2006-06-24 16:23:01 · 23 answers · asked by CuriousGeorge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your mom probably hates "losing you" not your wife. Spend some time with your mom, one on one... let her know she is still the number one girl in your life, but would love if she could accept the number 2 girl. tell her the things you like best about your wife and that she takes good care of you. then be sure to stay in contact with your mom, including that one on one time every once in a while. your mom probably feels replaced
2006-06-24 21:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tra 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You'll be wasting your time trying to prove anything. Most Mom's don't think any female is good enough for their sons. The thing is that the females are taking a lot of things off Mom's plate which they have a problem with letting go. They won't except that there's another special female in their life. Only time and a serious effort on your Mom's part will change this as she notices how happy your wife tends to fulfill your life. This is if your Mom isn't set on making your wife's life miserable and you loose out.
2006-06-24 23:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you care what your mom thinks, she raised you and she loves you.
Talk to your mom and let her know how much you love her and your wife. Make her see that she and your wife have a lot in common, (they both love you). Let her know that it means a lot to you that they develop a relationship so that you can all be one big happy family and that if she can not make the effort that she will be the one who misses out because you will be spending special occasions with your wife and that she won't be seeing you as much as you would like to see her because if your wife is not treated well then you won't put her through the ordeal of spending those occasions with your mom.
If I had chosen my son's wife, it would not have been the girl he chose but he loves her and she makes him happy so I chose to love her and make her welcome in our home. They now have a beautiful little five month old daughter and I'm not going to miss being a part of her life. And thinking about it now, his wife is not all that bad. I actually enjoy her company now.
If your mom can find one thing about your wife that she likes or respects, that is a start and she can build on that. She has to look at the good and ignore what she thinks is the bad.
When all is said and done, your mom is just afraid that she is losing her little boy. Assure her that that will never happen.
I hope all works out and you can all be happy.
Good Luck
2006-06-24 23:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does your mom have reason to hate your wife? You didn't say what caused this.
You are married and your first concern should be for your wife. You should nicely tell your mom something like this:"Mom, she is the best thing that ever happened to me. I am devoted to her and our marriage. If you can't work this out so we can all be together, then so be it. But my wife comes first."
If that doesn't make mom think about it, nothing will and she can stay out of your life.
2006-06-24 23:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope things get better for you, see my husband's mom is very hard to get along with, but as long as I act that she is better at ever thing than me, then she's happy,I REALLY DO love her but I have to play her game in order for her to love me back. I been putting up with her since i was 16 and now I'm 26, she has grown attached to me,BUT up to this day I let her think that her son and i always need her advice.even though we really don't, I have always showed respect for her no matter how tough or rude she got with me, because I love my husband so that means I have to love her too and just accept the way she is.she kind of reminds me of the Raymond's mom from every one loves Raymond.I'm not saying you wife should do the same, that's just the my way of trying to get a long with her so we can be happy, i mean our parents wont be here for ever why not make them happy.......................................but on the other hand if your mom gets really out of hand just be honest with her,let her know that she will always be your number 1 and that you always will love, just let her know in a nice way.That your love your wife and it hurts you to see them arguing and hurting each others feelings.Just ask your mom to respect your wishes if she really loves you.best of luck.....take care
2006-06-24 23:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by disamari13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you NEED to prove anything to your mother. How you handle your mother is whenever she says anything negative about your wife, you either hang up on her, or leave her house, telling her you are NOT going to listen to anyone talk about your wife. DO this a few times, MOMMY will fall in line.
2006-06-25 00:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to prove anything to your mom. You are now to put your wife first.
2006-06-24 23:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by WDS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to prove nothing to your mother.... she already did her job.... she raised you and you let her know this, i love this woman she is it and you have to respect my desision,sorry but mother cant pick your lifemate...but this thing you must do tell your wife if she doesnt know already that your mother doesnt aprove but you know in your hearts she is the one so dont worry about anything.. and she will feel better because i would find it intimidating if my mother in law didnt liked me. something like that would make me feel better.... you be honest to your mom and put your foot down with all due respect she deserve you will not tolerate her being disrepectfull or hatefull to your wife... if you let your mom know she cant pick your wife and that you mean it she is your mother and she loves you she will have to at least tolerate your wife.but you have to be strong.and dont let her get between you and your relationship with your wife,good luck.
2006-06-24 23:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with her and tell her how much you love your wife. If she is prone to trying to cause problems between you, or if she treats her badly, then you need to tell her in no uncertain terms that you will not tolerate it and if it continues that she will no longer be welcome in your home. Make it clear that you love her too, but your wife is the woman you have chosen and you expect her to respect your decision and treat her accordingly. Good luck!
2006-06-25 00:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by SuzieQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to prove anything to her, why bother? Your wife is your 1st priority, make that clear to Mom and that she better get on board - or she's out. Simple. Don't overcomplicate it.
2006-06-25 14:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by jerryg1212 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋