At what point in a marriage does one call it quits?

Question

please anyone, Help!!!!!

More Details: Married 16 years,No children born into this marriage

I'm finding that its almost imposible to walk away after 16 yrs,But the situation is just AWFUL,most unbearable.

Answer 1

When theres violence or undeserved agression towards you , or if the relationship has gone into negativity thats slowly choking all the love that was there.

Answer 2

I think you already kno the answer to that ?.. U jus need to courage to do it. Obviously from what ur saying u've tried to hang in there to see if things would change (which is more then some ppl do) u've seen that it hasn't. so it's time to say ur goodbyes before u find urself spendin another 16yrs wit someone u don't want to be wit. It's not always easy to do the thing that u feel in ur heart is right. U deserve to be in a relationship that u can be happy with. 16yrs is a long time to be with anyone. If there isn't anything left then it's time to move on!!

Answer 3

You do need to give more details. Children, length of marriage, what are the problems? I, myself, had a very difficult marriage for a very long time. He refused to see counselors or any therapy. Yet, I still hurt from the break up of my marriage. There is a book called "If the horse is dead, get off." It helps with these decisions.

Answer 4

At the point yopu know you have done EVERYTHING to try and make it work.
Also are you in love? Where you ever in love? If yes then you must try to work out whats keeping you from loving each other.
Counselling, relationship workshops, literature its all worth trying!Give this a go http://www.reuniting.info/ Lots of luck!

Answer 5

i am also in an unhappy situation but my problem is that i get threatened over my youngest child which is 2. I knew the whole time I was pregnant that I didnt want to spend my life with my husband but now i am caught in fighting over this baby or staying so i know that he cant take the baby from me. i am very miserable with him and wont have andd havent had sex with him for over a year. he just recently threatened my olderst with that if my husband and i break up that its all his fault. my child is devistated and doesnt understand and of course my oldest doesnt belong to my husband. i need to desperately get out of the situation but i am having trouble coming up with the funds to do so. please send me a reply with and email as i cant put my email on here it reveals my real name.

thanks would love to have someone to talk with

Answer 6

when there is nothing felt for that person. many make the mistake if children are involved to stay together and it just makes it worse for everyone. if the love is gone and counseling didn't work, then its time to call it quits. a loveless marriage is no good for anyone. best of luck to you.

Answer 7

After a long and sleepless night along which you have passed by thinking how your life would/could/must be without him/her; you ask yourself if it's his/her face that you wish to see first thing in every morning...
(or simply you ask yourself if you can take it any more...)

If the answer is NO, it's definitely the time to call it quits.

Answer 8

After any sign of abuse (verbal counts, too) two 'sorry's and no attempt to correct the behavior. Re-post your question with a little more detail.

If he doesn't respect you, get out.

Answer 9

Think..how many more years you have to live?do you want to spend them in same situation...or better one?If one is feeling spent out they should try some change.life is short.

Answer 10

when both of you have irreconcilable differences, when both of you just cannot be together even when there is nothing to argue really, and when no matter how you control, you just cannot stop arguing, and when small matters becomes a matter for divorce