He is very charismatic and semi famous. Here's the problem. He is a mean jerk. Very verbally abusive and blames me for everything. We have been together for 15 yrs. He recently cheated on me so we broke up but I had no where to go so I came back. We have a 12 yr old who doesn't like his dad much either. 2 weeks ago I started seeing some else. He also has a girlfriend which worked out great. I knew that he wouldn't tell At first it was just payback but what I really want is for him to save me from this life I hate. What do I do? I am in school and unable to support me and my son at this time. Help
2006-06-24 21:04:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there are some good people in this world
go to a church and they will be more than happy to help
2006-06-24 21:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tina Bigbutt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tracy,
You already have all the answers you need. First, make a decision and get the courage to do so, you already have it in you. Ask family or friends for help and move out. He isn't going to change and now you are responsible if you decide to stay.
He will not change. Accept it. You will destroy your 12-year old if you stay. Don't. My mom did this with a man way back when when my brother and I were very young, she moved back three different times.
The money will come. The universe will reward you for action and courage. Act, and keep acting for goddsakes girl believe in yourself. You weren't put on this damned earth to be treated this way. Not now, not ever.
It won't be easy, it never is, but life will improve and be determined to make it so. Remember, hating life is hell itself.
Talk to your people at school, they will understand and grant you a way to postpone your schooling for a while until you can come back to it. Talk to them. They will do this, I've seen it many times.
Go work and begin and when that SOB begs to have you back and promises to be different, know in your heart that it's the Devil himself and recognize it and reject it.
Now go do it goddamn it!!!
J
2006-06-25 04:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by filmjeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that you and your son deserve to be with this cheater? Why raise your son around a jerk? Why do you need a man to take care of you? He will NEVER save you. It is clear that this man is nothing but trouble. A good indication of the future is the present and the past. How many times do you need to be stepped on before you stand on your own and make your own life and realize that you and your son need a good man in your life, not one who abuses you emotionally and obviously hurting your son. You deserve much more in your life. Stand up strong and take care of yourself. This man needs to be taken to court for you to get support money for the child. Move onward gf.
You are too precious to be in this relationship.
2006-06-25 04:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is the charisma and charm on someone that cheats, blames you on all and is a jerk? Sexy guys are jerks anyway they know they can find any woman to go to bed with and they will do it. So dont expect that to change.
2006-06-25 04:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to find somewhere to stay. a friends house,parents,family members. Then u could get a part time job and/or work for a few hours and save up for an apartment or house and for food.
2006-06-25 04:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and sue for spousal support til you are done with school. common law marriage is only 7 years, besides he will have to pay child support for his kid as well.
2006-06-25 04:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three words: Family, friends, and God.
2006-06-25 05:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by callieRach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cant save you from your life...only you can ....
2006-06-25 04:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋