My Sister Says My Husband Hit on Her.What Do I do?

Question

I havent visited my sister in 3 months because of my busy work schedule.I come to see her today and she tells me my husband of 5 years hit on her when I saw her last.She took him to the hospital, while I was at work.Here is a little background; My husband and I have been togather for 13 years.My husband and sister had a brother and sister relationship, he gave her her first job we all literally grew up togather anyways,She says he hit on her when she took him home and tried to make sure he was settled ok before she left.She said her came onto her strong and He said something to her I knew she wouldnt have known unless he told her.
This guy was my highschool sweetheart, we never had real problems before.Except for a huge break up in the late 90s.
I just know in my heart he is lying to me.And my sister has never done anything like this before to me or anybody, that would make me believe she is making this up.
what do I do?

Answer 1

What do you do? I think you're going to have to have a serious talk. Tell him he has violated your trust and you're not certain you will ever get it back.
Ask him if he wants your marriage to continue or if he wants to start dating as a single person again.
Don't believe him when he tells you it's her fault or that she is lying.....she is making you aware of what's going on behind your back, because she cares enough about you to not want you betrayed by someone you love.

If you and your husband want to work on your marriage, you will need the help of a mediator - Marriage Counselor. They aren't too expensive and many will work a payment arrangement for you. You will be surprised how insightful and helpful they can be.

Don't just let this go as if nothing happened because your husband will simply continue his behavior with other women.

Best of luck.

Answer 2

Well, first thank you sister for being straight with you. And I agree, he's not telling the truth. Have a straight talk with him and tell him you know he did it and if he ever tries it again, you sister will make sure that you know asap. Tell him this is inappropriate behavior with any other woman, but especially your sister. He should show you some respect. If he doesn't get the hint, hit him where it hurts. Let him sleep in another bedroom till he comes to his senses. If he doesn't or gets upset, tell him to take a hike. Men want you to care and they want to be reeled in. If you don't say anything, he'll think you don't care anyway and he can do what he wants. Don't let him jerk you around. Go Girl!

Answer 3

Tell him that your sister felt a little uncomfortable with the situation. Tell him that you told her that he was just joking with her and see if he will come clean. Then if he comes clean tell him you better not here of anything like that again with your sister or anyone else. Tell him he will find himself all alone and hiring an lawyer if this ever comes up again. Stop it now or it will get worse. I`ve seen my friend go threw this and his wife told him he would be on the street with his clothes if it ever happened again. He stopped!! Also he should apologize to her in front of you!!

Answer 4

ask your man why he did it.... Maybe he accidentally brushed against her or said something wrong by accident. Maybe your sister read the signs wrong. If he propositioned her in a sexual way then talk it over with him and ask him why he did what he did. Dont choose any man over your sister! If this was a one time thing maybe he was doped up on meds from the hospital and didnt know what he was saying (i'm not trying to make excuses) I'm trying to get you to look at things from everyones perspective. Give them both a chance and hear out their sides. And from now on- keep an eye on your man if you are suspicious of his activities.

Answer 5

Well if you know for a fact that he is lying even if it a little. Then I would have to believe anything he says is a lie. You may want to consider dumping him. I mean your sister. If he'll hit on her then there is NO doubt that he'll cheat the first chance he gets.

Answer 6

Your sister went out on a ledge for you. Chances are your man has done this to someone else. Counseling is in order. If that doesn't work then respect for yourself is #1. Put the boot to him if that doesn't work. Best wishes

Answer 7

My brother in law kept hitting on me when I was 13 years old finally he got the opportunity to rape me I told my sister and she told me it was my fault for hanging out with him all the time so take you sister's word on it and throe the bum out before he does something like this or w****'s around and gives you a diease

Answer 8

well you should believe your sister no doubt!!! maybe your husband of 13 years was just wondering if he still had it (if other women find him attractive) it might just be a mid-life thing. if he has never done anything like this i would put it behind you but first flirt with one of his guy friends in front of him and then ask him how it feels

Answer 9

Hope for the best. Ask her if there were any witnesses. Or believe his answer until you find out otherwise. Has he ever acted like he had a crush on your sistah or said dirty jokes or anything of that nature?

Answer 10

Sounds like he try-ed to have his way with your sister..That's pretty low...Let him know and ask him what he was thinking...You know he is going to tell you he done nothing wrong...I would not say very much about it direct...Just watch his actions if he would be bold enough to do that to your sister who knows what he does to others...Hopefully it was a one time deal..
Good luck hope it works out and all is well...