My friend married a guy from mexico that did'nt even speak english. She eventually learned some spanish he decided to get his papers for him. He was very abusive towards her and even went to jail twice for beating her. He would stay out all night with his friends and she would call me crying. He told her that he drank alot because he missed his family in mexico. So she went forward with all the legal aspects so that he could get a good job and go back forth to see his family. It was a long process and 2 days after the citizenship came in she found him in bed with latin female at his friends house. She went home crying and called me as usual. Now he's gone with the latin girl and they are getting a divorce. Was it just the American dream or what should she do?
2006-06-24 17:24:29 · 11 answers · asked by Kristi A 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You asked for this A Duh!!!!!!!
2006-06-24 18:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have left him a long time ago, the only reason he probably acted like he was interested in her was because he wanted to get to the U.S. I know... everyone below is gonna act in out rage because suddenly "i'm so racist" but its true... my dad did it to my mom, he married her, came to this country and left her... he doesn't deny it and he's never said a word to me in my entire life.. The wonderful "American Dream" as you call it is enough to make people do things, that are a bit, wrong... She just needs to find someone else, even if she "loves" him, he doesn't love her, he isn't interested in her, she needs to move on.
2006-06-25 00:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by The Great Pretender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was used!!!!!
She needs a friend right now, so be supportive, but help her to see that she was just a way for him to be legal. She should get an attorney and make sure she can keep everything that was hers!
2006-06-25 01:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by BB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how the hell did she fall for him in the first place if they couldn't speak a common language?!! he sounds like a horrible guy and i can't believe she was so naive to even want to know him. this should be a wake up call for your friend, she needs to get real and find some one who at least respects her and isn't abusive! good riddance what did she expect anyway!!!
2006-06-25 00:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all they are looking for is to get legal in this country! once he received it, he didnt need her anymore. she got used! sorry she went thru all that. id be a little more careful next time. as far as what should she do? let it be...he'll eventually get what he deserves!
2006-06-25 00:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just needed a way to become a citizen. She should have figured that out from his actions toward her.
2006-06-25 00:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used her, he really did not love her, some illegal Mexicans pay up to 10, 000 dollars for an American woman to marry them and help them get their papers, that Mexican that got his papers for free.i guess you could say he con her, Just let her know that it's not her fault, tell her not to feel bad, what goes around comes around, tell her to leave it in Gods hands and with in time she will find a good man...............................................................unless she wants to take him to court maybe she can get some justice.
2006-06-25 00:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by disamari13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stay with her own kind if she doesn't want to get used up
2006-06-25 00:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was just useing her to get citizenship.
2006-06-25 01:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by beer_pharts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duh...he was using her
2006-06-25 00:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously... you don't know the answer...c'mon seriously....
2006-06-25 00:32:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋