Don't get me wrong this doesn't happen to me all the time.
I constantly find myself visiting others cause i'm lonely, or talking to them and giving my experience, loving someone so that I can be loved. I feel that I use people sometimes and I don't like that feeling. It makes me feel like a horrible person. Can anyone understand this? Any advice on how I can change these thoughts in my life?
2006-06-24 13:48:35 · 8 answers · asked by lord777ak13 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I guess I seek out a lot of attention. I get sad when the focus is not on me many times. I find myself constantly needing positive feedback. Maybe I am just not happy with myself and I have to work on that. If I knew how.
2006-06-24 14:02:54 · update #1
That is a fine quality, to want to be with others and help them by sharing yourself.
My wife and I have had lots of experience in this area because we are retired missionaries of the Christian and Missionary Alliance, having served in Mali, West Africa, for nearly 43 years. Our lives have been spent helping others, especially letting them know how they can be free of fear. By sharing our experience of knowing Christ, others are at peace. It is not using people just because you want to share your experiences with them. That is good!
If you want any further advice from me, please feel free to reply to my address: watchmenoftheking@msn.com
2006-06-24 13:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by watchmanwarrior 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are visiting someone because you are lonely and you make the other person feel good .What is wrong with that? You're doing something that benefits both of you. You don't have to feel that visiting is a chore in order to be doing a good thing. There is nothing wrong in doing something that benefits both of you. I think you are being too hard on yourself!
2006-06-24 13:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds normal to me. Often, in helping others, we help ourselves. So, it's a win win situation for both parties. Now, if you're having sex with people under false pretenses, or starting relationships only because you're lonely, that's another story. That, I would consider "using" somebody. If you're that lonely, and that conflicted about your interpersonal relationships, maybe you need to talk to a professional.
2006-06-24 13:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by i'mjustsayin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about being human.......with as many answer you have already and are yet to come - I would say that you are getting the attention needed.....lol
2006-06-24 14:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by Grandfather Oak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously need what you seek, so I see no problem
but being lonely and not loving yourself isn't something that can't change...
learn the value of your own company, and meditate
2006-06-24 13:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by unseen_force_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal, and that's why everyone in this world talks to other people. Everything is two sided.
2006-06-24 13:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we all have a natural tendency to do that. It doesn't make you a bad person.
2006-06-24 13:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by berkeleygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it .
What did you do, that you feel guilty about?
2006-06-24 13:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋