What is the best advice you could give a woman approaching 21 who is lost and seems to have no goal in life? Is there things you think you should have done or not have done? Any troubles that you got over
2006-06-24 13:43:40 · 9 answers · asked by janeysmithster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm 55 and had the same feelings as you. I had no goal. Since I had no goal i became pregnant at 17, had my 1st baby at 17 and my next one at 19. It didn't matter if I became pregnant at a early age cause I had nothing better to do back then. Today, there is so much to offer for women compared to my life. DON'T get married until you have done everything you want to in life. A goal for you might not be in your mind now but, it will come. You'll come across something in life that interests you and you'll look into it more. Since kids were all my life, my kids are in their 30's now and can do without me. I feel VERY lost and alone even when I'm with other people. I miss my kids dearly when they were little. My husband and I have not one thing in common besides the kids. I sit here every night alone crocheting and answering peoples questions. I have no friends cause financially I never had to work. I did quit school but at the age of 39 went and got my GED. Please, wait and see what life has to offer before making any stupid mistakes. Don't be upset, you only started living, your goal in life will come to you in a way you won't expect. Be patient. You can write to me anytime. Mt e-mail is ralisa49@yahoo
2006-06-24 13:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Corina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not living your life, then you are either dead or dying. 21 is so young. Don't stressed over it, and stop worrying. You still have a lot ahead of you. Just don't let yourself get taken advantage of and live your life the right way and you will be fine. Since you are young, plan your future finances. Read David Bach's "Automatic Millionaire", a very easy read book that every young people should read to plan their financial future. It doesn't nag, or force you to do things you don't want to do. Just plain common sense. For relationships, it's up to you. You make your own bed, sleep in it, and will be getting off that bed you made. Many just jump in bed and don't realize they are alone but stuck with a baby. I'm sure you know what that means.
2006-06-24 21:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by xrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am older than 21 but still a long time to go till my ovaries need crutches :-).
Don't worry.......everybody I know/knew has had similar "desert times" as I call it in their lives.....younger or older.
It seems that you are going through a bit of a crisis alright.....and you might need to understand yourself and know yourself a bit better ?? Just an idea.......I do not want to sound patronising.
It is just very difficult to give advice to somebody you just do not know but be sure that you certainly are not alone.
I went through the same a few times.....and well...got out of the rut.
Just please try to understand yourself first and not lead your life pleasing other people or do "what is expected"..Easy to say , not always that easy to do...but well worth it if you try. But then it depends on individuals also.
It is a complicated question which requires a very in-depth answer - or better different perspectives -.
We are strangers here.......we can only give you words of comfort....but we do not know you; please do not take this badly....it is just too difficult to try to say things to somebody you just do not know.
2006-06-24 22:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a very different experience in life. You say you feel lost...have you ever considered religion? I am not at all religious myself but I know many people who find their meaning in this world by finding God. If that's not your cup of tea then maybe try going to college. It is more than a great life experience and teaches you much more than who you want to be. Best wishes
2006-06-24 20:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not older but mature for my age... My advice for you to give this woman would probably be first consider what her psychological state is--if she isn't going through hardships in her life, then I think you should tell her that you are worried about her future and want her to be happy in life, and you think she should set some goals for herself in order to better her situation... I would encourage her to go to school--get a degree, it is the best start for anyone's career... Persue her education but also persue her interests and her life's calling...Whether it is acting, painting, helping people, singing, etc... encourage her to persue her talents.
2006-06-24 20:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by WoWChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are still young and have time to think your life over and set your goals,so don't worry about it too much!
2006-06-24 20:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by telis_gr1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG -- get that education, have fun but be safe and smart.
Your life as an adult is just starting (Plan for your future) but live.
Don't get caught up in Love/Hate relationships.........and DON'T let someone control you.............
Stay close to family, even if you move away and LOVE YOURSELF!!!!
2006-06-24 20:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE WILL ALWAYS REMAIN IN YOUR HEART WELL AFTER A RELATIOSHIP.
YOU ARE VALUABLE AND IMPORTANT
LOVE WITH YUR HEART, SEE WITH ALL THE REST OF YOUR SENSES.
2006-06-24 20:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by lovinit123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP, WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD, LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.
2006-06-24 20:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Twinkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋