Im starting to get signs from my bf that maybe its almost over. Hes been acting so different and hes constantly putting me down in public. (which he never did). If anyone out there has been in a long term relationship, how hard is it going to be for me to accept this? I love him with all my heart and soul and hes just not ready to settle down. I think Im just afraid of starting all over again.
2006-06-24 23:01:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you separate you should give yourself one day of grieving for every month you were together. after that you should then try and find someone else. but first ask him wuts goin on with him. maybe he's having another problem and taking it out on you. try to find out wuts up with him and let him know that he's hurting you. then if things get worse or if he doesn't care you should end it for your sake. so you don't get hurt even more.
2006-06-24 23:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by bubble31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
each person is differant on how long they take to get over a relationship. depending on how string you are it can last six months to a year. some go longer but rarely over two years. its hard at first, but you need to accept that its over and go on to better things. sounds like hes not ready to stay in any long term relationship and could be sabatoging it to end it. there is nothing to be scared of by starting over. in fact when you do, you'll find you love that person even more. abusive relationships whether verbal or otherwise will only get worse. you don't want it to get to a point that you become co-dependant and start believing what is said about you that you start beliving it. the longer your with someone the harder it is on you, but you will get through it even faster with close friends. best of luck.
2006-06-24 23:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 14 years since my first and only long term relationship that last 6 years and I still think about her from time to time. Initally I didn't date for 7 years. But not because I didn't want to. I was shy, and no girls approached me and there was no such thing as online dating sites yet. It may take about a year and a couple of months to get over him. Don't deny yourself the satisfaction of meaningless sex to spite the bastard. =)
2006-06-24 23:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that it takes as long as the relationship lasted for but I'm not sure how true that is for long term break ups.
The best advice I got from a friend when I split up with someone was that I could never be happy with someone else until I was happy with myself, and my own company. This is was 2 years ago.
I'm still single but really enjoying life.
2006-06-24 23:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ed W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the person and the nature of the breakup. If I broke up with my BF RIGHT NOW I would be devastated, but one guy I was seeing for two years LIED to me about seeing another woman(lied to her, too about seeing me).
I felt nothing for him as soon as I found out, after two years of being completely obsessed with the guy, I almost thanked him for lying else I'd never have got over him.
If he's being an abusive dick I would say you'll be over it pretty quickly.
2006-06-24 23:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it's other things the rule in relationships are pretty much the same as marriage. the rough spots are 5-7-13-17-21-24 years. on average that's is when some of the hardest times are. as far as doing that in public...you better stand up for yourself and let him know you are not going for that ...your not his bytch...if he has a problem with you be a man and handle it like one. don't loose who you are for someone else....
2006-06-24 23:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of things he doesnt appreciate you at all!!!get out of that relationship fast babe,cause you just gonna make urself feel worse day by day.as for starting over,dont be afraid.remember everyone on this earth is an individual with independent values.we dont need anybody else to survive.
stay positive and be happy:-)
2006-06-24 23:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by paddy_cyl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read somewhere that scientists proved that after that kind of experiences your body feels the pain for about two weeks, but i think every experience is individual. I for example need like a month and than I'm like new one...
2006-06-24 23:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard but not impossible.
Try not to expect too much from yourself, give ample time to grieve for your relationship. It'll make you a stronger person.
5 years or 50 years, it'll hurt.
2006-06-24 23:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think like that i know its hard but rather think that there is someone better in store 4 me !!! remember you are going to spend the rest of your life with that person !!!
2006-06-24 23:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by Amazoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋