Have you ever heard of a 36 y.o. straight man turning down oral from his wife?

Question

I know he's straight, so gay is not an option.... he seriously has no sex drive at all! Is this possible? No E.D. either... that isn't the problem... he just doesn't care to use it.

Answer 1

That's nice u are coming to utah by the way.. it's so boring here being single.
As far as a 36 yr old... thats weird... no sex drive??? Is it ur husband? Maybe u have scared him before when u did it..lol Try upping his sex drive by doing things like dressing sexy or stuff that he isnt used to. thats the key to getting someones attention.. unless he is a lazy couch potatoe that likes to sit on the couch all day doing nothing and is too lazy to do anything...

Answer 2

First of all, you are his wife.He needs your support.I know that it hurts when he turns you down because you feel rejected.but he's not rejecting you, just the act.Stress may be the reason.Maybe he should see a doctor.It's nothing to be embarrassed about either.Also, medications can cause a low sex drive.Is he on new meds?Contact your pharmacist, if so, and ask if that is a side affect.No matter what the reason is, and I am sure it's nothing major, talk to your hubby.Keep your lines of communication open and if needed, seek help from your doctor.Good luck.

Answer 3

I love oral sex crazily but have turned it down at times because:

- the girl doesnt do it right (i feel her teeth or she hurts me or she sucks)
- the girl thought she was the next thing and thought I was going to beg like a dog for that. So my pride kicked in.
- Some other thing is wrong and oral sex doesnt tempt me (arguments, wife's bitchy etc)

Answer 4

One of the big reasons me loose their sex drive....or seem to...stress or worry about something. Could this be it. About the oral it is possible he finds it revolting. Some men do.

Ask yourself when did this start and what was going on when it began. Hard to answer I know but the only real way to know is to ask him directly. Be prepared for whatever the answer may be.
You may not like it.

Answer 5

Since l am a 37 y/o straight man l can speak from experience my answer would be cheating and l know a lot of people don't like to hear the truth but l think Cheating.

Answer 6

Maybe the oral isn't very good. Some men find oral to be far less stimulation than vaginal intercourse, so it probably isn't a matter of being gay, or having no sex drive.

Maybe you should ask him what the trouble is. (it also might be physical. He might want to consider a blood test for testoserone levels)

Answer 7

This would seem odd but sweety whats good for some is not for all u know? I mean if you know he's not cheating then dont fret, There can be ALOT of factors causing this onset from depression to stress give it a lil time and if nothing gives maybe seek some professional help????

Answer 8

Is he going through something stressful right now? There could be something bothering him. Or maybe just like us he is just not in the mood. Guys often times get like that and you should understand that being a women that its just not there. Talk to him found out whats going on. Nobody can tell you better than him.

Answer 9

Did he want something the night before and you shot him down?

Maybe he's trying to make a point in that regard. Maybe he doesn't want oral (which is nice, but in a way it's just "servicing" him) and wants to have intercourse. Is that all the further you're willing to go most nights?

Answer 10

This is strictly an opinion, but there is definetly something wrong there. Either he doesn't like the way you do it, or he's finding it somewhere else. Try asking him what he wants. Maybe he has a hidden fetish you arent aware of. It worked with my husband. Just a thought!