Or is he still confused on what he really wants?
2006-06-24 15:18:06 · 50 answers · asked by bobo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All right, I must admit you have made your point very clear!
Likewise your wording is quite sound.
Perhaps we must give it a second thought and
Elaborate the other way around as well
Really do you want to get it right?
2006-07-08 12:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Roland 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I believe if the man is still talking to the other woman than he isn't working on the marriage that he is in...That shows you what he is putting first and how much the marriage really means to him.
Because of this I would say that the marriage is over, because the man isn't taking the steps to save his marriage when he knows talking to the other woman will hurt the person he is married to.
Get out now...get on with your life, write him off for good.
If he really wanted to save the marriage he wouldn't have done anything with another woman to begin with and then keep contact with the other woman still.
Good luck
2006-07-08 11:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not truly trying to work on the marriage. If he was, he wouldn't be talking to the other woman. I'd say he's still in love with the other woman and is trying to convince himself he should be with you (i'm assuming you have kids) so that he doesn't break up the family or something. Tell him to leave you alone, and that you don't need him back out of pity. Find someone new. He'll never truly come back to you.
2006-06-24 16:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean? He cannot even talk to anyone?? Is he quarantined for life??? How would you feel if similar restrictions are placed on you.
The wife is insecure if she fears another woman. Every marriage evolves over time and it does not mean that the husband cannot talk with a friend after marriage. The emotinal connection becomes stronger with passing days and it depends how each partner works to build the marriage. The fact that he married her means he preferred her to everyone else. So where is the insecurity?
2006-07-06 06:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO a man is NOT working on his marriage if he keeps talking to another woman. He is stupid. He wants his cake and eat it too.
He doesn't deserve the love and faithfullness of a good wife.
He is imature. If he can't stay away from other women while he is working on his marriage, then can he stay away when things get rough as they do in all relationships.
2006-07-06 21:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think not, if he was really trying to work out his marriage, I see no concern in this other woman to be in the picture. If he really wanted to work it out he'd discuss it with that person because they're the ones that are going through a situationand trying to get it fixed.
2006-07-06 11:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....hell no. And you need to start watching Dr Phil or something.
He's not confused at all. He knows very well what he wants. Comfort/love/stability with you perhaps...and excitement he could never get with ONE woman. Its a disability...bad childhood etc and it wont be fixed by anyone.
A marriage is supposed to be where you are the best friends and lovers. Why would he need or want to talk to other women (that you are not joint friends with too) if you fulfill all of that....unless he's talking to his mom?
2006-07-06 06:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not truly trying to work out his marriage if he is still in intmate contact with the other woman. Intimacy doesn't imply sex either, I am refering to emaotional intimacy. If he is trying to work on his marriage, then he would be talking to his wife and a counselor.
2006-07-08 14:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes been confused look at the situation
hes now sure what he wants just not sure on how or when to make a move if he had a chance to work things out its only cause hes afraid to hurt that person
but, while hes talkin' to the other women that's love u just cant live without don't think with ur brain u probably slept to much and went right back to confusion u must wake up and think with ur heart EVERY BEAT IS A STEP :(
I SEND MY LOVE
DULCE FROM NEW YORK
2006-07-08 13:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot work out on his marriage one foot in and one out. He has to cut his ties to the other woman. He would still be lying to his wife and any barrier between them would destroy the chances of reconciliation. He owes her and his marriage the best shot. If he's feeling guilty towards the other woman, he needs to tell himself that she's better off too. If he's confused, the best way is to give one of them his all and see how that works. One love said Bob Marley.
2006-06-24 15:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! When you keep talking to the woman, you aren't working to fix the marriage. Boot the fool out. Unless you enjoy being a doormat.
2006-07-06 11:29:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋