Why is abortion a woman's choice and not a mans choice too (gender equality??)?

Question

this isn't the case of rape or whatever you can think of...this is a woman found out she got pregnant by her boyfried, instead of telling him about it, she gets an abortion...what if the boyfriend wanted the baby...i know its a womans body...but it takes two to make the baby...why doesn't it take to two to decide for the abortion...i think it is a BIG lie that many woman groups claim its thier body its their choice...how did you get pregnant...not by yourself...so you should be responsible for the decision alone...if the woman decides to have the baby the man has to support it...the man never had a choice in the matter...where is the mans choice in abortion...please don't say when he decided to have sex...again it takes TWO...a woman can have a "choice" to have an abortion without telling the father...but the father cannot have a "choice" in it nor have a choice to not support it or not...where is gender equality...9 months of 900(75 yrs of life) months isn't a long time..

this is in law and ethics....is there any legal reason a man doesn't have a choice too...

Answer 1

Aah, A Mans Right To Choose.

You are quite right, there is an inequality there: for the woman: rights, for the man:responsibilities. Unfortunately the whole thing is muddied by many ethical difficulties, but it boils down to this: It is impossible to be fair to all parties in all cases. If you deny abortion when it is wanted by the mother and medically reasonable you violate her right to control her own body. If you allow it you deny the child's right to life.

In the end the father gets left by the wayside because the one carrying the baby and the one being carried are physically way more involved in the whole thing, and the fathers involvement is purely an emotional one. I don't mean to say that the father's opinion or feelings are unimportant - they are - but in the end, society rates the mother and child over him.

As for the whole support thing, it's a seperate (but related) issue entirely - it's just unfortunate that together they make a huge social injustice. The lesson to take away (although usually to late) is that good contraception and good communication with your chosen partner are of paramount importance, if you don't want to find yourself in this hideous situation

Answer 2

the reason that it's the woman's choice is to protect the woman. Otherwise, men would be able to say they wanted an abortion every time, and if the woman didn't want the abortion because of religious or other beliefs, then the man could claim no responsibility in the child since their vote was abortion. It definitely takes two to tango, but the fact is that men and women play very different roles from fetus to college.

With society the way it is, abortion has to be the woman's choice...and with that said, as a man, it sucks ***!

Answer 3

Real simple.

There is the point of impregnation, followed shortly by conception. During this part of the process, two people (or at least bits thereof) are generally required. So, both have a say in the process.

Then, for the remaining 9 months or so, the woman acts as incubator for embryo then fetus. During this time, she is providing nourishment and other bodily resources out of her body. Meanwhile, the sperm donor is (at best) watching and offering words of encouragement.

So, if he wants to stop offering words of encouragement, let him. What kind of medical procedure does that take? Nothing.

However, if the woman wants to stop providing bodily resources, that's a different situation. And just like the government shouldn't be allowed to compel you to donate blood or bone marrow or a kidney, the government shouldn't be able to compel a woman to provided the bodily resources necessary to nourish what's growing inside her. Especially if she didn't choose to get pregnant in the first place.

Once the baby is born, then again both parents are equally responsible. This is where child support kicks in, and both parents are on the hook.

Can you really not see the difference between paying money after the child is born, and being forced to have an embryo/fetus growing inside of your body?

Answer 4

It can be a man's choice, when and if there is a way to remove the growing cells from a woman's body into a mans, have him pay for it, make sure she does not feel any effects, and he chooses to house something growing inside of him and suffer any and all of the potential side effects, costs, emotional concerns, and so forth.

Until that's possible, sorry, don't blame the woman for the reproductive organs/possibilities that she did not choose to have.

It may take two to make a baby and conceive in a fraction of a second, but it does not take two to carry a baby to term. It is not a "big lie" - it's biology. If technology permits to transfer the growing cells into a male body one day, then hey, by all means wait for that day or commit yourself towards biological and reproductive equality. But that day is not here yet. Pregnancy isn't easy, and since it's not your body & mind that goes through that kind of commitment, it's not your choice.

Don't place blame or hate on a woman, but hate biology - or if you believe in a god, the way your god created reproduction.

Answer 5

you don't want that simple answer, that its her body...... then I tell you... Women statistically are usually the ones stuck with the baby...when a man "wants" a kid, he doesn't usually know what he is asking for... a Woman usually has more responsibility when it comes to having a baby, they are usually the ones stuck with it (single moms ring a bell?). Its womans choice...she has to go through the labor, hold the baby for nine months... Nine months IS a long time...the idea that it isn't a long time is your opinion.... would you like to have a belly that long? have to eat specific foods... go to the doctor twice a month...take vitamins...cramps...sickness...go through the mood swings, It could also be financial...she could be too young,....she might want to do more with her life...sure it takes two...but all the men do is plant the seed, the woman, is what provides after.. breast feeding..EtC etC!!! If you want a baby on your own i'm sure there is a service for that... but a woman, especially a woman, shouldn't have to go through the pain of pregnancy if she doesn't want to, why would you compromise her happiness if you really care about her? She has a reason so respect it... its not even about god, spirituality... whats wrong or right... what makes you happy is whats most important, you have to enjoy your life...

Answer 6

The woman is the one whose body and health are affected by the pregnancy for the nine months gestation, plus the recovery after birth, which also takes months. And a woman's body is NEVER the same after having given birth -- not only has the shape changed but the chemistry within the body changes.

Historically, men can get up and go whenever they please, before and after children are born. At least DNA testing has provided some means to hold some of them accountable. With very few exceptions in the world, it is the women who are raising the children.

Answer 7

You haven't been watching the news for a while have you? It's called the Scott Peterson procedure when a man orders the abortion. Seriously. This is the way of the world. Complaints should be directed at the creator. While we men can't get abortions, we can't get pregnant either. And we can have several buns in different ovens simultaneously, shouyld we be wily enough and choose to.

Answer 8

Actually, both the man and the woman make the decision to risk pregnancy when they have sex and both should take responsibility for that decision. That means that the mother carries the baby to term and the father is there to support her throughout the pregnancy. The two must then decide whether to keep the child (and care for that child) or give him or her up for adoption. The responsibility belongs to both parents.

If this has happened to you than I am sorry for your loss. Your girlfriend had no right to do that.

Answer 9

There is a lawsuit going on in Michigan about that right now. I do not know the exact particulars, but the guy said the girl told him she was on birth control and she wasn't so when she got pregnant he told her to get an abortion and she refused and now he is paying support for the kid. I do not know if this is exact but should be close enough to give you the idea.

Answer 10

Because a man doesn't have to carry the child and go through all of the difficulties for nine months and if you had any idea what women go through during that time, you wouldn't be asking the question. Just saying 9 months isn't a long time shows just how ignorant you are. You'd just be thanking whoever that you don't have to do it.