My husband always wants strippers to come over. Every time he looks at a magazine with girls in it he asks, "Would you do her?"
2006-06-24 17:38:17 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him this....Introducing a relationship to poligamy is frought with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundemental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality. See what he says then!!!
2006-06-29 01:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a magazine with some hunky men in it (I like GQ), and show him pictures of the beefcake and ask him if he would consider doing one of them while you watched. }:-)
Really I would just tell him that I was not interested in having sex with other women (if that is true). I don't think a lot of marriages can stand up to the consequences of a threesome especially if the wife does not want it!
I think if he was going to start expecting and/or demanding that kind of kink, that he should have mentioned it before you married him, so you could have said "no" then.
Good luck.
2006-06-24 18:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by ruthie_msw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm, been in that situation twice......the first time i ended up leaving him because there was no threesome but he ended up sleeping with my sister. The second time been there done that. It is not all what i thought it would be like. Now even though i was kinda curious on it so i decided why not.......looking back i know why not. My suggestion don't even bother. Tell him straight out if its a fantasy its one thing. If you really expect it to happen in real life hit the door. There are too many men out there that will respect you enough to just want to be with you.
2006-06-24 17:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing the same thing to him. Show the best looking guy in a magazine and ask would you do him. No but seriously, just tell him that is not what you are into. Tell him if you want that then you will tell him. Untill that time if it ever comes, tell him to leave you alone about that.
2006-06-24 17:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats not something your interested in, which it seems like your not.(and by the way you have the right to say no), tell him to STOP asking.Tell him you have thought about it, made up your mind, and NOTinterested.Let him know that if he keeps asking, its putting a strain on your marriage, and I'm sure he dosent want that.Also, IF this is true, let him know that you fell that you should be enough for him and it hurts you when he keeps asking can he have sex with another woman.
2006-06-24 17:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, first of all, i'd ask him why he wants the threesome in the first place..my ex told me he wanted a threesome, and then he asked for an open relationship, so that was pretty much the end of us together, but that's different. do you know why he wants the threesomes? he could just be curious about seeing you with another woman/man and he could just be wanting a different sort of experience..but beware, these things rarely ever work out unless you are comfortable with it all
good luck
2006-06-24 17:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by bevofpierre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so concerned about this, you sound pretty open minded or submissive to the perverts ideas.....A threesome can be fun but it can also destroy your relationship with your husband. If you are absolutely not into it tell him so....and keep an eye him because if he wants it bad ebough he will find someone who will do it and you lose him anyway. So...either give in or get out!
2006-06-24 17:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by 100% Chance of Pain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the best thing to do is say you want another man... that will stop that idea in a hurry. Maybe get a copy of a magazine with pictures of good looking males and tell him you would like to DO that one and that one! heehee Trust me... that will end the thought of a 3some very quickly !!!!
2006-07-01 03:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might stop asking you for it, but it don't mean he's not going to do it. He'll eventually find other females who will satisfy his curiosity, because that's just men. When they get fixed on doing things like this (thrill seekers), their determination is strong. He may just be looking at books now, which will turn into porn and reality in time. If it's not your thing, then ask him to respect you in any actions he might take if you want to take a chance on staying with him.
2006-06-24 17:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would it totally turn him off if you said OK to the threesome but a GUY has to be #3? or would that backfire? girl just keep saying no, don't let him make you do something you'll be ashamed of later on. he sounds like he's being a pretty big creep in this area. i'm sorry!
2006-06-24 17:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋