I recently moved out of my parents house and am living with my boyfriend. we have a good relationship. The this is that my family always has a lot to deal with and the depend on me a lot, which is one of the reasons I moved out, I need some space and I needed to establish my life. things have not changed much only the distance, I work and go to school and am home aroud ten at nights and the I get a call and the stress begins. i love my family but I just need a way to balance everything because I am always so stressed and moodie and worried that this may afect my relationship. any advice?
2006-06-24 13:40:37 · 11 answers · asked by Maxx B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
try to strike a balance. your family loves you.
mine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.
but, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
2006-06-24 13:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im doing my a/level too exams soon only three mind you are not taking enough breaks at all, make a list of what you need to revise and revise them, do a few topics a day work out a revision timetable if it helps based on what is your first exam take a day off revision or if not a day just set aside about half an hour or so i have 3 subjects for a level and 5 exams this is what im doing: ive got a list of everything i need to know for my exam and im ticking it off as I go along (you can get this off msot exam board websites) i only do at most two hours revision a day a bit in the morning and evening, since youre getting stressed in the evening just do a bit, half an hour sessions thats all you need really. i do half hour sessions and go over the stuff i revised the day before. if youre having problems relaxing you can try breathing exercises and you can go to you're local health shop like holland and barrett or beanfreaks and get a bach rescue remedy or ask the shop assistant for something for exam stress i hope this helps, i know it doesn't help to say be calm and don't stress. good luck with you're exams, take plenty of breaks you don't have to or need to revise 24/7 and make sure you have plenty of sleep the night before you're exams. And after you're exams go buy yourself a huge bar ofcohcolate or something cos you deserve it after all that revision you've be doing lately woah:)
2016-03-15 20:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make time for yourself and weigh out the logical responsibilities that you can be a apart of. You are not suppose to be a superman or a hero. You life is important. Show that you love your family and you b/f, but respect yourself and know your limits. Talk to your family about your concerns and see what they say. Don't let selfish people make you miserable, but know that helping others is a good thing if it does not impose to much on your well-being. Going to counseling will help you overcome your stress and maybe even you guilt. I suggest that b/c that will be a nice time for you to vent your true feelings without being judged and it will help you see what you should do.
2006-06-24 13:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are feeling that way, you should be stress free but again,,, who is? you could have a serious talk with your family and work out a routine to match your time. you are now out and you should not now put your life on hold, but should still keep in touch. r u planning to get married? u should be sure of the relationship, if there is uncertainty u will not be making comfortable plans. all the best
2006-06-24 13:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by baldeagle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to make a scedule. like you can help your family set up a rution that way they don't bug you as much and then the schedule whill help you so you know that you don't have to worry about as much thing's because you'll know that you have a time to get that done. This helps my mom with a lot of her stress problems
2006-06-24 13:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your family depend on you for anything. They should be old enough to take care of things on their own. You should let them know how you feel. Be honest with them. If you keep doing things for them you are just enabling them and they will continue to look to you for things instead of doing it on their own......maybe you should try to find a book or something on co-dependancy cause that sounds like what you are going through
2006-06-24 13:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by NessaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breath in Breath out
The Grass is Green
The Sky is Blue
Breath in Breath out
It's all good!
just say that to yourself
2006-06-24 13:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out (http://www.reducingstress.net ) there is a lot of great articles and expert advice on the subject there.
2006-06-26 06:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have told him that we can watch the videos and look at the magazine together he knows how i feel about and i am open about it but he is still being kinda sneaky and when he does that makes my self asteem go done for one because i have small boobs
2006-06-24 15:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by sherry m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about you dont pick up all the time, when you dont feel like dealing then let the machine get it.you have a right to be happy, even if they dont want to be
2006-06-24 13:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋