Please, with knowledge and wisdom, answer the question I so dearly need an answer for. I've lived in a small suburb and went to school with the same people since kindergarten and had the same bestfriend and boyfriend since middle school. Now it's time for college and the best college to go to is Stanford but thats half way across the USA from where I live. My guy keeps telling me to stay and go to a community college and my BFF thinks I should go with her to some other college but thats still away from the people I care about. What should I do- opinions and answers please?
2006-06-24 19:16:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
If you think you're emotionally capable, go to Stanford. Don't give up a big opportunity merely to remain in your comfortable little world. The experience will force you to grow and expand in ways you can't even imagine.
Now, if you think you're simply not capable of handling going to Stanford, then don't. It would be worse to be traumatized by the experience.
Whatever you do, don't give up a chance to go to Stanford in order to cling to your current life. That will doom you to a very small life and you'll always regret it.
2006-06-24 19:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dave R 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I would like to tip my hat off at you because you have a plan you want to go to college.......now to your problem, I have been in your shoes if I leave I will leave my friends and family behind and if I stay, I'll stay to my self well what if and i could have done this and that. Either choice you make will be a good decision because you are going to school to further your education. No matter what you decide you have to do whats best for you and nobody else. Yes its nice to see the world and experience some new things but you have to give up your family and friends, if the bond between you and your BF and BFF are true no matter how far away you are the love will still be there.
2006-06-25 02:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by roverboy4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what colleges have you applied to, and what colleges have you been accepted to? I think the answer hinges on that. Beyond that, college doesn't last forever. In that time you learn and grow. If you stay home, that's one thing, but going away you get to experience something else for a little while. Sometimes going away is a good thing, and sometimes it reminds you how much you love where you are from. But you won't know unless you do it.
2006-06-25 02:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd............ GO TO STANFORD!!!!!!
This is a big chance for you that doesn't happen to just anyone. If you've got the brains to get into Stanford, then GO!!! Ask your boyfriend to make the sacrifice and go to a school near Stanford.
I had the same dilemma. My boyfriend was going to school in Arizona.......I got a chance to go Ivy League with a Masters from Columbia University in NYC. I chose Columbia. The relationship fizzled out over the first year of our separation, unfortunately. BUT... the degree from Columbia has served me very well and withstood the test of time.
2006-06-25 02:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Shalimar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and calm down
There will thousands of people at Stanford who are from the burbs and had the same friends forever
LIKE ALL NEW SOCIAL SITUATIONS
Focus on the common ground
avoid isolation
be a listener, take time for people
you will make new friends
don't worry
enjoy every day at college, those years fly by
2006-06-25 02:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by mike c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels most comfortable to you. I've been in a similar situation. I had lived in WV all of my life and decided to go to Arizona State University to break away. I left behind my friends and family to pursue my dream at a top journalism school. At first, I thought that's what I really wanted. But, my friends and family make up a big part of my life and make me very happy. I will be attending a school next fall that's going to be within driving distance to my family. I don't regret going to ASU. I made plenty of friends and learned lots...grew as a person. I may not have grown if I hadn't gone out there to prove that I could do it. It's really a matter of what you want. Your friends, family, and boyfriend will still love you the same no matter where you are in the world. They just want to see you happy doing what you want to be doing.
2006-06-25 02:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by FreeBird4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what's best for YOU! It can be very easy to listen to the people that you have been around all your life. Trust me, if you make the decision that's best for you and not what's best for them, you will never regret it. If you let your boyfriend or your best friend talk you into going to a school just to be close to them, you might regret it for the rest of your life. You will always wonder what would have happened if you had taken the leap and went to Stanford. All I'm saying is, don't let someone else make the decision for you. You need to do what's best for YOU!
2006-06-25 02:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by rockinout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally when you go to college you end up home for the summer. It might be interesting to go to Stanford to experience something different. Scary but still interesting and a good experience. I think it is good at least once in your life to get away from home. If you live in a dorm there would be other girls you can talk to.
2006-06-25 02:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by cats_waves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your gut tells you. If it says "Go to Stanford" and you don't go, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Besides, it's time for you to spread your wings and start growing into the person you will be. Don't be afraid to leave the nest. Your friends will either get with the program, or you will meet a ton of new ones at Stanford! :) Good luck!
2006-06-25 02:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by druid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is hard and full of many choices but to be honest you have to do whats right for you. I dont think you should stay home your life is limited there. If you have the chance to do bigger and better things then go for it. you dont want to look back at your life years from now and feel regret, would of could of but didnt. Life goes past so fast savor the moment. your true friends will never leave your side no matter how far you travel. why settle for who you are now when you can make yourself so much better.
2006-06-25 02:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by redserenity0804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋