im married for 6 years until now i always looking for my ex girl friend i cant forget her even that i know she's married some times i cant sleep
2006-06-24 20:11:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Welcome to the ambiguos paradigm of love and marriage.
I understand what you are going through. Years past i went through a similar situation.
You are thinking of the 'GOODTHINGS" about yr ex gf & probably not seeing why you broke up, the bad things, and you are longing for something that perhaps does not exist but you want it to exist.
Love has to be a two way thing. If yr ex gf had loved you for sure she wouldnt be married to someone else. YOu are in love with her, you probably married so you''d not be lonely.
We all want what we cant have many times. I would try to see if you really want to stay married wth someone who yo uare not happy with. ITS NOT WORTH IT, is it? Whats the good of staying in a relation that makes one unhappy (believe me i know what you are saying). There are many people in this world who are looking for someone like you. ARE YOU HEALTHY PHYSICALLY? can you hold a job? can you do fun things? can hyou go out? If your answer is yes, then you must start thinking that you still have a chance to find someone better than yr ex gf and go ahead and leave the unhappiness behind.
If you are afraid to be single or divorced DONT BE. You are healthy you can make yr life and love life again. Unlike many others who are not able bc their health may not be so good and ppl dont like to get compromised on a relation with somene whose health is bad.
Analyze why you are unhappy. Are you opposites? coz the truth is that is very hard to deal with and stay happy. Does she do things with you like going out and having fun? or are you the victim of neglect?
If youa re neglected GET OUT OF IT ... dont sign up for online dating things coz they don't work. A lot of abuse there.
But enroll in something yhou like to do and you will see that God is gracious and will send you what you need.
Dont think sex is being happy either. Many men do. Strong ties and happiness has to do with sharing life, talking about it, smelling the flowers, doing things yhou both like, challenge each other to get the best out of life with the two of you together.
PRETEND YOU ARE A TEENAGER IN LOVE FULLY and then you may start thinking of ways to have fun. Adults tend to forget how to be young at heart and have great fun. Necessary for a happy marriage.
I am so sorry you feel unhappy. I am. BUT YOU HAVE A CHANCE so analyze your predicament, daily life, etc and take a different approach. DONT B DEPRESSED. Get out of yr home and go for ice cream or skating or soemthing you like chances are you may meet a better person fo ryou. But do talk to your wife about it. TELL HER YOU HAD TO WRITE IT ONLINE COZ YOU ARE TIRED OF BEING UNHAPPY.
If she gets ticked off and things get worse. you are in the wrong marriage.
If she tries to make you happy and you still are nt get divorced and sign up on things activities you like. Travel that is a great way to meet people.
Trust me on this. You will be happy if you get out of a mentally unhappy state.
Ihope this helps. CHEER UP. We tend to idealize the past and forget the many awful things why we ended up breaking up.
So lets have time for reality check , write it all on a list of pros and cons.
Finally Marriage is not a state of happiness its hard work. Think that you may be seeing and missing yr ex gf because you were in a dating mode not marriage.
2006-06-24 20:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone many people think of their ex at one time or the other but that don't make them cut-and-run. Try your best, I mean in a best way possible to have a loving relationship with your wife, see if there is a hope. Clear your conscience that you tried your best. If your wife loves you and you both have no very serious issues, stay with her. It's possible you might regret it going back to your ex too, what will you do then? There must have been something that you married her, remember that and be a man of your word. Stop thinking about your ex all the time. may be it's just the thoughts which are always pleasurable than reality. Good luck with trying.
2006-06-24 20:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r totally wrong in your way. Now u r a married man, and u have a responsibility to your wife. Past is past, Now your present is your wife so except that, don't forget that with a responsibility u have married a girl. U have a duty to see your wife, Just think if u got an accident its ur wife will only there to cry not your ex girlfriend.
2006-06-24 20:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by sarmistha_barbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my partner for 7 years and I still think of my exes. Its not that you still love your ex its just that you remember the love you had with her and think it would be the same. It wouldn't. You are both different people now. 6 years is a long time.
2006-06-24 20:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and lived with him for just as long.I still think of my ex all the time..i miss him alot.do what i did and take a break from the wife and get your head on striaght. after that if you still want to be with the wife stay with her.if not call it quits and move on..there is reasons that an ex is an ex so just remember that and youll know what to do..follow your heart not your 2 heads...babygirl
2006-06-24 21:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Babygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have sacrifice your love for you ex to your wife. Eventually you'll love her. It's starts by trying. Your relationship with you ex is gone. You can't get it back. Even if you get, it's going to be different. Look forward, dont look back.
2006-06-24 20:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by 112211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why 6 years ago you left your ex-girlfriend? Just get over it and try yo love your wife.
2006-06-24 20:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by simplegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must divorce your wife and get over your exgirlfriend. your wife deserves to know that you are not IN love with her anymore. she deserves to move ahead and still have time to get a future with someone that will forever love her.
your exgirlfriend is married. you can find her and ask her if she's happily married. if she's happily married, then you must get over here, for you cannot wreck a home. she loves her man and you must respect that. if she's not happily married, then tell her you still have feelings for her. and ask her if she has them for you.
2006-06-24 20:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by callieRach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy, then you should get a divorce. Don't waste your life. Find someone you're completely in love with.
2006-06-24 20:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww....U poor guy...but on the bright side, she only broke ur heart, instead of sumthin' else.
Good luck at finding peace!!
2006-06-24 20:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋