My 6 month olds runs the house like a baby Hitler, what can we do?

Question

It all begins at 8 A.M., her wake up. She screams bloody murder just because I come in to wash her up and change her diaper and clothing. I try to occupy her with toys and kincnacks, but that has gotten old, and she is not falling for it anymore. I sit her on the floor so i can dash to the laundry room to throw her dirty things in the bin, soon as I am out of sight..."WAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!" My son says his nerves are bad, and he's only 5. She has taken over his GI Joes and Spiderman action figures as her personal teething impliments, and cries more bloody murder when he tries to get his toys back from her. When she's awake, we all must gather about her for our rulings from the queen. No one can leave, most especially not me, so Taco Bell and the Chinese delivery guy has been my best friends lately. What can I do to make my baby stop thinking she runs everything? We pamper her to pieces, why can't she just be happy and stop whining??

Answer 1

First of all, your metaphor is abominable. Until your daughter has killed her first million innocent human beings, please find a better description--one that doesn't equate murdering babies by smashing their heads into brick walls with crying because she hasn't learned English yet. It is incredibly offensive.

If she is *screaming* frequently, then you are probably not meeting one or more of her needs. She does not *need* to chew on her big brother's toys (put them out of her reach), but she may need something else that you haven't discovered yet.

It is *normal* for a baby to want to spend time with you. She loves you. She may be starting to learn that when you leave you are somewhere else, and she wants you to know that this is not acceptable. Again, until she learns English, you can't expect her to tell you, "Mom, can I please have a hug? I'm afraid of that shadow on the floor when you're not here with me!" She won't be able to say a sentence that complex until she's a teenager--at which point she wouldn't admit that even if it *were* true!

It is also *important* for her to be close to you most of the time. Babies need lots of touch in order to develop properly. They have tiny stomachs and need frequent feeding, as well. They need the stimulation of being around other people in order to learn. Babies were *not* made to be alone when awake (and seldom when asleep, either).

Try carrying her around *every* time you leave the room for 2 full days. If she is still screaming a lot, then you need to consider what other problems there could be. It really sounds like she just needs more of your attention. If it helps, babies that *know* they need you all the time are usually very bright, talented children. Today, you may be having trouble figuring out how to deal with the screaming, but by the time she's 3, you may be worrying where to find books that will not be too easy for her to read while still being something that can keep her interest...

Answer 2

As long as it's not for a real reason, it's ok to ingore the crying. Eventually, she'll realize that you won't come running every time she screams her head off, she'll stop doing it.

Honestly, if you're being terrorized by a 6-month old baby,.you have to wonder about your parenting style. Watch some of those nanny shows on TV, you may get some good ideas about how to handle the problem.

Answer 3

My daughter did the same thing when she was a baby. When I tried to accomplish things like laundry or vacuming, she would scream her head off and cry so hard she turned blue and would get all choked up. I had to sit her on the kitchen counter, so she could watch me do dishes. I sat her in the living room and vacumed around her. I had to take her into the bathroom with me to shower and poop. It was crazy. She pretty much ran the show for awhile. She eventually just stopped.

Answer 4

Please, please find some help for you and your family. This poor kid is only 6 months old and all she wants from you is to be fed, loved and feel safe. It doesn't seem to me that she is feeling that from you.
I know a new baby can be overwhelming. You have to shift focus off of yourself or your other children and give it all to that one. But that is just how it has to be for a while.
Please find some help. At least find someone who will take your children off your hands for a few hours a day so you can be yourself.
You have done a lot for your kids - breasfeeding is time consuming and it must have felt like she was permanently attached to you. Now that she is weaned, take advantage of some helping hands (I'm not assuming, this info is from other questions that were posted). Adjust your meds, see a therapist. Do anything to help this situation because as I see it right now, your children are at risk. Please do not let this go on.

Answer 5

if you know she's in a safe place and out of harms way leave her to cry and she'll realise you won't come running when she cries. If you don't do it now it will get much worse when she's older as you won't be able to take her anywhere in the fear she'll cry the place down.

I'm guessing from the day she was born every time she uttered a sound you went to see if she was ok, as soon as she cried you picked her up as you didn't want to see her un-happy.

I don't think your a bad parent but I do think you need to put your foot down now whilst you still can.

Also when she wakes up leave her in her cot for a while and she will soon learn to amuse herself with other things and will hopefully use those skills once she is out of bed to amuse herself and won't need to there every minute of the day

Answer 6

Is she on a strict routine? It sounds to me that she may be upset because she doesn't know what to expect. In the mornings I take my daughter into bed with me and we have snuggle time, then I give her a bottle, then I change her diaper. She may also be suffereing from separation anxiety. When you leave the room and she starts screaming just say "Mommy's right here" but don't go to her just reassure her that she hasn't been abandonded.

Answer 7

this comming from the same person that wants to know what is so good about babies?its just a phase its not like she is going to be a baby forever even when she gets under your skin just think most of her life she will be a adult these are the most precious tiimes that you will have with your children.dont get upset with her you think she knnows any better?are you suffering from post partum stress?i think you need some time off you sound like you are not very stable right now reading this and your other question i think you need to do somethiing befor you end up hurting one of them.everyone gets frusterated with there children from time to time but this sounds like you are more then just frustrated maybe what you need to do is get a part time job and put them in daycare or something?

Answer 8

Wow, your house is controlled by 6 months old? Your parenting skills are in great need of help. Get off the Computer and call someone in your community who can help you. You had been get control now, because it will only get worse. The good news will be Dr. Phil will have material for a new show.

Answer 9

You've spoilt her!

Let her scream. When she does just ignore her, and pay more attention to your son or pretend your reading a paper. If you let her know that she will be ignored when she's naughty.

I'm not going to lie to you it's going to be hard but trust me if you don't nip this in the bud right now it will get worst when she's older!

Also take your son's toy's off of her. He has enough to put up with because YOU have spoilt her, don't let him have his toys taken away of ruined as well.

Good luck and take a stand NOW! If not for youself then for that poor boy.

Answer 10

This is a perfect example of the fact that, not every one that gives birth knows how to be a parent. You do not have knowledge of how to be a parent. For your children's sake, seek professional help. Someone who can instruct you on parenting skills. Base on the information you provided, this is not the place to find the answers and your family is in need of serious help.