i'm 18 yrs old. i'm a very social & a lively person, friend 2 all( boys & girls) guys like me they come 2 me wid their problems but no 1's interested in me 4 a relationship....is it coz i'm not a easy 2 go type of girl coz i'm decent & don't encourage foul talk????????????????????? i'm not praising myself even i'm tried of dis monotonous life.....girls of my age do a lot many things where as i've never held a guys hand. even i want mr somebody in my life. what should i do??????????? thanks people 4 readin dis pl don't post any spam & upset me further
2006-06-24 17:45:54 · 13 answers · asked by whatever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey caramel...
Interesting issue. Lets analyse the issue in different angles.
You have a good social life. So, the problem is not really that u dont know to talk, and be in sync with people.., And ur not too shy to talk. So, that aint the problem...
So, where can it be..? As I read thru ur passage, I read -> "foul talk"??? What do u mean by foul talk? Ur using this word to mean flirting? I know what the problem is,dear. U wud like to talk, anything but a sweet romantic talk. Trust me, guys cant get into a relationship with a girl who wud'nt talk intimate. (The same applies with girls too.) Who wud ever want to even think abt a person who can even talk intimate for a girlfriend?
Put urself not in ur shoes, but the shoes of a guy whom u wud like to stay in relation with. Just be the ideal guy whom u want to be in a relation with. and think for a moment. Why wud I want to date this girl? Why not the others who are interesting? Note them all down. The more points u get , the sooner u'd get te guy u want.
Think what u, as an ideal guy wud want from a girl. Learn to give that to a guy whom u wnat to be in arelation with. This is the simple rule of the game. U get it. and u get all u want from the game.
Good luck..
Ryan
2006-06-24 17:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry if u don't have a bf. It's cool!!! For some ppl it's better w/ out a bf. ur not doing nothing wrong. It's just the guys most of them r jerks and not cool at all. Others r cool. time will come. So far i'm pretty sure u have been enjoying life. If u haven't and just been thing about ur first kissed and when ur going to have a bf well that's cool but i'm pretty sure u haved missed out in anything cuz what i haved read u seem a person that evryone loves. Ant that's whats so great about ur slef. when the time will come for u to have a bf he can be real cool and last long i just know. Just be proud of who u r. and don't worry i'm pretty sure in the world ppl say oh i alreay had sex w/ a guy. I'm pretty sure some r lying cuz they feel so bad cuz they really haddin't. Well my point is about this is just be happy and don't change for someone espcially for a guy!!! k love ya and Be happy!!! :))
2006-06-25 01:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound like a very level headed young lady. I am 22 and I used to be the same way. Always the friend..never the girlfriend.... trust me...if boys are coming to you with their problems then it won't be too long before one of them gets feelings for you..... My best friend in the whole world was a guy...we were best friends for 13 years. Now we are married and have 2 kids... Trust me..your ship will come in. Just ask yourself..do you want any guy? OR THE GUY? Think about it. Good Luck. Irish_leprauchan_princess@hotmail.com if you ever need any advice or maybe just a friend.
2006-06-25 00:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by Harmony22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep being yourself. Someday, a guy will like you for who you are, and he'll be a very lucky guy!
If you don't want to wait for him, you can try and be a little more flirty with boys. Wear more revealing clothing once in a while, talk to a guy on the bus who you think is cute. It's all about confidence! Guys might ask you out if you're simply more confident, you don't even need to dress up XD
Keep trying, and hang in there!
2006-06-25 00:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry i didn't date untill college either, and not much b/c i had standards. some guy is just going to come along one day and before you know it a whole swarm of them. just be the outgoing person you already are and someone will notice you. The only advice I have is to not be negative during the first month of getting to know anyone, its a big turn off for guys and girls.
2006-06-25 00:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the right person comes along for you, you will know it. it will also be more special because you will be a little older and appreciate it more. just make sure that the one you choose to be with, knows this and respects you for holding out on somebody you felt was worth being the first.(and i am not talking just about the sexual part of the relationship)
2006-06-25 00:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by rita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your time. Mr Right will find you when the time is right. You might already know him. But keep in mind he probably won't come up to you right away. Just take your time because God's preparing your Prince Charming for you. Try listening to BarlowGirl's song "Average Girl."
2006-06-25 00:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by ditto_88_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, take your time. Some amazing person will show up when you least expect it. You don't have to worry about relationship drama. Focus on you while you can. You have plenty of time later to worry about men.
2006-06-25 00:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by que_rida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of which one of the guys you would like to go out with the most and ask him out.
If he says no there are plenty more to ask.
Dont be shy just go for it.
2006-06-25 00:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're too boring. You don't have to be a skank, but give a little to catch some guys' interest.
2006-06-25 00:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋