How do you feel about same sex partners adopting and raising children?

Question

I mean if a person is really born gay and not something they just decide on later on then why would you think the environment he or she was brought up in would matter? They would still turn out whichever way they were born, right?
Homophobics, now is your chance to prove your outlook.

Answer 1

I don't feel that it would be terrible for children to grow up in a same sex marriage. I, persoanlly am not homosexual, but do have friends that are. With the number of divorces on a constant rise and the amount of abuse going on in homes, why not let a loving homosexual couple raise a child? I wouldn't just let a couple adopt because they were homosexual. Of course, they would have to meet the same requirements as any hopeful adopting family.
There are a large number of kids that never experience the support and love that a family provides. I say if two people of the same sex want to give a child a positive, loving atmosphere, why not?
In response to those that believe a child needs a mother and father... I grew up in a home where my father sexually abused me. Given the choice, I would've picked a frog for a patrernal figure. In an ideal world free from sin, abuse, divorce etc... a child would be raised with both a mother and father. Reality is, that this isn't an ideal world. The majority of children these days grow up without a mother or a father. Most, like myself, turn out to be respectable citizens of the community. My parents were divorced when I was 13. My mother is my Mother AND Father. A child can turn out just fine with only one sex to look to as a role model. My brother was only 4 and with no positive male role model, he is now 19 and doing just fine. He's in college, has a job, treats women with respect.... My mother instilled positve values and morals in us and always left an open invitation for discussion, which we all frequently accepted. So, while a male and female role model are ideal, it is not a "have to;" especially with high divorce rates and single parents.The other argument is the "teasing" children of a same sex marriage would endure. I hate to say it, but kids will ALWAYS find a reason to pick on others. This is usually because of their own insecurities, but that's another whole subject. My children are bi racial, I'm overweight, my 2 1/2 year old has a speech impediment, we live in a trailer park, we are lower class income...I'm fairly certain one of these factors will be reason for other children to tease my kids. The possibility of children being teased is not a logical excuse to deny a same sex couple the opportunity to share their love with a child. So, any other arguments as to why a homosexual couple shouldn't be allowed to raise a child??

Answer 2

Although I have nothing against same-sex couples or gay marriage, I just don't like the idea of same-sex couples adopting.

The world can be a crappy place and for a kid to grow up getting ridiculed for having two gay moms or dads just isn't fair. On the other hand, the young child may learn how to deal with others and be more tolerant (if the adoptive parents do a good job).

If it's done poorly, same-sex couples raising a child could really be a negative simply because of society's homophobia (all it takes is one or two people to spoil the bunch).

If it's done well, same-sex parents could raise a child with positive results.

In summary, if there are not enough man/woman adoptive parents to take care of all the world's children than we (as a society) should welcome same-sex parenting (orphanages and group homes are far worse). However, I personally believe it is preferred and more desireable for a child to be raised by a mom and a dad.

Answer 3

I am for people having relationships with anyone they need to. To each his own. But a child needs a mother and a father. Even if one of the fathers is acting like a mother, or one of the mothers is acting like a man to the child, the child will end up carrying the burden wherever the same sex parents' natural inability to act like the opposite sex is limited. Plus society is not enlightened enough yet to accept same-sex marriages, and the kid will undoubtedly have a burden growing up at school and with friends.
Maybe some same sex couples who want kids can set up camp in some developing countries and adopt a starving child, who's main concern is the availablilty of love and nourishment, rather than social acceptance and constant self image issues that our type of cultural fosters.

Answer 4

I think it is fine that same sex couples raise children. The important thing in raising children is caring, compassion, love, a little intelligence and a fervent wish that the child grow up to fulfill his or her potential.

There are far too many children out there not getting adopted and the some states' refusal to allow same sex adoptions is living proof that homophobics should be seen and not heard.

Answer 5

Personally, I don't think it's a good idea, but it all depends on the parents themselves. Do they plan on enforcing the idea of homosexuality on the child? Or is it withing the child's power to decide whether they like the opposite sex? I believe the joys of parenthood should only be between a man and a woman, but if it's really their desire to adopt when they aren't the standard couple, and they are really good parents then it is probably okay.

Answer 6

God created marriage and to reproduce. Our world is cursed and sin is rampant. Being gay is a choice. They have emotional problems and need guidance to accept the way God made them. He doesn't make mistakes. Our children should be raised by a father and mother. Because our world is sinful, many children are abused and killed by parents. But all in all, living a gay lifestyle is wrong. We were given free choice to live as we choose and will face the consequence at the end. I love God more than anything else and I try to live by his rules.

Answer 7

I see absolutely no problem with it. Until I see evidence that says they cannot do as good a job, they should have the same rights as everyone else. And when I do see those results, I'd love to see the same test applied to all couples. The "traditional" couples will likely rate a lot worse than the same-sex ones.

Answer 8

The same way I feel about gay marriage. Yes. Everybody deserves the same opportunities to get married and raise a family. Who cares about the whole nature vs. nurture thing.

Answer 9

Let's see we have heterosexual couples abusing, beating and killing their own kids.

Somehow, I don't think a gay couple could go worse.

Heterosexual couples raise gay children, there fore I think Gay couples could raise straight children.

I don't think it matters.

My concern would be how people would treat the kids, would they accept them or think that they were being raised 'differently'. My mind says, that the kids would be like any other kid, but I tend to run toward rational. I can't say that of the rest of the world.

Answer 10

As long as the home is loving not sexually based, and there is is a some what normal way of life it should be fine. Hey as long as the child is taken care of and raised in a proper manner, it should be fine. It is better than a postpartum mother murdering her baby and getting a way with murder.