i love this guy for so long yet i never said anything to him but i was sure he knew, but we never talked about it...
now he has his girlfriend and he loves her, but i'm still his best friend!!!!
we talked last night online and i found myself telling him about my feelings... i know i was wrong... he told me he knew but was doubting for long.. and started telling me not to worry and that i'll find someone better...
i'm just scared to lose him, i mean being his friend still give me the chance to see him and know his news...
am i himulating myself???
what to do to get over him?
should i watch our friendship fall apart? or just swallow my pain and shut the hell up?
2006-06-24 13:20:22 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is trying to let you down easy. The fact is he liked the idea that you were in love with him, but he doesn't love you. It is an ego boost for him to keep you around. Why torture yourself? Be a casual friend (no phone calls, no swooning over him) let him see you having fun and enjoying yourself without him.
2006-06-24 13:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok He's basically tell'n U that he's still gonna B U'r friend, soo U'r not gonna lose his friendship no worry's on that. F U want a guy near U the time will come. time will fix U up on a guy so another now worry's! ^_^ All U got 2 do S think Hakuna Matata. F U didn't watched the lion king it means no worries. I go by my word. no worries ^_^. I can B a friend 2 help heal U'r pain about him? I won't let U 4get him cuzz he's a good friend, based on what U'r say'n N this Q. Friends S a good way 2 talk U'r heart out. I will B more than happy 2 lend my eye's 2 U'r IM. ^_^
2006-06-24 20:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for this guy, but I was in almost the exact situation. My best friend liked me, and I kinda' knew but I tried not to think about it. We were very best friends, no one, and I mean no one could come between our friendship. I was involved with someone else yet we kept our friendship alive, I knew I always wanted her by my side, no matter what. As time went by, my girlfriend and I parted ways, and so did the next few girlfriends. Till one day I really took notice as to who was always there for me and by my side. She was the one I always turned to and I knew I had been hiding my feelings from myself for all those years. I am not going to tell you how my story ends or begins, that is my story, my life, you must make your own choices. Telling someone how you feel honestly, really is better. You know where you stand, you know your options, and part of growing is being able to decide for yourself. Trust me, life isn't any easier the older you get. But still, there is hope for those romantics.
2006-06-25 21:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by yenkoman1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you said you were still best friends so why should that change! I too loved my best friend but never did tell her, and she got a boy friend I was sorry I never told her sooner but that was my loos! but I got over it! In fact I'm still best friends with her and her family after 25 years! If you really care for this guy you still can be friends!! Just because you were honest about you feelings that should not change a thing!! My advice is just try to get over the fact he has a girlfriend and Just be his friend! Friends are really important! and If things don't work out maybe you can then try!! but by all means don't let the friendship go!! it will hurt you twice as much you don't need that much pain< Just be happy for him and make sure you tell him so too! he will appreciate you more for doing so!! you will get over this in time!!
TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS!!! good luck! need anymore advice e-mail me Thanks I hope I helped!!!
2006-06-24 20:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really his best friend and if you really love him than you should want him to be happy. If he's happy with the girl he's with now then you should tell him that you're happy for him and that you will always be there for him as a friend. How to get over him... I would go out and start dating. Once you find someone you'll get over him and will be able to be his friend without any awkwardness between the two of you. Also, get to know his girlfriend. You might actually like her and then you guys can all hang out together instead of him picking her over you.
2006-06-24 20:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...hmm...this is tough....you dont want to loose him yet you still love him... If the girl that he loves loves him back then i am sorry sweetheart but i dont think that there is much that you can do...i had to go through this exact same thing with a girl that i really loved...and i have to say that it really does suck... so as one who knows what you are going through... I am sorry... the only advice i can give you it to tell him... "I am sorry for what i said...but i needed to be said...i would at least like to stay friends..." That should work... he'll understand and accept it....okay? Keep your chin up!!! there will be a guy that loves you and you will love him!!! it'll happen soon! i swear!!! if you have more questions or want more support or advice email me at HelionPrime1000@yahoo.com
2006-06-24 20:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Helion R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, i'm so sorry that this happened. I know its hard, but dont wait around for him. Go out with friends, go on group dates, have fun. If you still feel this way about him when (and if) he and his new girlfriend break up, tell him. Give him a second chance, dont take it personally, just move on. Its the best thing. Hope this helped.
Good Luck!
2006-06-24 20:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel u have to suck it up and move on and don't make the same mistake and always remember loves are now and then, but friendship is 4 ever. So you 2 will always will be friends.
2006-06-24 20:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have already done the best thing towards healing you told him how you feel now all you can do is be his friend.... trust me i know i'm going through the same thing be there for him as a friend then if something should happen between him and his girlfriend who knows maybe he'll run back to you if not there is always someone else out there.
2006-06-24 20:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by lkng4lv14892@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're "himulating" yourself with your piss-poor spelling. Is copying and pasting your post into a word processor and performing a spell check __that__ arduous a task for you?
To answer your question, why don't you find other friends?
2006-06-24 20:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by Avatar1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋