If you have a terrible lover, describe why sex is so bad with them.?

Question

Mine won't bathe, and is quiet while we @#^&. There's more, but there's not enough space here.

Answer 1

If its not there, its not there... And ew! Move on and find both love and lust combined. You need both for a successful relationship. someone who gives a **** about pleasing you for a start...

Answer 2

Tell him what you want and it may not be all him you have to do things to no offense but have you tried oral sex or diffrent postions? One day when he comes home and gets in the shower hop in with him let him face you and suck his dick so good that he would make a sound trust me

Answer 3

my husband seems to think of himself alot. He expects to be given oral and not return the favor he don't really say why but he don't do oral. And when we do have sex hes fast and I am frustrated cuz I haven't had a O in months with him. I think guys should be more giving and if they do love the one their with show it.

Answer 4

Ewww! he won't clean himself? that's gross. I used to date a guy who couldn't go for more than a few minutes, that was pretty bad, and I also dated one who would drip tons of sweat on me during s*x. It was nasty!

Answer 5

Because all she wants to do is lay there and moan, she needs to participate and things would be a lot better.

Answer 6

I don't have this problem but if I were you I would not kiss this nasty guy never mind @#$@ him. There is not a shortage on soap and water.Lazy,just plain gross.

Answer 7

She gained 200lbs ,Really bad hygene and incontinence.
She once was a godess,Icouldn`t leave alone.
Now she is my EX.

Answer 8

First off, I would talk with him about the issue. If he was somebody who I loved and was wishing to have a long term committed relationship with that is. If I was not interested in a long term relationship I would not be having sex in the first place but that is my morals and I am not going to put them off onto you. We each have to live our own lives and find what works for us.

If you care about this guy I think you need to discuss this issue with him. The bathing issue is important too. It is difficult to be "intiment" if somebody smells bad down there in the places which need attention. You understand the parts I mean. I just don't feel a need to express myself any clearer than this. Listen, some people truly have a low sense of smell. They may not even be able to smell how bad they smell and so may not be aware they stink. My step daugher has nearly no sense of smell and getting her to wear deoderant was a nighmare. She is also mentally handicapped, so she just thought I was being mean. Nobody else would tell her the truth about her bad smell, so it was on me to do it as her parent. She bathes every day, but she seems to be one of those who has a strong body odor. I did not understand how she could stand to smell herself and would often tell her she really needed to remember to put on her deoderant. This was before I knew about her lack of sense of smell. Then one day she was sitting by her grandfather who had a incontenance problem and constantly smelled like unrine. I asked her how she could stand to sit close enough to put her arms around him as he smelled so horrid and she told me she did not smell him at all. Then I knew she had a very low sense of smell, because otherwise she would have smelled this guy, as you could smell him from across the room. So, maybe your man does not have a good sense of smell and just does not realize he smells. Another thing too: when men work pysical jobs they sweat alot. They come home and shower. If they do not work they may think they do not need to shower as much as they are not out doing manual labor and sweating, so they thing missing a shower or two is nothing much. They do not realize that it is normal for body odor to develope just by itself without working or playing physically. Due to the larger odor of work, the smaller odor on the non-work days may go un-noticed by them. My first husband had this problem and I had to explain to him how he smells even on the days he does not work if he does not shower. He was wanting us to be intiment when he had not showered and was upset and hurt because I was reluctant to do so. It was important for his well being and the health of our marriage for me to explain what the issue was. Once I explained it to him he understood and began to shower even on the days he did not work.

Now, some guys have never been taught how to make love properly. This is due to the basic inability of women to be honest about what they need and the feelings of shyness in speaking out when they are not doing what makes them feel good or are dong something they do not really like or actually hurts a bit or is uncomfortable. Younger girls have more trouble in this area due to, well, being young and inexperianced, as well as lacking a solid foundation of self confidence. They are often afraid that they will offend their boyfriends or husbands and so stay quiet and just let the guy think he is the greatest in bed. See how this would make a guy think he is good when he isn't? The guy thinks it is normal for a girl to enjoy a wham bam thank you maam type of sexual encounter!! It is sad when a guy is so misinformed because often all it takes is telling him what you like and what you do not like. Guys like to feel they pleased their women, and to allow him to think he is when he isn't really is not fair to him or to the girl either. Then they are both missing out. If the woman just tells her guy what she likes and what she does not like, it is not about the guy being "good" or not, it is about the girls needs. A guy likes to meet his girls needs. Unless he is basically a selfish pig, and most men are not like that. What is also sad, is when the girls later tell their friends how "bad" he is in bed, when all they had to do was talk to him and he may well have been the best they ever had!! So, women need to take some responsibility in their own sexual encounters. Tell him what turns you on, what makes you feel good, and what turns you off, what makes you uncomfortable or hurts you. You may just be surprised how much things improve. What ever you do don't ever "fake it" with a guy!! I do not care what the reason is, just trying to ease his ego is not an excuse for such dishonesty. You are just totally cheating both of you when you do that. It is not healthy and it does not get your needs met and it is a lie to him. If he is not meeting your needs and you tell him he is, why would he ever think he needs to do it differently? Guys can only go on what us women tell them. They have little idea how easy it is to really fake an orgasim. They want to believe they can "tell" when a woman is doing that, but in reality there is no way for them to know, not really. We are not made like men, so we do not have any real signs when we get off other than the noise we make and the muscles which tighten and we can easily tighten them without getting off. So, be truthfull, upfront in what you like, don't make it sound like it is his fault, just say it is what you like or don't like. We each have rights in the encounter, and if you lie and don't tell the truth you are missing the whole point anyway, so why bother having sex at all?

Good luck in working on the issues you are having. Blessed Be.

Answer 9

sex?? and you think you have it bad??? Hmmmm