She is in a wheelchair right now, then a walker. I have expressed my sympathy and concern. Thank goodness we are more than just "running friends" but this is horrible. What do I say??? PLease no cruel answers, I always try to be nice, there are other times for that.
2006-06-24 22:38:01 · 6 answers · asked by turtle girl 7 in Sports ➔ Other - Sports
That is tragic. Everyone's answers so far are good. Sometimes when a person is hurt they have tons of cards and friends to visit. Then they tend to taper off, leaving the person alone and feeling rather forgotten. Your friend will need you for a long time.
2006-06-25 03:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of what are the perfect words, but it's really important to try to counteract when she might make comments that reflect a negative perspective on her situation.
For example:
She says something along the lines of, "God I just can't do this anymore," or "why did this have to happen to me?" Anything that a victim would say.
You counter with positive feedback, the completely opposite perspective. Like: "Of course you can still do this, being dead would be worse. There are plenty of far worse things that could have happened," (and if she doesn't listen, try listing some) or "It happened to you because that's what life does. It has it's bad times as well as it's good. Just think of the great time you have coming to you."
Be a check to her balance. It's the best thing that anyone can do for a friend.
2006-06-24 22:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by mia_violenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Boffo has a good point. Many will pay attention right now. If you hang around for a longer time it will mean a lot. Maybe go see her during one of the times you would have been running? Just a thought....
Most of all, it will be valuable to affirm that you are not just a running friend, but a friend indeed. That's what she'll need.
A nice little token gift would be a gift certificate to some food place she likes that delivers. Or take pizza or something when you go. You know her better than us. Try to do something to "fit" her. Easy conversation will follow for sure.....
2006-06-25 16:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fractured my iliac crest growth plate this past winter season onto spring track season. My best friend who also runs with me was just there for me and made me feel better. I was really down and depressed because I was out for a month to a month and a half with no running and no forms of exercise at all (not even gym class).
I know your partner is going to be out for a long time, so try to be there for her and when she might be down on the prospect of not being able to run, cheer her up. It's great that you're such a caring friend!
2006-06-25 03:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Breakdancer Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE there for her. Make sure you talk about when she gets better. Ask her questions and let her talk about how she is feeling. I have broken my pelvis before and having people over sure made me feel better. We put up a poster board and people signed it when they came to see me. Made me feel better when no one was around to see I still had friends.
2006-06-24 22:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by tensnut90_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have to say a thing.
Being around to help would be a really good idea - she will need it.
2006-06-24 22:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by iansand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋