Oh my gosh. Me and my best friend have been friends for 9 YEARS!!! And for the last couple week she has been talking about this guy named Cameron. She is soo obessed with him. But she is way too shy. Shes never asked a guy out by her self. She talks about MARRYING HIM. We was at a pool party and Cameron was there. The other girls were asking Cameron if he liked my Best friend. And then i went to talk to him about carrie. And he told me he was aiming to go out with me. He is really cute and nice. He about 2 years oler than my bf and 1 year older than me.Should I go out with this guy? I like him but I do not want my best friend to be mad at me. Should i wait till she doesnt like him anymore to date him? Shes going to get hurt anyways when she finds out the guy likes me not her.
2006-06-24 16:25:26 · 21 answers · asked by Megan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Cameron knows that my best friend likes him.
2006-06-24 16:37:44 · update #1
Absolutely...you need to learn now to go after whatever guy you want...that is your right as a woman...if she does not like it that is too bad.
2006-06-27 07:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
The best thing to do is sneak around behind her back. She'll eventually get over him and then you can tell her what a horrible frind you've been having a little fling with the guy. No...but seriously these kind of questions aren't really answerable from a complete stranger so i think you're wasting your time....and so am i writing all of this but im bored so whatever. Hope that helped!!! lol just disregard this one
2006-06-24 23:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Afton K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never a good idea to go for a guy that your friend likes no matter how shy she is or even if he doesn't like her back. You will really hurt her & it is not worth losing a friendship of 9 years together.
2006-06-24 23:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by pepsigrlfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't because it would hurt your friend. If Cameron asks you then maybe you can try to explain how it wouldn't be right if you said yes because of the way your friend feels about him. He'd understand and later on he may ask you when the time is right.
2006-06-24 23:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, ur friend is not 'obsessed' iwth Cameron, she just excited she finally met someone that she like. I think you shouldn't go out with Cameron cos u already have ur bf..(don't put him aside..), next, give ur best friend chance to experience with Cameron(or any other guy that she like..if any)..
You have homework to do..1st..explain to Cameron that u have bf..(so, u woudln't have to hurt 2 parties..ur bf n carrie in future)2nd..ask him whether he could give a shot/chance to be with Carrie..use ur own way(ur strentgh to convince people), say that he mght be happier to be with Carrie rather than u
3rd..Go to Carrie, try to explain to her that u've spoken to Cameron and what did he said to you(that he likes u than Carrie)..try to say to carrie that it is not u who influence Cameron to say like that(this is for caution for future if someone blames u..)
Lastly, think wisely, don't let anyone get hurt(including urself)..u the only one u can make the decision for u.
TQ
2006-06-24 23:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by munchen2186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider you friendship and how much you value it. If she's a real friend, she'll except the fact that he's interested in you and not her, and she'll be happy for you. Granted, she may be jealous at first but with time and maturity she'll get over it. Furthermore, this is a guy who has no clue that she's interested and who evidently isn't interested in her. If she were dating him or had dated him, then I would say stay away. At this point, it's only a crush. I have dated guys that my friends thought were hot and may have been interested in and vice versa, but that didn't destroy our friendship. We're mature adults who are able to cope with rejection, we may not like it, but we deal with it. If she get's upset with you then she's being petty. Hopefully, she'll learn a valuable lesson. The next guy she likes..she'll talk to him herself!
2006-06-24 23:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carrie will be hurt, trust me. The best thing to do, if your a loyal friend, is to tell him that you will not betray your best friend to go out with him. Dudes come and go but best friends are forever. What if you and homeboy break up? Its really not a smart move for your friendship. I speak from experience.
2006-06-24 23:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by shanayie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if you want to continue to be best friends with this girl. Chances are that if you date the guy that she likes you will really hurt her feelings and lose her as a friend. You will break the trust that best friends have between one another. I do not recommend it@@!@!
2006-06-24 23:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by daisygal3fdu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's more important....your best friend or a guy that seems to like you? you have a boyfriend already and sounds like she is still living a fantasy about this guy. she really does need to work up the courage to go and talk to him. who knows, he may even discover he has something in common with her too. if you try to go for this guy, you may lose your best friend of 9 years and then what are you gonna have?
2006-06-24 23:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't because girl friends last longer than guy friends..and you do not want to hurt your BEST FRIEND! Plus you are right she could be mad at you, and then no more best friend!! Think long and hard over it..But since you asked me...I wouldn't date him!!!Just say.."oh, no thank you, i am not interested"...That's polite enough...Then tell your best friend!
2006-06-24 23:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hei, you've already got a bf, y go for more......there's a another name for a person like you. So damn selfish......Want all for yourself......Is it worth to just lose 9 years of friendship for a cute guy who is aiming to go out with you just to get HIS..... UP....... YOURS for a night and then dump u. U'll be a loughing stock...HA HA HA
2006-06-24 23:54:13 · answer #11 · answered by Ynot78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋