why do you men cheating when you already know you have something good?

Answer 1

There are two or three kinds of cheaters. The worst kind, and I know several, are the immature selfish type who seem to need to prove to themselves over and over that they "still have it" or somehting like that. Then there is the guy who loses it once or twice. Men who travel a lot, and women, get very lonely at night. Hard to describe but I've been there. The porn industry makes a killing by selling all kinds of adult programs to hotel travellers. They really miss home ... the wrong situation, the wrong time, perhaps there was an angry exchange with the wife ... some hot babe walks into the bar and sits next to him ... it happens.

The third kind is the guy or woman who has been in a loveless marriage for years. There is a nice house, kids, community life and all kinds of great things that came from the marriage. But somewhere along the way the romance died. Husbands and wives spend so much time battling over emotional territory, work so hard to get what they want out of the marriage ... lots of wives offer sex as a reward for good behavior. It seems to work so well that they never give it away for free, lest they lose that leverage. Husbands may in turn stop doing anything unless they get a reward for it. Sick, I know, but those of you who've been married for a long while know what I'm talking about. The husband or wife who "cheats" on that marriage is usually desperate for genuine intimacy. Love that doesn't require a high score on the report card. The women who use the vagina as a wrench aren't terribly happy, either, and are just as likely to be seduced into the "cheat."

It is a sad state of affairs. Unfortunately, the young immature guy or gal who cheats early on for selfish reasons pretty much destroys the trust needed to find real intimacy. He or she will wind up at an early age in the third kind of loveless marriage.

The key, I think, is to never use sex for leverage. Never!!! It is a shared intimacy that only the two can share. If you want a new car or tennis bracelet, just ask. Amaze him with your passion and give him a place of emotional refuge at home. He will be so grateful that he'll bring home gifts on his own. Those are the best kind.

Answer 2

You know, I have read literally thousands of these same questions. Why do you men cheat, why do you women cheat, is cheating a bad thing if nobody gets hurt, etc.
When will we all learn, and realize that there are those that NEVER cheat, just as there are those that can't help BUT cheat. Being male or female, makes no difference. Years ago, it was mainly men that cheated, because of the social structure and the fact that women were not considered as equals the way they are more often percieved today. Newer trends have the woman being the initiator of affairs, and men having no qualms about going along, or even adding initatives.
But, it isn't about having something good at home, or NOT having something good at home. If you are unhappy with where you are, leave! Instead of being a cheater, commiting adultry, whatever you want to label it... why don't you pack your things and deal with the fact that the relationship is over? It isn't a matter of wanting to sample other flavors guys/girls. It's a matter of making a commitment and bonding with that one special person whole heartedly.
So, I'm sure we will continue to see 3 or 4 hundred of these same questions every week, and pretty much the same answers..... Because they can. Simple as that. Most people regret the affairs, and some even make ammends and continue on with their lives, with doubts and fears. Some don't make it at all. So why would a man or a woman cheat? Because they want to.... and they find a way so that they can.... Question is... why are you going to stick around if they do? Good luck!

Answer 3

It depends on what you consider "good", and also, it depends on the "men" that you refer to. I think this is a situation where a man, who wants more than what he has, decides to go on a selfish venture because he wants more. Perhaps it's more of a dominant trait ... a man who knows what he wants, and doesn't really know how to settle with what he has, and be satisfied with it.

I have found that people who get together have a problem with the word settle, but in fact, this is what you do. Settle sounds so mediocre, like it's second best ... but in truth, settling is a sacrifice that you would do for someone that you truly Love and care for. It's a matter of submitting to another in Loves sweet name. It seems that most want more than they can actually handle, and then get rid of it when they realize they can't handle it. Instead of doing it this way, why not settle for what you can handle, and enjoy as many of the persons attributes as you possibly can? This is why people cheat ... because they feel like they lose out when they settle, the feel that they deserve more than they have, and they figure out a way to get what they feel they deserve ... by cheating. They choose not to Love in Truth, but to Love by convenience.

Answer 4

For men, sex is mostly a physical release. Most men have a hard time settling down with one woman and being faithful, because they are constantly on the hunt for something better. To "play the field" is tied up with images of sexual conquests and power.

Answer 5

i noticed you have just had a baby first congratulations and i'm quessing cause there's not alot of information here but mother who have just had a child tend not to have sex just before or for a few months after giving birth is this making sence maybe he finds it frustrating to not have sex for sucha long time and has found the temptations too much.

if this is the case try to build up your own sexual relationship back up to a healthy level. obviously alot of your time will go on your new born but be mindful that you are not neglecting your man as well.

hope this helps,

Nick

Answer 6

I cheated because even though i am happily married, there was nothing happening on the physical side and I still needed satisfaction in that area

Answer 7

Maybe, just maybe, its because most men I know are nothing but pieces of **** with small dicks and they are so insecure over this that they feel they have to cheat to prove their manhood.

Answer 8

Something good??? She's not interested in sex, she's lousy with money, the house looks like a pig sty, she won't work, yet I have been loyal for thirteen years, but that's about to end. Something good? Give me a break.

Answer 9

It is something about our whole species. We want to be faithful {men and women} but it is not natural to do so. It takes discipline to not see another person who you find attractive and who wants to be with you. Sad that i am. I have been faithful always, and my previous partners have all strayed. And it was not for money.

Answer 10

Would you like to eat vanilla ice cream everyday (which is good ice cream), when 31 Flavors is just up the street --peach sherbert today, Rocky Road tomorrow!?