my wife and family dont get along.?

Question

when i try to take our kids to my parents for a visit my wife gets upset and trys to keep me from taking them. it always ends in a big argument. can someone give me advice on how to fix this situation im in

Answer 1

Your wife probably feels like your choosing your parents over her.First, your wife should be able to come to your parents and your parents to your home.You need to talk to your parents and make them realize that you have a family of your own and you want them involved in your families life.BUT you have a wife and a marriage that is being strained because of the arguing they and your wife engage in.You need a sit down, in a neutral space(resteraunt,park,etc.).Just you, your wife, and parents.Explain to ALL of them that you are being put in the middle(as well as YOUR kids) and they need to make a cease fire to help your children and you.Get to the root of the problem, make solutions, and try to get them to be nice to each other.Your marriage is in jeopardy if you don't.Also, in your question, you said, they don't get along but then you put ALL the "blame"on your wife.Make your parents liable for their behavior too.Why cant your wife be involved?Do you want to keep your marriage and your relationship with your parents?If so. you NEED to work on the problems, NOT keep them apart and deal with it that way.Your kids shouldn't have to have one holiday with you and your wife, then another with the grandparents because the adults need to act like children.Put the past in the past, start fresh and MAKE it work.

Answer 2

First, ask your wife why she gets upset when her kids are visiting grandparents? Has anything happened to them over there? She shouldn't deny the kids from their family if they haven't done anything to them. She don't have to go around them if she has a problem personally, although, she could try to respect them for your sake. After all she knew this would be a part of being your wife. Things will have to be said that may cause some hurt feelings, but get every thing out in the open.

Answer 3

OUCH, Yes I can see where that would be quite a web your family has woven there. Hmmmm , well to be honest have you tried sitting your wifey down and saying, "for instance "Wife, (lol) (ok now we get serious) OK I understand YOU dont get along with my family AND I support that I dont ask You to go or be put in a bad situation because of (blah blah blah , BUT I do love my family and I want my kids to know them and form a fair decision of them without influence from ME or U, and I know you love me and I love you. Don't you think I would do the same for you? Because sweety I would and thats ALL Im asking is to be fair for me?"
Try it , it may just work
OH
and you can always add lil ego lifters like you are so much more mature, or reasonable you get the idea right? God Luck Sux to be in your shoes, Let us know if you do come up with the right solution in case any of us ever get in that situation

Answer 4

Your going to have to sit down and explain to her that she is being selfish.
Not allowing the children to visit thier grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins is only hurting them.
Ask her how she would feel if she wasn't allowed to visit any of her family when she was a child.

Answer 5

oh..!this happens a lot...well all i can say is make them spend time together and find what makes them uncomfortable with each other and sort it out..All The Best!

Answer 6

yeah. you really don't want to hear what I would suggest.

Lawyer. Dump her now. You will later anyway.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

She has no right. Take them anyway.

Answer 8

to begin with i hope you're not dorian hackett if so [e-mail]