My boyfriend used to be one of the most amazing guys I've ever met and I thought I was in heaven for 2 years when we started dating at 19.Then about 6 months ago he lost his best friend and started drinking heavily and all I could do was watch as he fell deeper and deeper into this dark and scary place.I want to help him so bad and have done all I can to encourage him to get help for himself but he's too proud to talk about his problems in a group.I'd do anything and I mean anything to save him but I just don't know what I can do.I'm not leaving him but I can't go on watching him destroy himself.Please help.
2006-06-24 22:45:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is by no means all there is to it, but I feel it's crucial to help him find some other activity, some outlet other then alcohol for his feelings... You as his girlfriend are in a good position to do smthing together. Sports, arts, outdoors, religious activities are all good choices...
Of course much depends on the given situation, which U know best, so as to the particulars you should trust your feelings and go along with what you feel's best, be brave, smart and never get discouraged...
Years ago I myself had some problems, and I feel that finding new activities, new environments is crucial for any such problem...
2006-06-24 23:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The alcohol is just masking the deeper problem. He is in a full blown depression and needs professional help. If he doesn't feel comfortable in a group setting, he should get one on one help. This is a serious problem and he needs to get a hold of his emotions before they devour him and he no longer resembles the man you love. If he refuses to seek help, separate from him and talk to his family about it....maybe he will listen to them...if nothing else, they can get him the help he needs whether he wants it or not (and once he's receiving help, he will be very appreciative!)
2006-06-25 01:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him into REHAB now,not now but right NOW.I work in this field and I tell you addiction is a progressive disease.It doesnt get better it only gets worse.If he wont go on his own gather family and friends and do an intervention.You may have to go to a judge and petition to get him into a behavioral health facility. He will hate you for it at first but you will be saving his life.
2006-06-24 22:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of your local AA. You can ask them for advice. Both of you can go. He needs to get his friends death out of his system and not just cover up his feelings with alcohol.
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/?Media=PlayFlash
Try and start at this web. Good Luck.
2006-06-24 23:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not too much to say except i am sorry for his friend, now your boyfriend needs psychiatric help that you can not give, he will drag you down emotionally, no way can you help except get him professional help. you may need counseling if he can not stop his compulsive drinking. mental anguish from love for an alcoholic is as bad as physical damage,so be careful for your sanity too. there are free psych help places for people who have lost someone close to them, look in the phone book!
2006-06-24 22:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a good support network around him and dont become an enabler,you go to aa so you get support for yourself and also it will help you to understand his illness and cope better with it.
2006-06-24 22:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Treat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋