting my little girl play at his childs house. The man might be NUTS! God Bless.
2006-06-25 10:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that dad doesn't really mean it. I think he's just frustrated. Try to explain that to the kid, and maybe she will understand. I know from personal experience that a lot of times my mom has said, "I'm going to go back to India and leave you guys here." I never liked the idea of divorce, and I would cry just thinking about it. So even I got into the habit of saying "I'm gonna kill myself." sometimes when I was angry. Just tell the kid that her dad was just really angry and he's not really gonna kill himself. Try to talk to that dad a little bit.
2006-06-25 10:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Miraj S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitly mention it to her mother, not father, or to a close friend of her parents who may know whats going on. chances are that the 6 year old girl misinterpreted when her father said "im Gonna kill myself" and that sentance ended " if the New York Knicks loose again" (if that were the end of that sentance, chances are he will) little kids take things litterally, as they dont quite grasp the concept of sarchasm or wit. if a 6 year old heard someont say "get out of town" or "go jump in a lake" chances are they would take it litterally. i have a little sister and tease her ilke that all the time.
2006-06-25 10:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by shooda487 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need call child protective services or talk with a social worker or the girls guidance councelor. Going to the parents could get the girl beat or killed herself. She probably said that in confidence. So, keep it that way and make an anonymous call.
Just think of the damage that could happen to that girl if you were to one day walk in and find her dad dead or catch him in the act of killing himself.
2006-06-25 10:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by N_Quizitive_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I would say when there is a chance speak with him about something random or whatever....see what kind of mood he is in and how he talks if he sounds depressed or not.....if he seems normal he could just be saying as a figure of speech or something although saying that around your 6 year old daughter isnt ideal but there are stranger people out there.
2006-06-25 10:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by the PimP ChimP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send an anonymous note to the wife and leave yourself out of it, chances are she is well aware of this anyway. No sense ruining the little girls life anymore by her mother not letting her play with your daughter.
2006-06-25 10:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by skyyn777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with the mother of the child,since the father is saying he is going 2 kill himself.
2006-06-25 10:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋