what do you think about husbands using dating websites?

Question

my husband is enrolled in at least 4 dating websites one is married date link married but looking. i don't know what to do we have a 1 1/2 yr old and i am not making enough to move out with her pay rent and daycare. HELP

Answer 1

Stop being so co-dependent! There are ways to live without a man. If you move out and divorce the loser, he will have to pay child support and most likely at least half of the daycare costs. Plus, if you've been married long enough, you could also get alimony. I seriously do not understand why any woman would choose to stay with someone that does not want her. What does that teach your child? You're a parent now, it's time to make responsible decisions for the sake of your child! Getting out of a bad marriage would be a good step in that direction.

Answer 2

Then find a friend(girl) or family member to stay with until you get on your feet.Also, he will have to help pay child support to help with living expenses and daycare.No married man should be enrolled in a dating website.What is wrong with him?Obviously, he's not committed to you or you marriage and he has thrown your vows out the window.Let him go make someone else unhappy and you find a MAN you deserve.I know not right away, but when your ready.Good luck.Also, look into getting help from social services if you leave too.

Answer 3

I've seen God heal many very, very broken relationships. But sadly, many people don't put Him first in their marriages. It's obvious your husband is only thinking of himself. Call a marriage staff meeting on a common day off. Send your daughter to a relative, and sit down and ask him what he wants to do, save your marriage or divorce.

If he wants to stay, you two need to be in counseling, either secular or through your church. He needs to delete all his online accounts. You will need to forgive him. You two need to work through it, and it will be hard.

If he doesn't want to save the marriage, save up for a good lawyer and make sure you get alimony and child support to pay for daycare & rent. Don't leave. If anyone should move out it's him. Make sure of the laws in your state regarding assets & such. I know Texas is a community property state, for example, so what a lot of people do just before they file for divorce is liquidate their portion of assets to take half the other person's. Make sure he doesn't do this and if you find hidden cash put it in the bank.

Finally, don't use the baby as a weapon. It's going to hurt a lot either way you go, but she needs both her parents to reassure her that she is loved. Don't fight for sole custody, it's a waste of money and it's free babysitting for you every wednesday & every other weekend, holidays alternating.

My prayers go out to you.

Answer 4

He is very obviously in the cheating mode. Have you ever heard of child support and alimony? Do you have parents who love you and would help you? My goodness, grow a back bone! You want your child growing up with a parent like him, so your child can grow up thinking this sort of thing is acceptable? I mean, if you don't leave this guy, you are enabling your own emotional abuse and setting the example your child WILL follow. If your child is a boy, he grows up thinking HE can do the same sort of cheating; if your child is a girl, she will think she has to accept a man pulling this crap on her...because mommy put up with it...you have your whole life ahead of you. Get busy and get on with it. Sure, it may be very hard, but things aren't going to get better unless you act!!!
PS: Get evidence, make copies, take the hard drive with you, drain the bank accounts on your way out...then leave him a note telling him why you have left and the number for your lawyer. Every day that this continues is a day you grow to accept it. By doing nothing, you are in fact giving him permission to cheat and treat you like garbage.
PSS: by the way, since he may be hooking up with someone else (likely) who knows what nasty germs he is giving you. Get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.

Answer 5

Sounds like your husband might have an addiction. What he is doing is considered cheating. If you are okay with it then there is no issue but if you are not okay with it them you need to let him know exactly how you feel and set some boundries. You need to be very clear what is acceptable and what is not. Whatever you do not just stay because you have a daughter.

Good luck

Answer 6

I think a Husband using dating websites is a poor excuse for a man. He has no loyalty to you or his family. Let him go, think of you and the child. The future will be whatever you make it. It won't be any easier if you stay with him. And the example he is setting for your child will break both your hearts in the future.

Answer 7

heres what you do ..move back into your parents or have them watch the kid when you go to work...this will get you away from your cheating husband... or even better.. sign up on the same site and use a totally fake name give him a message if he wants to meet up if he says yes this probably aintthe first time and won't be the last... soo try to move in with a friend or parent s or soemthing untill u get a place of ur own.. and get a divorce... and find someone who won't cheat on ya.

Answer 8

At least you realize that you deserve better. There is always a way darling!!! Get out there and start trying! I have a friend that left her hubby, {thank god}, Found another lady with child..They are now roommates and share child care....Just a thought...But like I said..There is always a way. The "husbands" love it when you think you can't live without them. It is just not so.

Answer 9

This is what he's banking on with you. He can do whatever he wants because you'll find excuses not too leave. I'd move in with family before I'd let him disrespect me that way. If he's looking, he's going to make a move on his actions. Then what excuse will you use when he finds one of his choices make him happier than you and leave you instead. You need to get real and be happy for you and your child. He's only thinking of himself and his needs, which he showed you when he got those memberships.

Answer 10

Last resort, there is child support and spousal maintenance, assuming the selfish ******** is working.

Do you own or rent?

Do you live in a community property state?

You can get a free legal consult with most firms.

Do something!!!!