My husband has been doing martial arts all of his life. He is not violent, he is a very sweet man. But, this is something that he is very passionate about. He even participated in the Ultimate Fighting Championships. ( Not the reality show) So, anyway I have two boys. My husband wants to train them to be in the UFC. I don't agree with this. Me and him fight constantly about it. What do you think? Should I let him, or stick to my guns? Because I think that the boys need to make their own decisions about it. Which they ultimately will make their own decision. But, I don't want him pressuring them.
2006-06-24 15:29:04 · 11 answers · asked by proudmatriarch 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If your sons want to be in the UFC it can't hurt anything. In fact it could help them build confidence and learn self-defense. If your boys DON'T want to be in the UFC encourage them to go ONCE and see if they like it. If they don't, oh well. There are more important things. If they do...great! But kids shouldn't be pressured to do things they don't need to do. Chores are understandable, but things like sports activities should be your child's choice.
2006-06-24 15:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by songbird 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If they are over 9, you must let him take charge of them. They need to learn discipline, and knowing how to do hard work from an early age, the sooner the better. You are their main care-giver from the time they were born. It's okay to let the other parent do his job. That's the way it should be. I wish my husband "took charge" of the kids more. A lot of it ends up in my court, and yeah, I complain, and then its okay, but really, your husband is doing a good thing
EDIT: if the boys see you fighting over this issue, they will use that to drive a wedge between you two. Don't let this happen. Any discussion about these issues must be done out of their earshot. Don't even hint to them that you are having a disagreement. Trust me, I learned the hard way. No matter how angelic you think your kids are, they turn into little demons the moment they want to get out of doing work.
2006-06-24 15:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our current upside-down society, most have forgotten the age-old fact that children are the "property" of the father. Your sons are simply small "men" and should learn manly ways. "YOU", as a woman, cannot be a positive role model for boys. No offense, (although I know most will be offended anyway), but male children shouldn't be influenced by a female beyond the age of 6 or 7, including their own mother. This allows them to grow and develop as men. Not little girls with "testosterone" as so many young men and boys are today. Their only contact beyond that point with females should come when they're of proper age to marry. You should back off and let your boys grow into men. Your husband is correct.
2006-06-24 15:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the parents, so act like it. I'm sure you make decisions for the boys that are way less important than this, so why excuse yourself from this decision?
Do you and your husband agree that the two of you being unable to come to an agreement is something that is harmful to your marriage? Mom and dad fighting is not what is good for your boys.
2006-06-24 15:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by more than a hat rack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said that your husband is passionate about this,then you need to tell him that it is only fair that your sons also be passionate about martial arts or they will not very good at it,it could cause many problems for your husband if he has all of his hopes for his sons to be good at this if they care little for it.
2006-06-24 15:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by deerwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I can only imagine what being his son must be like... For your kids sake stick to your guns, it's stupid when parents want to turn their children into little versions of them. and it really wreaks havoc on the kids emotional development as well
2006-06-24 15:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by mojopez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, let the children make their own decisions. If they want to fight, let them fight, if they don't enjoy it, don't force it.
2006-06-26 01:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it says in the Bible that you should submit to your husband, so why is there an issue?
Have a pleasant day.
2006-06-25 04:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by oldwhatshername 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well being a god botherer as you are you should know that you must obey your master
2006-06-25 04:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the kids decide. suggest it.
2006-06-25 04:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋