I dont know what to do anymore, I just found out that the girl who i love so much and would do anything for is probably cheating on me. She is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with and we only been married 2 weeks. She doesnt call me anymore, i hardly see her but i love her soo much. Im also struggling fianancially, im so far in debt and just cant seem to catch a break. It seems like the whole world is against me?? I love this girl and she says she loves me to but she never shows it.. I dont know what to do, been thinking that maybe suicide is the only way out of this stress and pain.
2006-06-24 13:50:49 · 21 answers · asked by Boston 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been in one bad relationship after another, i seem to fall for the wrong ones. i dont know if i can go on trusting any one anymore.
2006-06-24 14:07:15 · update #1
I totally understand. I don't know if the whole world's against you. All I can say is that I am not against you; and probably many of the other answers aren't either.
You've got two situations, maybe one's causing the other, maybe not, I don't know.
But, catch a breath. Start taking walks outside, looking at stuff to clear your head. That will help you make decisions alot better.
You're going to have to get to the bottom of this mystery. I'd advise asking her, "Are you happy married to me?" Don't take a superficial, brushoff answer. If she seems to be lying, stay cool and say something like, "You don't seem so." or "I'm having a little trouble believing that." Stay cool - works better.
Ask her to tell you the truth. What can I say, either you trust her or you don't. If you don't trust her, man you're going to have to say so, and EXACTLY why. You can't just say, "I don't trust you." That's not enough. You've gotta state exactly what anyone said or did to lead you to that conclusion.
Basically, you've got to get it all "laid out on the table". No more secrets!
Doing that just might present a solution.
As for money, well just think of all of the bigger problems in the world.
2006-06-24 14:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by John C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me get this, you've been married to this girl for 2wks? And you say she doesn't call you anymore... Well where da heck is she living, I thought she's suppose to be with you, not at someother place.
If this is how it was in the beginning why on earth did you marry her, were you looking for a heartbreak.
You need to confront her and tell her of what you know and if she doesn't admit it than I guess the trust between you and her is over and you should divorce her.
If she doesn't want to stop playing cheater, and doesn't get home and play wife like she's suppose to, than why waste your time on her. There's plenty of girls to pick from the RIGHT one will come along and believe me you'll feel much better and happier.
You don't need this crap, Marriage is suppose to be wonderful. You seem like a very nice Guy you derserve Better!!
And Sucide IS CRAZY talk, your worth more than that, so stop the nonsense talk, she wouldn't care even if you did that, that's just a lame and poor excuse to keep someone together with you.
2006-06-24 20:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all suicide is never an answer to things like this. i would suggest you to call her and talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. because if she doesn't know how you feel then she cant change to help you.and as far as the cheating part,you should really find out before you just accuse. maybe she doesn't have enough time during the day to call you.if she has a job then she may be tied up.my suggestion as far as getting to see each other more often is set up times every so often that you meet somewhere,that may help with the not being able to see each other.
2006-06-24 20:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, think about this for a minute. why, would you ever give one person that much control over you or your emotions. and where are you that you don't see your wife? look, suicide is never a good answer. and a broken heart is never a good reason. you need to think about some other ways to deal. maybe if you start by volunteering at a crisis center or something with people who really have it worse off than you, you'd realize that your life may not be so bad. also i would suggest getting some help if you think suicide is the answer.
2006-06-24 20:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by 3viee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is never the way out. No one should have that much power over your life to want to give it up for them when they care less about you. I think you'd better reevaluate your relationship and your love and there is a stake in it somewhere. Pulling it out and mocving on is the best thing for you. And what about your family and people who really love you? Can you even begin to imagine what pain you'd cause them for the rest of their lives. You need help baby. Phone a youth help line, talk to a local priest, have a chat with your parents or a good friend. Talk to someone, anyone who cares, I care about your life and I don't even know you. Good luck hun. Forget her, she's not worth taking your life.
2006-06-24 20:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only married for two weeks??? and you never had a hint of any of this BS before you were married??? you need to go talk to some one-try a pastor or a mental health clinic- leaving this world is not the answer and a cowards way of handing problems. Good Luck!
2006-06-24 20:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by SASSY PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, you need to move on. Suicide is not the way to go, ever. I'm not sure of your religion, but I'd say talk to your religious preacher. Hang out with some friends and get your mind off of her and the situation. You might even find a new girlfriend in the process.
If you are a Christian, go here:
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-dml/dml-y038.html
2006-06-24 20:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Find her and talk to her. Only communication and asking her to be completely honest with you no matter what is going to work, because you need those answers from her.
Suicide is not the answer...if you feel yourself going that way please call this number... 1 - 800 - 723 - TALK
I don't know if you are religious, but remember God will never give you more than you can handle. Everything will work out the way it is meant to work out. Stay strong...I know you can.
2006-06-24 20:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by lord777ak13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make urself in trouble, for u love the wrong person. Mutually in love is gud, not one way. B4 u suicide, better seek for counsellor to help ur problem. Maybe they can give u advice & can inspire u something gud to do man! Life is not only focus on one person. Regarding financialy, i think u may declare bankrupt if necessary.
2006-06-24 21:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mono 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont u dare kill yourself over a girl i know love hurts but in time u will heal if she is cheating on u its better that u found out now than later on down the road its best that u let her go if she is running around on u you just have to keep yourself busy so that u wont have to think so much of her put all your time and attention into yourself to better things for u no one is against u we all have our ups and downs in life but we always come threw it always remember god doesnt give us nothing we cant handle as for trying to get out of debt speak ti a financial counselor that can help u figure something out or if u have credit cardscancel them only use one and sit down at your table gathe rall your bills and figure out a monthly budget for yourself and may be than u can save and get out of debt good luck
2006-06-24 21:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋