shes pregnant and its not my baby. the dad wants nothing to do wit her. i wanna do my best to help with the baby(thats due in a month) i play sports so id have practice aftr skool, so do u think it wud b rite to b dating her wen i wudnt b able to b thr 4 her as much as id like 2
2006-06-24 17:19:01 · 11 answers · asked by imnottiny12 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i would not do it as she is inmature and why tye yourself down to what she did,one day you can have your own as i know it will not work out she will stick the baby on you as much as possible
2006-06-24 17:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by dee30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference in being an adult and meeting a pregnant woman that you want to be with and help out as much as you can, but you are a freshman. Your life is just beginning. You are sweet for thinking you can help, but also very immature. This girl, and this guy made this life they are headed for, and it is not easy. I had my first child at 19. I cannot imagine having a baby still in highschool. How can you help her anyway? You are barely old enough to babysit someones kids! Stick to after school sports. Be all you can be, maybe you can play college sports, and professional sports. She needs to get herself together and take care of her baby, instead of trying to recruit a new "baby daddy". She needs to put "daddy" on child support. That's her help right there. He wanted the sex, so he can pay for it.
2006-06-24 17:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by girlygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with girly girl. You can't give up your life to help her out. While it is very sweet and thoughtful, you have no idea what is involoved in taking care of a baby and raising a child. First of all, dont give up your life. It would be one thing if you were the father of this child, but you're not. There is going to be a lot of emotional drama between the two of them.
As girly girl said its one thing to be an adult and date a pregnant woman. I am that woman. Im 27 and pregnant and the father is not in the picture. I tried to date one person and in the end, he couldn't deal with it. While I was not looking for him to help, at first he was ok with the idea, but in the end, he just didnt want the feeling of having to take on someone else's responsibility.
You can be her friend and support her. But you should really discuss this with your parents. You are only 15 and have the rest of high school to finish and college. If you are in sports, and give them up, you ruin the chances of the possibility of a scholarship and you could resent them for that. But you could go the other way and be a great support in their life. When she graduates this year, you will still have 3 more years of school and her life will forever change especially with this baby. You will still have high school issues and she will be having to deal with diaper rash and colic and sleepless nights. And there will be a day when you want to date another girl.
It is very sweet to offer your help to her, there are a lot of guys out there like you willing to step in and take on the task of being a father figure. If only there were more men who WERE the dad's who would be responsible for their actions.
Good luck with your decision, I hope you make the one that is right and in the best interest for you.
2006-06-24 18:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by southrntrnzplnt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15. and have your life ahead of you. being 15 is hard enough without adding a 17 year old single mother into the mix. You should concentrate on school. Neither she or the baby are your responsibility. Your responsibility right now is to yourself and your education.
2006-06-24 17:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it would be wrong for you to date her even if you couldn't do as much as you would like.
just don't make decisions about helping her that are gonna hurt you in the long run. like quitting your sport to get a job, or your grades going down cause you're with her and helping with the kid.
the best thing you can do for her is to love her and all that stuff. help a little with her baby to give her a break. and most of all keep yourself healthy and keep your plans for the future and keep being a kid yourself.
good luck :) she sounds lucky to have you there for her.
2006-06-24 17:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by midwestboy15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah because it's not really your responsibility anyway. If the father's not going to do anything then it's up to the girl and her family. You can still help when you have the time, but it's not anything you need to be concerned with.
2006-06-25 04:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by holidayspice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude look if you truely do love her and she is more important to you than sports than go with it
but are you willing to give up sports for her
dude you sound like a great guy
so just go with your heart
peace and good luck
2006-06-25 07:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by trouille123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. if u love her u should forget the sports and help with that baby cuz ur gurl is more important than that.
2006-06-24 17:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you like her. But whatever you do, just make sure you dont get too involoved to end up leaving. Know what your getting into before you get into it too.
2006-06-24 18:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, well if you think you can help her you should definatly either forget the sports, or be with her every second that you can. Just help her preprae for her baby, is she keeping it or giving it for adoption? well if she is keeping it, then help her with it.
2006-06-24 17:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋