It's been going on for a month and it was kissing, love bites and touching but no sex, We're currently away from each other because of school and in a week, I'll be done and we were going to get married a week later, been together for 6 years and was very happy, She was going to end it 1 week prior to my return and wasn't going to tell me, she say's she loves me and cried uncontrollable and wanted to marry me, I don't know... I am so upset and hurt, I offered to have her to just be with that guy and I would move on, and cover the truth about the canceling the wedding but she refused and continue to beg for me not to leave her, I love her so much but need advice on what i should do... Should I forgive her and trust what she is saying and marry her or should I just leave her and cover the truth why the wedding is cancelled? please help.... I am in so much pain....
2006-06-24 14:55:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Time will tell,,,don't get married so soon!!! Wait until trust has been restored. Without trust,,,there can be no marriage, only misery and doubt.
2006-06-24 15:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn dude.. that sucks.. It's up to you what to do. You have known her for 6 years... can u ever trust her again? I found my x grinding on another guy and I couldnt ever let go of it and it ruined our relationship.. she didnt do anything like ur girl did.. but cheating is cheating.. I dont care if my girlfriend just flirts.. its all the same. Maybe you should cancel the wedding or at least put it off until you figure out what to do. My old friend got married and then he went out of the state for boot camp and she had been macking on a guy before they got married and after while he was gone. Come to find out, the other guy didnt even know she was married. Good luck to you .. later
2006-06-24 22:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lookinstr8over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's telling you that a guy is willing to spend a month messing with an engaged girl, and sex wasn't involved? B.S. She was cheating, she'll do it again. Dump her, cancel the wedding, and move on. No need to embarrass her, just tell everyone that it was a mutual agreement to break if off...and leave it at that.
You deserve better, find someone that agrees.
2006-06-24 22:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a huge favor even tho it seems you don't want to break it off. Trust is the #1 issue in a marriage so if you can't trust her before the big day then it probably will happen again. No one wants to start a marriage with misstrust. Bite the bullet and move on you'll thank yourself one day.
2006-06-24 22:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Big Daddy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, don't marry her. If she was totally devoted and wanted you as her partner for life, she would never have done that. She was tempted and fell into the trap, which says either she just wants to get married and hopes you will forgive her, or she thinks she can dupe you into marrying her and probably will cheat on you again.
Leave while you can.
2006-06-24 22:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her, have her promis not to do it any more, then trust her. Have her tested.
2006-06-24 21:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she was going to end it then leave her
2006-06-24 22:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by skysaphirre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she isn't ready, watch along came polly...back out while you can!
2006-06-24 21:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by wolf1230pack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋