Every summer me and my brother go with my dad and then go back with my mother before school starts(different Citys)every time my dad takes us to partys or to the lake with his friends and his friends kids he gets supper drunk and drives back to the house like at 10 at night.Sometimes he says a tons of bad words or he starts talking bad about my mom and compares her to his new girlfriend,he doeset keep his eyes on the road or he will play around like he will go really fast or he willl start moving the truck side to side and i dont like it.We start fighting alot when hes drunk i love him to death but i dont want to be with him when hes drunk and this July were going to Acapulco so its going to be party,party,drink,drink and for sure hes going to get drunk.I want him to have a good time but i dont want him to get really drunk. What should i do?
2006-06-24 21:42:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Being with him is dangerous. Does your mom know this? If no one helps you find someone who can even if you have to report him to the cops. Or go to the judge who gave him visitation.
There is a group called Ala teen or also alanon which might help you a great deal.
Tell your dad that you will no longer ride with him in the car. Then stay home or tell him you will walk or take a taxi.
Tell your mom that you just can't trust him to take good care of you. Be strong....be safe.
2006-06-24 21:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it is time to leave the party, find a phone and call the police and give them the license plate number, description of car, and tell them that your dad is driving drunk with his children in the car. That will not only help you but him. He needs help. You cannot say nor do anything that will change him. If he gets arrested a couple of times, he will either find a way to quit drinking or go to prison. You and your brother will be alive and so will your dad. There are listings under "Social Services" in the yellow pages, call any number that may deal with family or children. These organizations will help. Stop visiting your dad until he quits drinking. You should not ever take one drink because you could also become addicted to alcohol and other drugs. There are organizations to help you cope. Contact Alcoholics Anonymous and tell them about your situation, you will get the help that you need. My children have not let their dad see his grandchildren because dad choose alcohol and drugs rather than them. Please take what I have told you and do as suggested. You and your brother could die if the situation goes one even one day.
2006-06-24 22:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand he's your dad and you love him. I understand you don't want him to be hurt, you don't want him to think you don't care for him. My dad was a bad drinker too.
BUT: You have only one life to live, and it only takes seconds to die in a car crash. You have to understand that you may end up dead if you keep getting in a car with a drunk person, no matter what your emotions are like. Every time you get in a car with a drunk, it's the same level of risk; you're risking your life all over again, every single time you get in a car with a drunk driver. You have to stop letting this happen. Like some of the other answers say, get in touch with a police officer, a social worker, your mom, your doctor, ANY responsible adult, because any adult worth their salt won't let this continue for one more minute of one more day.
I'm sure your dad loves you. But the alcohol doesn't, and the alcohol is what could so easily kill you. Please, talk seriously to some adult so this stops right away.
2006-06-25 00:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing you can tell him, is to stop drinking!!! And hell he should know better than to do those sorts of things... Because if your mother ever found out that your father was drinking, and driving, while you two were in the truck, she could take full custody of you guys... Meaning you might not be able to see your father again... So it's either he slows down or stops on his drinking habits or he loses you both to your mother???
2006-06-24 22:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by keau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a social worker if you can't talk to your mom. See if you can stay with your mom. Tell your mom about the problem. Your dad is acting in a wreckless way with you and your brother. This behavior is unacceptable in society. Do not threaten your dad with this. He sounds like he has a few problems of his own. This doesn't mean it is your fault. It is not your fault if he isn't treating you right. Parents are human and they sometimes make mistakes. Some people do wrong things and this doesn't mean you don't love them. I feel like this situation is putting you in danger and you really need to tell someone you can trust.
2006-06-24 21:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in a similar situation myself,expect i was the mother and girlfriend of the drunk,atfirst i thought he was so great to be around and so much fun,but i was so wrong, tell hin you love him and want toyou be around him SOBER,and stick to it,if you cant or are scared ask ur mum, you no if you go to acapulco he is gonna get drunk so you have a choice to make,you could always video him drunk and play it back to him show him wot a state he looks,i no its hard but theres no quick fix soloution unless he admits he has a problem and most dont,the best of luck.
2006-06-24 22:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by Madonna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who are telling you to confront him and have a family meeting are naive. He is obviously a dirty drunk and cant even drop the booze for the few day he gets to spend with his children. Tell your mom that he and his friends get plastered when you visit. If she does nothing also tell a school councelor. You need to cut off ties with him.
2006-06-24 21:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by norsedoggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I come from a line of drinkers, myself a recovered alc. for 22 yrs. and still on the wagon, my answer is leave it to an authority figure you can trust if no one tell a judge just call your court house and ask for a JP and more than likely you will get his/her secratary and state your concern and they can make him get in rehab or lose his rights to you, I would think someone would have already done something about it if you are a miner he is playing with your life getting behind the wheel with you kids in the truck, please ask for help from a freind or someone it needs stopped no matter how old y'all are. god bless and best of luck. sincerely B.K.
2006-06-24 22:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by BRENDA K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he's sober get ur fam together and confront him . tell him how much you love him and how much u want him to get better. im sure he loves ur family a lot, and he might take this intervention thing to shock that he has a problem but it will help slowly cur his problem if all else fails rehabilitation always helps
2006-06-24 21:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a dance off. Drunk people are funny dancers!
2006-06-24 21:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ross 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋