My almost 4 yr old sons father got married about 5 months ago,since then his father has been nothing but a jerk,his wife acts like she's a better mother than me (even though shes not a mother). My son is becoming a snot,doesnt want to listen and is starting to talk like a baby,this only happens when he comes home from being with his dad for 5 days.My son says some things that scare me,things he does at his dads house.Sometimes he says he doesnt want to go by daddy,he's only going to be 4 so I know he cant tell a judge that he wants to stay with me. I am in a serious relationship and will go to the courthouse to get married if I have to, if that will make it easier to get him. Please dont anyone think this has anything to do with his fathers wife,she started out very nice and I liked her,then after she married him (without telling me,or even having his son there!) it's like she turned into someone else. His father also would not sign the paternity papers, just a dna test done.
2006-06-24 16:41:13 · 8 answers · asked by hotmama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His father and I never lived together,he didnt leave us, I told him to get lost 3 weeks after my son was born.
2006-06-24 16:51:22 · update #1
Custody is 50/50 and I don't accept child support from him.
2006-06-24 16:53:54 · update #2
Yes, can get custody of your child..and u don't have to be married to get him. Record some of the things that he say when he comes home from his dad's place....If u have a place of your own and at least a bedroom for him along with all necessities for him....then u go and fight for your child. Take the recording to court if u have to....and if u don't have everything that u need...go out and ask for help getting it...Even if it means that u have to go to a Helping Hands....and don't be ashamed either.....I was once there and when things got rough, I stood and did all I had to do for my child without getting into trouble or putting her into harms way.
2006-06-24 16:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by katayra2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, single moms get custody of their children all the time.I have been through a divorce too(now I am happily remarried).The judge just looks at what is best for your child.You need to have a stable job and home, with room for a child.The fact that you ahve a boyfriend, will only matter to the judge if he stays overnight or lives there.If he does, and you are ready to get married, then do it.Will it look better?probably.But DONT do it just to please the courts.Your child needs to be first and it sounds like your trying to do so.If you think you can do a better job and your son will be happier, then file the papers.Do everything legally.Even if you get full custody, unless you can give very GOOD reasons why, his father will still get visitation, which a boy needs his father.Good luck.
2006-06-24 16:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's the problem?. or what's the problem if you talk straight on what the two of you must decide on how to educate your child for the next 14+ years. He and his wife could be a great choice for your, but maybe it could be worse. Get a professional help.
2006-06-24 16:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by i want to talk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes a singel mother can get to keep thear kids or custdy of them as long as she shows that she is not out thear what i mean is that she is not a pot hed or drunk or beatting them or she is not just a stright up hore and is not leaveing her kids with just any body and is giveing them what they need in any maner no matter what they need she can give it to them i know i am going threw the same thing with my x boyfriend and he could not get the kids even if he use his third leg to stand on usally the mother gets the kids and the father has to prove her unfit
2006-06-24 16:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by queen lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. If I were you I'd consult with a lawyer. The lawyer would be able to advise you as to what your options are.
2006-06-24 16:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by smallsct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to get full custody when there is no eveidence of abuse or if he just walked out on u guys and left u alone, in my state of va its hard to get full custody if there is a problem, check with your attorney
2006-06-24 16:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,,,just work hard sister,,,and dont give up!!! Men talk alot of trash,,but but never back it up!
2006-06-24 16:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. Go for it.
2006-06-24 16:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋