If you're planning to marry and you trust each other. But you want a prenup. Will your partner be offended that you don't trust each other or that you see a divorce in the future? Will it harm the relationship and maybe even the marriage?
2006-06-24 19:33:47 · 21 answers · asked by callieRach 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Asking for a prenup does not mean that you see a divorce in your future. I think most people get married thinking that this will be their life partner. I think that if you really care about a prenup, and you bring it up to your partner, and he rejects you because of it, that is a sign that there is something wrong. If you both have good intentions, how could a prenup do any harm? You both have to agree to the terms, and it shows that you're both mature enough to make a backup plan to ensure that things go smoothly if, heaven forbid, things don't work out. It's realistic.
2006-06-24 19:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by thecentrecannothold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course! If you think in latter yrs. it might be a problem, its better to remain in a relationship without a commitment. If you get into a relationship as sacred as marriage the prenup will make it look like a farce. If a person is so unsure about the future and have doubts its better to remain unattached rather than live with a doubt that your partner may be after your money. Its just unfortunate. I don't understand how people get into a relationship with a doubt and a remote possibility that it might go wrong. Something is seriously wrong with the society.
2006-06-25 02:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by viv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that it should not. Hopefully you both can see the advantages of a prenup much like the advantages of having a will. You may spend a little money now but will save big in the future if something were to go wrong. Hey maybe the two of you grow apart and still can be friends, the prenup could help preserve a friendship even if you were to fail in love.
PEACE
EdE
2006-06-25 02:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by ede1964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a family law attorney, and I see this pragmatically.
Approximately 60% of marriages end in divorce. You need to be more concerned about your real future than in possibly offending your partner, or harming your relationship. If it is so fragile as to be harmed by a discussion of financial issues, then it is probably not a relationship you would want to maintain..
If you can't have conversations about what is truly important for your future, what kind of conversations can you have?
I specifically disagree with the concept that only rich people benefit from antenuptial agreements.
Feel free to contact me if you have more specific questions.
Good luck.
2006-06-25 02:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by sochiswim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not having anything to request a prenup for, wouldn't be able to give an honest answer. Paul McCartney would know the answer after not having one because of "love" and now having to part with millions from a "gold digger" after five years. Hey, which is the lesser of both evils, loosing most of what you have should things go wrong, or having the paper and not worrying that you were married for the right reason, "being happy together".
2006-06-25 02:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want a prenup? they are only for extremely rich people or people who have old money, or the family has a trust set up which you will get at a certain age or upon marriage.
Are you one of the above? If so by all means have a lawyer draw up a prenup, and if he doesnt like it it probably means he was after your money.
2006-06-25 02:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the way things are today and there being so much trash out there that just wants you for your "stuff" ...I say prenup is cool. Material items do not count for much in this world, but it would help to eliminate those vultures out there waiting to take what you have.
2006-06-25 02:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a fair number of people that would be offended in someone asking for a prenup but if having one is important to you then i say it is within your right to ask for one.
2006-06-25 02:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and no.
If the person you ask for prenup has no money and you do she may get mad for she may want money. If she loves you or he, it will be understandable.
But in all honesty if a person trully loves her future spouse the question shouldnt be asked unless you are selfish.
2006-06-25 04:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. In these times it is far to "protect" yourself as well as your finances. With love comes trust, so it shouldn't be a issue. Just explane that you wish to protect what you have earned or gained, and that you have to have "something" to fall back on if any unforeseen thing should happen............Understanding, trust and love.
2006-06-25 02:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋