My grand children never write or thank me for the gifts i send them are 6& 11 how do i handle this?

Answer 1

I think that their parents should have instilled better values in them.....the 11 year old should know better

Answer 2

I am not sure of the maturity level of the six year old but I do believe that the 11 year old child should know better. However, if their parents have not taken the time to explain why and how they should properly thank you for your kindness then perhaps a word to the parents might help.

If the parents have encouraged the children and they simply choose not to, then I would send a blank "thank you" card along with the next gift you send them.If they do not fill it in and return it to you, then the next gift you send should be a box of thank you notes and a sample letter with a list of reasons that they should send them to people. That will get there attention. I hope you find the answer you are seeking.

Answer 3

It's the parents fault for not teaching them appreciation for gifts.
If these were strangers, would you keep sending them gifts, I bet you wouldn't.
Same thing here, stop sending them gifts, if they can't take a few minutes to send a Thank you card. It's time they learned the meanng of good manners.
Write to the parents, your son or daughter, and let them know, why there will be no more gifts coming.
It would be nice if the other grandparents did the same, assuming, that they also received no thank you cards either.
Sad state of affairs, with all the communication we have these days, that you didn't even get a phone call.

Answer 4

Their parents aren't teaching them the proper ettiquite involving accepting presents. I was always taught that I couldn't play with, or use the gift I had received until I had thanked the giver. That could either be a written note, a phone call, or a face to face thank you. Whenever you send gifts, follow them up a week or so later with an "inquiry note" or phone call as to whether the gift has arrived. Hopefully this will prompt some manners being shown on their part. If, after as many gentle hints as you deem appropriate, you still receive no thank you's to your gifts, stop giving them. That, they WILL notice. And if they have the nerve to ask about it, tell them plainly.

Answer 5

I would tell the parents that it hurts your feelings that there seems to be no acknowledgement of your generosity. I would ask them to politely mention to the grandchildren that they shouldn't take gifts without saying thanks, TO ANYONE! And, I am unsure of the finanace's all the way around, but if the parents are well off and continually buy them things, then is I were you, I would discontinue the jesture of objects and shoot for college with bonds or even a trip, rather than materialistics. Vacations, even if just a camping adventure, can be much more heart-felt than a PS2 or bike.....If the parents dislike your constuctive critisizing the mannorism's of the kids...tell them they should be a bit more appreciative, as well....God knows, none of us are here forever!

Answer 6

Talk to your kids, not the grandkids about this situation. I'm sure that you remember from being a parent that children instinctively know so very little. I have to sit and help my 7 yr old write all of her thank you cards and she complains the whole way through. My mother sent me an extra gift this past Christmas of stationary. Sometimes subtlety works and sometimes you'll need to talk directly. But you know your kid. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

You can either ask them in a nice way why they never thank you for the gifts and if they like them or say something to the parents about why they don't and let them know that it would be nice to get a thank you for your gifts! But do it in a nice way so that no one gets offended!

Answer 8

Your grandkids should always say thank you for gifts(at the time they are given).But , you should not expect a big thank you letter or for them to"kiss your butt"for a gift.You gave it to them out of the goodness of your heart,RIGHT?Not for the gratefultude or to get a big thank you.A polite thank you (at the time)would be nice, but if you want to pursue this, you need to talk to their parents(your son/daughter and his/her spouse)first.Then, you can ALL decide on what is expected of the kids and how to handle this.And then, you can all talk to the kids together, or if the parents choose to do it alone would be good too.

Answer 9

It's not their fault they were not taught any better.Say something like, What do you tell grandma?Sometimes in excitement of the gift the kids just forget. Maybe the parents will get the hint and at least remind their children of their manners.

Answer 10

It sounds like they have never been taught that it is appropriate to thank others for gifts. This is a parenting issue and I would suggest you discuss the issue with their parents and let them know how you feel when you aren't thanked for the gifts.

Answer 11

Just don't expect thanks each time you make a gift to your grandchildren. Usually at that age they don't realise that the gifts come from the heart and you love them.
Just give them gifts only on special occasion (for everyday is not a special day)..and be there for them...when they'll grow up, they'll always remember the grandparent that was there for them and who always gave them gifts.
All the best!