I met this girl about a year ago, she was dating this guy at the time& now they broke up, and she wanted to become my friend. She seemed nice and altogether, which i thought. We would go out to clubs and I would pick her up and drive her to the club with me. She didn't drink much, until last night, we went out to a club it was ladies night. Free admission for ladies and a open-bar 'til midnight. She drank all night, drinking down the beers like it was water. I only had a glass of wine& the rest of the night I drank water. The bartender kept giving her drinks and I told her no more, and my friend got mad@me, she went overboard with all thoughs beers, considering I was her destinated driver she couldn't care less it seemed taking advantage of the situation. I never seen her drink so much&now I am thinking of not staying friends with her. When she is not drinking she is the nicest girl you will ever know, we hit it off from the beginning, but now I'm having second thoughts about her.
2006-06-24 23:30:51 · 16 answers · asked by Kit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give her another chance.
2006-07-07 07:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Padme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of people on here are going to say talk to her and try to figure it out.. but personally, I've found in life that you need to really concern yourself with the types of people you surround yourself with. Life is short, how I spend my time is fairly important to me. I'm not a full time drug and alcohol or relationship counselor for my friends every time we go somewhere.. or even if it's one out of ten times.
Personally, I stay clear of anybody who drinks and can't control it - that's what sounds like happened here. In general I stay away from people who drink more than one or two drinks. Now I do have a guy friend here at work that drinks probably six beers a night - but that's just him - it is his main food source and he's perfectly fine when he drinks that much.. he doesn't get drunk off that.
If you were long time friends and this happened, I'd try to fix it. This may sound mean, but being that you've only known her for a short time.. I would think a tad bit more about myself and how this person may effect my life. Spending less time with her or no time at all is not going to matter that much. I can tell already.. she can and will find others to hang out with that will be more willing to do what you did for her and let it bother them without even thinking about it. Some people enjoy being on that side of the coin.
It sounds like you weren't too happy at all that night. A friend is somebody you can go out with and be happy with and not have to act like a mentor or role model. At least I don't think you signed up for that.
Friends do come and go., I'd let this one go before putting too much extra time into it.
2006-07-07 05:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by game buddee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused, did you meet her a month ago or a year ago. If you have only been friends with her for a month, then I don't think you have known her long enough to really call her a friend, sounds more like an acquaintance. I have heard it said that the drunk speak the truth. Anyone who would drink as much as she did, (I don't care if it was free) , isn't someone I would want to be friends with. I think you finally saw the kind of person she really is.
2006-07-05 14:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by riddletricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your are being a little judgemental. Just tell the girl that she went wild and you don't feel comfortable with that...of course in a joking way and move on. Just because you hang out with someone doesn't mean you have to totally trust them and involve them in all aspects of your life. Be a friend and enjoy her company until you really get to know her. I am a very conservative person but get me out with free drinks once in a "wild" I need to let my hair down...we all do at sometime...
2006-06-25 00:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy shea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not judge her by how many drihks she drank last night.Maybe the situation in her life is not very shiny or she just wasnted to have fun and forget the problems even for an hour or two.You can talk to her and tell her that when she is with you ,you don't want her to drink so much and if she don't accept this then don't go together in places like that..If she is nice, then stay friends because they are all in life.
2006-06-24 23:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why? everybody is a different person when they drink and if you say that the person dont drink much then whats the problem with her drinking that day! maybe she had a bad day and got a little over drunk! look.... tell her how you feel when shes not drunk and if she cant understand you then, you tell her you cant be friends anymore! but its always good to tell your friends how you feel! and if she is the nices person you know just talk to her! it wont kill you and what ever dont kill you only makes you stronger!
2006-07-07 11:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by krazykid1537 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understanding a girl is really a difficult task buddy. It might be possible that she was so upset that night and just coz, she did not want to show this to you, she drank a lot. I do not know her but I suggest you to talk to her when she is in her wits about her past and try to identify the kingpin. Let her tell you her mind and then we will decide about the relationship. (I know that you Love her)
2006-06-24 23:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by manu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't ask this question if you yourself don't really trust her...
well... you having a true friend is difficult as looking for a needle in a haystack
... if you want a friendship with her top work out... you should be interested in knowing her first...
now you witnessed her actions... you have to ask her why??
why did she did that last night??... are you drunked?? or you intentionally get drunked??... etc....
ask her problems...
ask anything about her...
let her feelings and pain be brought up...
for sure... after you did this... you already have the key for your friendship...
if it goes smoothly...
case:
she already opened her door to you...
it is up to you to use that key or not...
but hey!!! it would make you feel good if you did something to lighten up her load...
this is how really friendship begins... it's not on going out... hanging out... shopp together...
about the good things you two spent together...
it's about how the both of you handle your problems together...
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2006-07-06 21:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by john_frank_evangelista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a friend is for? I think she is bearing with her a problem which in time she will open it up to a friend. Give her a chance to show off to you that she is a good friend and she would be happy if she'll find a friend in your presence. You can be a good influence to her,too.
2006-07-07 02:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn`t have began being friends with her.Yes,as you say she is nice,but who knows what could happen when she`s drunk.You might get in truble and get sooooo BUSTED.And if you will what will you do?Say it happens and she`s a nice girl when she`s not drunk.Get real!Think of it yourself!She`s not the only friend you have-well I guess so.
Anyway I wish you luck!:)
2006-06-25 00:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by Redgie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her about this problem and ask her why she was drinking like that. you can decide weather or not to remain friends with her based on her response.
2006-06-24 23:40:11 · answer #11 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋