My 3 month old daughter cries a lot and I don't know why?

Question

It used to be in the evenings. Not always, but every other day or so. Now, for a couple of days, she has been crying a lot during the day. I don't know why. We just moved from Dallas to Houston. In Dallas we used to live with my mom and dad. Maybe she's unfamiliar with this environment? Or gets tired of seeing the same person over and over again? Or it might just be her belly is aching. I don't know. Anyone go through the same thing? I had a lot of help from my husband with her, but starting Monday, he'll be working 80 plus hours a week, so no help there. I get really frustrated easily and I'm a little nervous about handling her by myself.

Answer 1

Sounds like your little one has colic. Please, please, please if you feel overwhelmed by caring for your baby, call a friend, or your mother or husband for help. Call the local children and family services for help. Parenting can be overwhelming.
A girl in a nearby town just killed her infant by suffocating it because she was overwhelmed with motherhood and the baby cried a lot. She was a new young mother.
Even if the little thing is crying, walk outside and take a break. Ask someone to stay with her while you take a break. Make sure you arrange time away from your baby. Babies bond with their mothers and they don't get tired of seeing you. It is a comfort for your baby to make eye contact with you and be held even when she is crying.
I know you love your baby, but I feel compelled to tell you do not get frustrated, shake or hit your baby. I know you must be a good mother or you would not have put your questions on the internet. Get help first.

Answer 2

She could be cutting teeth. Try giving her a cool toy to chew on. Maybe she's just used to more attention, maybe missing something you parents did for her: some routine they had. Maybe the temperature change? Maybe she's tired from the move. Could be a tummy ache, have you tried mylicon or some type of gas drops? If you can't comfort her, take her to the doctor if you have real concerns. He may just say, you're just overreacting, but at least you will know that nothing is wrong. Try a warm bath with the lavender (or is chamomile? the night time bath soap) scented baby soap, sometimes it does have a calming effect. My daughter liked to be placed in her carseat and set on the washing machine during the spin cycle (but if you do this you should NEVER NEVER NEVER leave her unattended, she fall right off)

If she's clean, fed, and seems okay, she's probably fine. If you get to a point that you can't stand to hear her cry, it's okay to put her in the crib (or somewhere where you can assure her safety) and walk away for a few minutes, where you can't hear her. Calm down, get a cool drink, take a few breaths and go back and try again. Hope it helps.

Answer 3

Do you think she could be suffering from colic? Does she draw her knees up, high pitched squeal, passes wind a lot? You can buy over the counter remedies that can be given before a feed or milk especially designed for colicky babies. She maybe is picking up on your stress, babies are very sensitive to peoples emotions and can be unsettled by it
I doubt she is sick of seeing the same person, when you feel yourself getting frustrated take her for a walk in her pram/pushchair, this settles most babies and the exercise will make you feel better too. Dont struggle on your own, take all the help offered to you, you need to take care after yourself as well. Why dont you see if there are any mother and baby groups nearby? Other mums are a great source of advice and tips! and it will be a good to meet new people in the area.Dont hesitate to contact your doctor or nurse if you are concerned.

Answer 4

Wow, sounds you have a lot coming on you at once. Babies are very sensitive to change. Your daughter could be reacting to you and your emotional changes with regard to your new situation plus all the changes in her life. There's a lot to get adjusted to. Or it could be as others have suggested, colic. I would suggest that you talk with her Dr. and hear what s/he has to say, too. Talk honestly about how things were and how tings are now and what changes have taken place within the family. The Dr. might have some suggestions on what you could try if it's not colic. In the meantime, just keep telling your little one that you love her and that you wish you could make things better for her. Even if she can't literally understand you she'll be able to feel it.

Answer 5

I had the same problem with my son. Now there is some over-the-counter medicine you can get for colic - you give it to the baby orally. Unfortunately it was either unavailable or I just didn't know about it.

My son used to cry and cry and in the middle of the night when I had done everything I could think of to comfort him, sometimes I'd cry too.

There was one thing that seemed to help: I would walk around the house, showing him things and telling him what they were called. He almost always showed an interest.

Answer 6

Is she gassy? If she's balling up, she has a tummy ache - probably from gas. Call the pediatrician about switching to a soy formula. I went from having a newborn who cried constantly to having the baby everyone says "I've never seen such a happy baby" about.

Also! If you're nervous, she is, too! Relax and try to enjoy her.

Please remember, it's better to leave her in her crib crying with the door shut than to lose your control & shake her. Walk outside briefly if you have to. Please don't get frustrated & accidentally hurt her.

Do you know anyone in Houston who could give you a break a couple hours each day? Please try to get out to the park or something with the baby so you don't get frustrated.

Answer 7

It could be the move or she could be reacting from your stress. Also, her schedule and routines have probably been turned upside down during the move.. Kudos to your husband for being a good dad and helping out. She will probably stop it as quickly as she started. In the meantime, try to find some help somewhere. It is very stressful to care for a crying child. I am praying for you. Good luck.

Answer 8

It's ok, take it easy and remember to breathe. It's ok to let them cry sometimes. I know I let my daughter cry sometimes when I didn't know what else to do. I am a single mom and have no one and no help. Chances are that if you lived with your mom and dad she's used to having all her little wishes answered even before she gets a chance to voice them. It's ok. If you are concerned that's it's her tummy call her doctor. Some times I would put on some music and after a while my daughter would calm down.

Answer 9

My son use to cry all the time, and I too would get frustrated. I couldn't wait till my husband got home just to get a break from the crying. I love my son dearly, don't get me wrong, but the constant crying is hard to deal with. I brought him to the doctor, and they tested him for reflux, and he had it. We started giving him Zantac, and within 2 weeks, the crying subsided.

So you might want to bring her to the doctor, just to check it out. I wish you luck, and stay calm.

Answer 10

Honestly it could be alot of diffrent things. My baby had a stage where he cried alot when he ws 2 months old. It turned out he was full of gas. Bought gas drops and he has been a happy baby ever since. It could be the new surrondings, maybe she's hungary does she eat good?