We have been apart for 8 years and she is in a relationship that I think she he is happy in.
2006-06-24 17:11:56 · 31 answers · asked by thestendfactor 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i say it depends on how you to split up...if it was mutual i think you should... if either one cheated no because if she cheated on you then she would think you are crazy and think you are desperate..if you cheated then Hecky no because that would give her the notion that she got you hooked on her and think she may have control over you....but if its been 8 years you might not still be in love you may just feel that way because she has someone else....but if she is in a happy relationship then leave her be and find someone for yourself.
hope you find some insight
2006-06-24 17:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by BriBri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As an ex-wife for a year, I'd say why tell her about your feelings now. When things between you could have been different for the better, she probably couldn't get you to listen or do whatever it took to make mends to stay together. Why would you try to impose on her happiness? Are you miserable now because you've realized that she was the best thing that had ever happened to you way back when. Well, if she has any sense, which I'm willing to bet she does by now, You will only be asking for trouble on your behalf by bring that subject up now. Take some advice, and go find you someone to be happy with after you've let 8 years pass.
2006-06-25 00:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should not tell her. She is in a relationship and you think she is happy. Are you really in love with her, or the memory of her? Obviously things didn't work out between the two of you. She has moved on, you need to do the same. You need to find other things to occupy youself. You should also work on finding someone else. There are plenty of good women that will treat you right and want to have a relationship with a good man.
2006-06-25 00:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by jimssnk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you split? If you know she is happy with someone, why do you want to tell her this news you have? Why didn't you love her enough before? Obviously one or both of you does not feel the same. Move on or wait until she has ended this relationship. IF you truly do love her still, tell her but if she is not interested.....get a new girl.
2006-06-25 00:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by tleigh517 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason you got divorced in the first place my guess is you will always care and have feelings for her but she has moved on with her life and be happy for her not its time for you to move on also. I got divorced and 2 yrs later or so I met someone else and we are now married 2 months good luck you will find love again.
2006-06-25 00:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say that life is too short for all the bs. Go for it bro., BUT be prepared for the hurt that may ensue if she doesn't feel the same way. Also, why id you guys get a divorce in the first place? If you got caught cheating or something like that, you're wasting your time. Trust is a weird thing. Sorry for being presumptuous.
2006-06-25 00:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Batmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she deeply involve with that person? cause if so u goin to have to fight for her? U know what u should do , u should watch out for hints if maybe she stills have feeling for u. Or Maybe u r jealous that she is able to move on and find someone to love her like she should be love. I f that is the case u should let her b happy, but if u r really in love with her n she might feel the same way, fight for her.
2006-06-25 00:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Miss B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she's happy in the relationship she's in, then trust her instinct. you guys obviously had a feeling when things were going sour with u 2 rite? i'd sit down with her some night & tell her how you feel, and be prepared for any sort of response...i'm sure she'll understand, but consider the reason you broke up in the first place and what not...
good luck
2006-06-25 00:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by bevofpierre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened in the first place that you divorced?Is it something that if you could get together, could be worked out?You gave away your claim to her heart when you divorced each other, but she's not married yet.I think that you owe it to the both of you, to at least throw it in there and leave it up to her what happens.Just sit down and tell her how you feel.Let her take it from there.Explain to her you wabt another chance, but you dont want to get in the way of her relationship now.Tell her you will not bother her again , if thats what she wants but you had to tell her how you felt.Then. if she decides to persue it, she can.If it didnt work the first time, what makes you think it will work now?Thats the only concern I have.
2006-06-25 00:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has this ever come up before now? If you think that she is happy, I would not interfere in her life. You could let her know that you are there for her, but to tell her now that you love her...no, in 8 years you could've told her before now. Sorry, but now is not the time, it might come in the future. Keep hoping.
2006-06-25 00:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by oman396 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋