How do I know this man feels the sma econnection. He says so but action do not equal his words.
2006-06-24 13:51:24 · 15 answers · asked by solar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're married, but you're not dead. In other words, being married doesn't eliminate the ability to be attracted to other people. I think it's natural to feel confused, especially if marriage isn't what you expected. The new wears off rather quickly, doesn't it? It's up to you and your hubby to ''keep it real'' because passion tends to fade. If you don't maintain your passion for one another, you will grow bored (a.k.a. the ''comfort rut'') with eachother and will probably be tempted to step outside of your marital boundaries. There's nothing on the ''other side'' that you really want (remember what you hated about single life?)Chances are, you've forgotten about the pitfalls of being single. Marriage is a lot of work (but can also be great) and people have some crazy misconceptions about this kind of committment. For example, before getting married, I honestly believed that married people have sex all the time. I quickly discovered that I was wrong - and that a number of things can affect a couple's sex life. Work and stress are good mood killers, especially for men.
Should you pursue this other man, what will happen when the new wears off? Will you pursue somebody else in hopes that it will be different? Being with another man will only confuse you, and though you may not realize it, you will also find yourself torn between these two men (unsure about how you really feel). If you've lost the fire in your current relationship, it's probably because you and your husband haven't made an effort to keep that fire going.
If the other man is claiming, but isn't acting like he's into you, it's probably because of your marital status. With that in mind, he's probably very reluctant to get involved with a married woman.
2006-06-24 14:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Grace777 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Look up the song No Rhyme, No Reason by George Duke. If you can hear the song it is much better, if you can not just read the lyrics. You will see this is something that isn't a new topic at all. I think the best thing for you to do is evalutate your situation weigh the pros and cons and if you want to be with someone else be honest and let your spouse know so that they can move on with their lives. Just know that it has always been said and is usually true that the grass always looks greener on the other side. Don't do anything that will leave you out in the rain on wet, messy, and useless grass.
2006-06-24 20:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it normal to be married and feel a strong connection to someone else? Sure it is. You have to keep yourself out of situations like this one. Stay away from him....Think seriously what the outcome will be. You will probably loose your husband, your memories with him, and all of the things you have accumulated together. Work on a loving companionship with him not the other guy who is probably just wanting another notch on his belt. You probably need counseling. I would guess that you are in your 20's or 30's. Sure when someone else notices you it is flattering. But, there will be a huge price to pay. I have seen this happen so many times. It's not unique.
2006-06-24 21:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married or not we can feel attraction to other people for various reasons. The fact that you are married puts limitations on how far you allow the attraction to go. If you are feeling attracted to a man that is not your husband a red flag needs to go up to you. It doesn't matter what the other man feels. It matters what you are allowing yourself to feel. Emotional adultery happens before the physical act. It is slow and subtle. Don't entertain feelings that cannot enhance your relationship with your husband. You will be treading on very thin ice.
2006-06-24 22:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for a woman to be attracted to a man; that doesn't change when she gets married.
What marriage brings to the situation is the promise that the person will stay faithful to her spouse and not act on her feelings for another man or woman. This may involve avoiding someone for whom she feels a strong attraction.
Good luck to you. Marriage is not an easy commitment to live up to.
2006-06-24 20:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by LC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a minute If you are married then opposites attract meaning look but not touch because when you said I do you gave up all rights to even think about having another man ! Bond with your husband or you will have bigger problems!
2006-06-24 20:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Total normal, women feel connections with other men because, somethings your partner doesn't do or say another may do... This is where your love for your partner is tested. To real or not.
2006-06-24 20:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by jameelah.whitfield@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal but its definitely not right!! it seems your attention is misplaced, it should be to your husband no matter how goodlooking the other man is. if he knows that you are married he is either a home wrecker or he definitely knows that there are no strings in that 'connection'.and is gonna get it good!!!what kind of a connection are we talking about here?stick to your man for better or for worse!!!!
2006-06-24 21:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful of playing with fire. Are you looking for sex outside marriage? Are you prepared to sacrifice your marriage? Would you be willing to tell husband about other man?
2006-06-24 20:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as long as you know you love the person your married to then theres nothing to worry bout...no wait im lying just control yourself
2006-06-24 20:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋