1 am 38 year old guy married with 3 children. My question is about sex life.?

Question

i am so busy at work and by the time i go home i am usually tired but still i find interested in having sex with my wife.
My wife is also busy in home with children and she hardly gets time for us to be alone for sex. She either gives me indication that she is tired or she is not in a mood or something. Now a days we have sex once or twice a month. Due to this practice i started masturbating a lot once or twice a weak. I dont know if this is right for a human being. I even started watching prono pics and things like that. But tell me all of you what should i do, should i stop or continue. I dont know i am in a fix.

Answer 1

Try to compromise with ur wife to make up sometimes for sex as u need it.

Answer 2

You need to reduce your workload for a while and help your wife with her daily chores. people who are too busy may be physically and mentally tired and romance goes out of your life. Masturbation is Ok as a temporary measure but the basic problem needs to be addressed. Your wife may be having health problems or may be anaemic. You should go on a weekend to a far away place without kids and you can sing a few love songs. Tell her that you love her and that you miss her. When was the last time you sincerely told her about your love for her? You both need to communicate more and bring the romance back and sex will automatically follow. Many ladies do not like the idea of sex for sex sake. They need to feel romantic. Kids may be taking up most of her time and energy. She may be feeling all alone with you being busy at work. Please take her to a doctor to see if she is anaemic or if there is some other problem. Please keep her in good humour. Sit down and laugh together. She should be your top priority till she gets back to normal romantic life.

Answer 3

I hate to suggest this to you, but you really should consider having an affair. I mean, this is not your fault here. Besides, most men do it and so do women. The thing is, if you get caught you will lose half your stuff. But yeah, risk it, because it will be crazy! You'll love it. Just don't get caught. Also, hire yourself a tech nerd to clean the porn off your computer. She'll find it if you don't. You have to be like James Bond about it. Top Secret you know. Don't get caught, but get yourself a girlfriend or two on the side. You never know, you may find someone better than your wife, and when your kids grow up, you can dump her for someone half her age! GO FOR IT DUDE!

The other thing is this... if she only wants to be with you twice a month then she very well may be cheating on you. That's a load of bull! You better look into it and make sure that someone else isn't taking care of your business for you while you're at work!!!

YIKES!

Answer 4

first, masturbation is your right as a human being. Not many couple are compatible in the sexual department all the time....eventually after marriage, sex life either become mundane or become chores. you are busy at work and your wife are busy with 3 kids, whose got time and energy left to have sex? Sometimes for men masturbation is the easiest way to release your sexual tension. Even men who have good sex life still masturbate. Masturbation is not exclusive to teenagers or those who are singles. If you can get a kick out of watching porno so be it.....However, to maintain your relationship with your wife in this marriage, perhaps arrange once a month to have someone baby sit your kids and clear your work load and have a date with her. Like a dinner date follow by a rendevous in a motel or hotel(whatever you can afford). Both of you needed a break from the busy schedules and routine of your daily work. Otherwise, you and your wife might risk drifting apart and wonder what had happen to your life?

Answer 5

You need a kick in the butt! A big one! Why? Ask yourself what is your life. You're not dead yet. O.K.? You're wife loves you, your three children are the living proof of that. And you love her too. This is what you deserve? Both of you? Take a break. Nothing is more important, neither your work, nor your children. Find a nanny for your children, take a week free from your job, and go together with your wife, somewhere you planned both, long ago, but never done it, because of the so called `duties'. Now!
I'm an old dog, I made the same mistakes as you, and is better to learn from others mistakes, than to cry because of yours, believe me.

Answer 6

You and your spouse could desire to have this talk with you kinfolk typical practitioner. Is she dealing with menopause? There could be some issues that could desire to medically be inflicting this. do no longer permit human beings rag on you for basically thinking approximately leaving. you have no longer completed it and in all hazard won't besides. in the event that they have by no ability been that lonely then they are able to't even pretend to comprehend the way you experience. The intimacy which includes throughout intercourse is a needed component of marriage. First rule out medical motives and if there are none or she would be able to no longer cooperate you could desire to pass to work out a counslor by your self. If that would not artwork perhaps it's time to evaluate leaving yet carry on for as long as available. each and every so often staying purely for the youngsters makes it worse. You did no longer say how youthful or how many, yet little ones are actually not as unobservant as human beings think of. If there is not any affection being shown to one yet another is this truly what you go with for to coach your infants?

Answer 7

So you say your wife is always to busy to tired to have sex tell her you want a day to yourselves a romantic day all to yourselves propose a second honey moon or a day where you two can go and eat at a fancy restaurant go to the spa and then go home and make love like never before

P.S. Send the kids to the babysitter or grandma anyone that will keep them for a day or two

Answer 8

First I just want to say I am sorry your feeling like this. It is hard to be working 60 hours a week, and then try to find time for the stuff you want to do. What you need to do is bring the romance back, no matter how tired you feel, try to do something everynight to bring back the romance. As hard as you work, it seems she works just as hard at the house, so it is gonna be tough. Sit down and talk to her, if she married you then she should be interested in whats going on with you. Tell her you know how she feels cause you feel the same way, Just come in the bed room one night rock hard and see what happens....

Answer 9

You are doing nothing wrong, maybe you should have a talk with her.Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years now and have the same issue as you and your wife,We both stay very busy in our professional life and some times forget about the others needs.I brought the problem to the table and we are on the same playing field now.GOOD LUCK.
But always be fateful to you wedding vows.

Answer 10

Get back from work. Give your wife a kiss. Start playing with the kids. After dinner, give them a bath and help her put them to bed. Then you and your wife have alone time. Make love like bandits and let her know how much you love her for taking care of your seed, or progeny. Your offspring. Then practice making more.

Answer 11

working keeping up with the kids, cleaning the house etc. will mentally and physically exhaust anyone. It can be very frustrating on ones sex life. Try to make time for each other. Talk to her and let her know your feeling a little neglected. Try to take one night a week for you and her. hire a babysitter take her away from all of the destruction's and remind her why you fell in love to start with. Be patient it gets better we the kids get older. Until then do what you have to do to stay faithful to her and you will be okay. Good luck.