Is it eaiser to forgive a enemy than it is to forgive a friend?

Answer 1

No, I think forgiveness is hard in any respect. However, the knowing that we empower forgiveness upon ourselves according to our forgiveness of others does encourage me to do so. Selfish. Perhaps.

Answer 2

It really doesn't make a difference friend or foe. The first inclination is to of course answer a friend because it would seem the ultimate betrayal when someone close to you hurts you. However, the key to the question is to "forgive". In forgiving you are freeing yourself. Have you ever noticed how someone who has hurt you without knowing it will continue on as it every thing is ok? Well, that's the way it will go on until you "tell" them that they've hurt you as no one is a mind reader. Then, if they feel as if they did nothing wrong and not apologize you are doubly hurt, right? But..and I mean the big "but" is when you forgive..you do it for yourself and not the other person. When you let go and start the healing process, then you are ahead of the game and I'm not saying that it is always easy. As long as you hold on to the hurt you continue to wallow in the pain and misery and the person that did the wrong continues on blithely as if nothing is wrong or that the matter is over. Or, even if they apologize you sometimes still have the leftover hurt feelings. So, if you forgive but truly not forget and learn from the lesson, you begin to free yourself up and allow yourself the positive action of taking care of yourself and not allowing the other person to hold your feelings hostage. That is giving away your power. You're still walking around angry and hurt and they are skipping merrily through life. Take back your power, allow yourself to heal and let it go. It is so freeing and the big old albatross around your neck that was holding you back just slips away into nothingness. You win!

Answer 3

Neither of them is harder than forgiving yourself, imagine that you have to forgive one people who has hurt your loved ones, it's easy to say "I forgive you", but how do you feel as a father, husband, son, and brother who can't or aren't willing to bring justice to people who hurt your son/daughter, wife, father/mother and sister/brother? How can you muster the courage to look into eyes of the people you love the most after doing that? Forgiving other people is basically relieving them from paying for what they did, it's easy to do when you and only yourself are the victim, but it's much more difficult to forgive somebody when the victim is other people,especially your loved ones, since by forgiving those people, you are not only relieving their responsibility from answering for their wrongdoings, you are giving up your duty and your responsibility to help bringing about justice for other people.

Answer 4

I imagine it would be much easier to forgive an enemy whom you never trusted to begin with, then a friend whom you believed in and trusted to always do you right.

You're going to set much higher expectations for the friend, and when they fall they fall a lot farther, thus the disappointment is much greater.

Answer 5

Yes, You don't have to continue a relationship with an enemy .

Answer 6

no it's easier to forgive some one you love like a friend

Answer 7

easier to forgive an enemy, because you expect them to do you wrong, not your friend.

Answer 8

Of course it is.You EXPECT an enemy to hurt you not a friend.

Answer 9

Oh yeah. You trust a friend. After a betrayal, it's hard to make it good again.

Answer 10

friendship is like a china vase. once broken, it can be mended but the cracks remain.

enemies are inclined on something else that they don't develop cracks easily, i'd like to think that way.